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Facebook = Fitna, a vent

Facebook, social network

Dangers of social networks.

My mind irks as I read about this facebook. This is not a question. I want to share my thoughts and the things which I underwent.  if this up being odd, I request admin to delete this post.

1) A guy or a girl who loves never sends messages which is not right according to islam.

2) One who loves first speaks to his/her family, despite chatting or speaking to you.

3) One who loves doesn't ask him/her for their pictures. Actually as per my knowledge about islam, taking photos of living things is prohibited in islam.

4) Video calling to non-mehram is wrong.

5) Don't expose yourself. Islam doesn't believe in love marriage but love after marriage.

6) Suicide is banned. Many people think that suicide is end for all pains, but he/she has to suffer the pain in hereafter life.

7) Don't displease Allah in order to please him/her. Please Allah, it's the way to happiness in hereafter life.

“Verily! Allah, the Most High, loves His permissions to be practiced just as He dislikes the disobedience to Him to be committed.” [Ahmed, Sahih al-Jamie’ no. 1886]

“Verily! Allah loves the high conducts and characters, and hates low manners.” [Ahmed, Sahih al-Jamie’ no. 1889]

‘A’ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) narrated: I heard the Messenger of Allah  saying,

'If anyone seeks Allah's satisfaction at the expense of people's anger, Allah will be pleased with him and will cause people to be pleased with him. However, if anyone seeks people's satisfaction at the expense of Allah's anger, Allah will be angry with him and will cause people to be angry with him.’

General Meaning of the Hadith
In this hadith, the Prophet  shows the way by which one may attain the satisfaction of Allah and people as well as the way by which one may incur the dissatisfaction of Allah and people. Allah always decrees what is good for His creation, and people definitely gain this good, sooner or later.

However, the demands and desires of people may contradict what Allah has ordained for their instant or late benefit, for they do not know the consequences of their deeds and are influenced only by worldly factors.

Hereby, the stance of the true believers becomes distinct from that of the ones whose belief is shaky; a true believer gives priority to Allah's satisfaction over that of people, and thus persists in acting upon Allah's Law not fearing the blame of a critic.

As a result of such a believer's keenness on pleasing Allah, Allah constantly grants him victory over his opponents, as He, Exalted be He says:

...And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out'

(Qur'an: At-Talaq: 2)
However a Muslim of shaky belief prefers seeking the satisfaction of people to seeking that of Allah, and thus seeks fulfilling people's desires even if they are contrary to Allah's directives. In fact, such a person fears people more than he fears Allah. Since this is his objective which motivates his actions, he will be given the contrary of what he willed. Therefore, those who praise him will turn to dispraise him, and those people will avail him nothing before Allah. Hence, that person harms himself and those whom he wants to benefit through disobeying Allah.

Lessons Drawn from the Hadith
It is obligatory to fear Allah and make His satisfaction prior to that of creatures.
The hadith demonstrates the punishment inflicted on whoever prefers people's satisfaction to Allah's satisfaction.
Relying on Allah and trusting Him are obligatory.
The hadith demonstrates the pleasant results of giving preference to Allah's satisfaction, and the bad consequences of giving preference to people's satisfaction.
The servants' hearts are absolutely controlled by Allah.

 

May Allah guide us All to his right and straight path of Deen. Ameen.
Regards, for the sake of Allah, pleasing Allah
-Abiya
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  1. TO MUSLIM BY CHOICE !
    DEAR CONCERN GOOD TO SEE YOUR FAITHFUL CONCERN ON THIS SUBJECT ! NOW THE QUESTION IS HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS FITNA ? IF WE STOP OUR CHIDRENS AND FRIENDS TELLING ALL THE INFORMATION ABOUT HARAAM AND PUNISHMENTS , DO YOU THINK THEY WILL STOP DOING IT ?? TEL ME VERY FAIRLY BECAUSE , IF WE DONT TELL TRUTH WE CAN NOT HAVE THE RIGHT SOLUTION , LEAVING THIS QUESTION WITH YOU , IF YOU COME BACK WITH THE ANSWER I AM HOPEFUL FROM ALLAH THAT HE IS GOING TO HELP US INSHA'ALLAH, INSHA'ALLAH WE WILL FIND THE BETTER SOLUTION I REMAIN

