Islamic marriage advice and family advice

My Muslim whom I love wants a 5 year marriage

Posted by • January 17, 2008 • Printer-friendly

He has spoken to me of marriage can be for a term time set, like 5 years if we wish..

then he spoke he bring me a gift of my choice

we agree to a verbal agreement, contrat

but he does not speak of a formal mosque wedding..what is this and what should I reply to him?

I am a believer (raised in a christian home before) but not converted, he is a muslim man who is of the Islam faith..

I wish to know the truth of marrying because he wish to sleep with me and this to me is not going to happen unless I know this is for real the marriage..
Can someone answer me this, I asked him - but was told of no witnesses or a real Mosque or such marriage..am confused..

thank you

Marilyn


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  1. Amina_G
    January 25, 2008 • 7:56 pm

    Salaam sister,

    I could not resist replying to your query, as a matter of urgency, as I have heard of many innocent sisters being trapped in this way.

    Temporary marriage is forbidden in Islam. This is the view of all the main Imams of Islam. Please read the following article which explains further:

    http://www.zawaj.com/articles/temporary_marriage.html .

    Also, marriage in Islam is not legal without witnesses. Please see the following:

    http://www.zawaj.com/articles/marriage_in_secret.html .

    Sister, please realise that this man is deceiving you and thank God that you queried the matter before giving in to him.

    If he really loves you why does he not commit to a proper marriage which must have witnesses and why stipulate a temporary marriage.

    If you are still not convinced about the evilness of this man, and that temporary marriage or that without witnesses is a sin and not recognised in Islam (or if you have any other queries regarding Islam), contact the Muslim Community helpline (0208 904 8193 http://www.mwhl.org) or some other reliable source (The muslim directory has many useful contacts - http://www.muslimdirectory.co.uk ).

    I pray to Allah (SWT) that you find someone truly good and reliable to marry and spend your life with. Someone who values your love, and rewards it with honesty and his own love. Ameen.

    In years to come you will look back and be relieved that you rejected this evil man's indecent proposal, and wondered how you fell for his deceiving honeyed words and nearly got tricked into a very bad situation. I feel so sorry for others who are not so lucky.

    All the best,

    Amina

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