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I saw a girl I really want to marry without a headscarf

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salaam

there is a girl I would like to marry but numerous of times I have seen her without a headscaff on social media etc is it still permissible for me to marry her?

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  1. Salaam alaikum. If you need to ask this question i would ask that you wait to get married and learn your deen better.

  2. Its better to marry someone on the deen already other then expect someone to change after you get married. People dont change for good as well nowadays ... so be careful and follow sunnah where its said
    This hadeeth was narrated by al-Bukhaari (4802) and Muslim (1466) from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) who said: “A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her religious commitment. Seek the one who is religiously-committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (i.e., may you prosper).”

    So a women who is on deen will take hijab for Allah and would respect you as well. If someone doesnt resepcts the commandments of Allah then how you would expect to respect your opinios etc .. As marriage requires lots of patience and rights to be fulfilled

    • Salam,

      What kind of backward thinking is that? In this day and age, you really can't differentiate the faith of a sister who wears a hijab as opposed to one who doesn't. Yes, headscarf is mentioned and is a GROWING process of Imaan but a cloth that covers your head doesn't define your relation with ALLAH! The word Hijab means modesty which applies to everything about you, not your headscarf.

      I'm gonna give you a real example I've seen and you tell me what you've inferred from this:

      A sister who doesn't wear a scarf but is modest in behavior and in clothing. She is an e-board member of her MSA club in College and advocates and raises awareness of Islam.

      A sister who wears the hijab but listens to profane language music and who also has an attitude.

      My point with these two examples is that we won't know who is the better one just by looking at them.

      And going back to the OP, you saw someone in social media and you want to marry her but youre contemplating because she doesn't have a head scarf? Have you spoken to the sister in real life and observed her character? Have you seen how she is with others and her deen? These are few questions you should consider before marrying someone. Sorry if I sound rude btw.

      P.S. I'm a guy 😀

      • I agree Sohrab,

        Having said that as you said that covering head is an obligation and is clearly mentioned in Quran. Hijab word is not used, its actually Khimaar.

        You are right cloth that covers your head doesn't define your relation with ALLAH. we can NOT just give our judgment based on someone covering or not!! Totally agree but if this is an important ingredient for this brother then he should speak with her and see her thoughts. If she agrees that yes it should be done and she will do it as Allah gives her hidaya then she has the right thinking and intentions and with time as the imaan increases, she will do it.. There are people who actually doesn't even accept the ruling and that's where the problem comes.

        It better to speak with that person along with her Mehrams and take her point of view. If He/She has the right attitude then they should get married and help each other in goodness...

    • May I ask about what is your Deen? If you see the hijab is so important that can represent the
      deen of oneself, I would advise you not to approach this sister. I am so upset to see those Muslim men asking to divorce their wives forcing the dressing code to women. Please do not hurt this woman. Stay away from her.

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