    • As-salamu alaykum Riaz. A couple of points regarding your comment and other comments that you posted:

      1. Please do not write in all caps.
      2. Do not give out your private contact info or Facebook ID.
      3. While I appreciate your suggestions, it's not our function here to arrange marriages or contact people outside this forum. We are an online question-and-answer service only.
      4. Please be sure when you offer a religious remedy that it is based in Quran and Sunnah. We do not want to introduce or perpetuate any bid'ah practices.

      Jazak Allah khayr and thank you for your participation.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. Assalamu Alaikum,

    your cry hit home. It is absolutely sad to see what some people do with Facebook. It is a tool and it is up to us to use it in a good way or a bad way. I personally do not think it is haram to have a facebook account, even though, I made the choice to delete my account. I hope our fellow brothers and sisters use it to bring goodness and blessings in our society and not spread wickedness and wreck the homes of one another.

    I will share my true story to illustrate the consequences of misusing facebook. Warning!!!! What you are about to read is a true story. My own true story. Allah is my witness. One particular Nigerian desperate muslim woman started befriending my husband, 2 years ago. She did not give up until he accepted her request. Little by little, the facebook friend became a virtual confident and lover. Of course, because I did not accept the insanity I was accused of being jealous and unwilling to submit to the will of Allah that says to men "marry mathna, wa thoulath, wa ruba'. I prayed sincerely for my agony to end. Yes, I cried a lot. I hurt a lot while that woman and the father of my kids were/are enjoying themselves. To keep my sanity and be able to take care of my kids, I was compelled to ask for a divorce.I do not regret it but I hope on judgment day that woman will have a good answer to Allah because I believe she bullied me.

    Warning you, be aware of the scams. This particular woman she is into big stuff like dawah and islam and spreading the truth.

    May Allah protect us.

    Hope

    • Aslaam

      Sister I am sorry for your misfortune and may Allah give you help but when you said "I believe she bullied me" - sister to me you did not get bullied. Your husband did a stupid thing by getting close to another woman but believe me - this isn't bullying. If this is bullying to you then you have no idea what bullying really is - trust me when I say that.

  3. Salaams,

    Facebook, like many things we have in our modern world, can be used for good or for evil. It all depends on the intentions of the user. There are many people who go on Facebook and keep in touch with relatives and friends who live miles away. They subscribe to pages that talk about Islam or other uplifting things. They don't scour the Facebook search engine looking for someone to get romantic with, and if they get any type of innapropriate contacts from someone else (whether it's someone they know or a stranger), they delete them or even block the person if necessary. To me, that is the proper use of Facebook.

    If someone goes on Facebook to talk to other romantically when they shouldn't, or to engage in haraam activities, they are doing it from a corrupt heart. Even if they didn't have access to Facebook to do these things, their intentions and motivations would inspire them to find another means to carry out their fitna. People have been doing inappropriate things, and engaging non-mahrem in wrong ways, way before Facebook even existed.

    The truth is, people with taqwa will approach Facebook with taqwa, even if their fiance is their "friend" on there. People who are heedless will be heedless in any environment. In the end, it's ultimately every individual's choice to engage in things (especially online) as their conscience dictates.

    -Amy
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  4. Wa aleikom assalam.

    I do agree that Facebook is fitna, because this tool did affect negatively to many married couples, including me...
    But as others say, there is a way to use it positively, not just bad.
    For example I own muslima fashion website, and using facebook to advertise my business and even encouraging some girls to wear hijabs including ones not muslim as well.
    So its up to the people how to use it and up to Allah swt to judge their purpose of using these tools.
    Although very nice of you for telling concerns. 🙂
    May Allah swt guide all people to the right path and bless all muslims, Ameen.

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