is masturbation allowed if wife doesn’t allow frequent sex?
I am a young man who is very fond of doing sex with my wife, but my wife has a very low libido and she doesn't allow me to do sex often and neither relieves my desire by mutual masturbation (although I tried to convince her a lot by discussion).
My question is in such a situation am I allowed to satisfy myself by self masturbation? Is it allowed in Islam if the wife is not willing to fulfill the desire of his husband?
-manfromatlantic
(Note from Editor to readers: Let's not turn this post into another long discussion about the permissibility or prohibition of masturbation. We just covered that at length in another recent post. Instead, let's see if we can advise the brother on how to achieve happiness in his marriage, or otherwise improve his situation Insha'Allah. And to the Editor who selected this image to go with the post, uhhh... no comment. - Wael, IslamicAnswers.com Editor)
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If she isn't interested in sex and you have spoken to her about this many times with no luck...Maybe suggest in the politest way possible if she would be okay with you taking on a second wife...that is of course if you can afford to keep two:) You are well within your right to have two if you want...
im sure this isn't the only option for you, but its the first one that came to my mind when I read your post.
tc
salam,
same is my condition...as my husband is not willing to have sex....
what should i do?iam stuck
in our society men propose girls who r sexually ok and physically fit,,, and naturally men sex is more many times than women and frequent,, so how can u say that a man having no desires married u,, to tease u? or otherwise if he is attached with some bad society and not obey islamic rules,, tel him to correct himeself if not then u can ask for divorce
Fatima,
same issue but i resolved it with some counsel.
i can email you the steps...send me your email
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Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Hi can you tell me what councel
U took advice from I want to go there as well.
Praise be to Allaah.
If a woman refuses her husband’s request to come to bed with no Islamically-sound reason (such as sickness, or his being drunk, for example), what happens is as described below:
Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses [and does not come], and he spends the night angry with her, the angels will curse her until morning.’” (Reported by al-Bukhaari, 4794; the additional phrase quoted in square brackets is from Abu Dawood, al-Sunan, Kitaab al-Nikaah, Bab haqq al-zawj ‘ala’l-mar’ah).
In the phrase “if a man calls his wife to his bed,” the word “bed” is obviously a metaphor for intercourse. Metaphors are used in the Qur’aan and Sunnah to refer to things about which people usually feel shy. Does this apply only to the nighttime, or does it include daytime too? The answer may be found in a hadeeth narrated by Muslim: “By the One in Whose hand is my soul, there is no man who calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, but the One Who is above the heavens [i.e. Allaah] will be angry with her, until he (her husband) is pleased with her.” Ibn Khuzaymah and Ibn Hibbaan report a hadeeth narrated by Jaabir: “There are three whose prayers will not be accepted and none of whose good deeds will ascend to heaven: a runaway slave, until he returns to his master; a drunken man until he becomes sober; and a woman with whom her husband is angry, until he is pleased with her.” These are general terms, which include both night and day.
The phrase “and he spends the night angry with her” refers to the cause of the angels’ curse, because this confirms that she is a sinner, which is a different matter than if he accepts her excuse and is not angry with her, or lets the matter drop. Is she to blame if he keeps her away from his bed? The answer is: no, unless she is the one who started the separation and he is keeping away from her because of it, and she did not apologize but prolonged the separation. But if he is the one who started it, and is thus treating her unfairly, then she is not to blame. In one report, instead of the words “the angels curse her until morning,” the wording is “… until she returns” – and this is a useful variant.
This hadeeth tells us that denying a spouse’s rights – whether physical or financial – is something that will inevitably bring about the wrath of Allaah, unless Allaah grants His mercy to the sinner.
We also learn that the angels will pray against a sinner so long as he or she persists in the sin.
The hadeeth also directs a wife to help her husband and seek his satisfaction, because a man is less patient than a woman when it comes to doing without intercourse. The most disturbing thing for a man is his sexual impulse, so Islam urges women to help their husbands in this regard. (Adapted and abbreviated from the commentary by al-Haafiz Ibn Hijr – may Allaah have mercy on him – on this hadeeth in Fath al-Baari).
Whether the husband wants to discipline his wife, or forgive her, or take another wife, or divorce her, this is all up to him to choose. Let the woman beware of incurring her husband’s wrath because this will lead to Allaah’s being angry with her.
We ask Allaah to rectify this situation. May Allaah bless our Prophet Muhammad.
Please email me the steps.jazakallah.
Assalaamualaikam
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Midnightmoon
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Assalaamualaikam
There are many reasons why a woman may not feel able to be sexually intimate with her husband - discomfort from the act itself, taking medication that affects her libido, feeling under pressure or stress from other aspects of her life, anxiety, health issues, not knowing or feeling comfortable with her partner... The list of possible reasons is very, very long and the only way to know which are playing a part in your own situation is for you to ask your wife. Then, inshaAllah the two of you can work to resolve the problems.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) advised that when a man approaches his wife, he shouldn't immediately jump into sexual intercourse, but instead should start with gentle affection and kind words. People may advise you to tell your wife about hadiths and ayahs that emphasise your rights to sexual intercourse, but you may well make more progress by being non-confrontational and in the first instance adjusting your own actions - inshaAllah, once your wife sees the effort you are making, she is more likely to make more effort herself.
If there is a physical or psychological health problem contributing, it would be important to try to address this. For example, if your wife is on medication that can suppress her libido, she could talk with her doctor about trying a different treatment.
It may be hard, but try to find other things to enjoy with your wife. Shared interests and experiences will help to strengthen the bond between you and encourage intimacy.
Midnightmoon
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AsSalaamu Alaikum Brother,
I think you should sit down again with your wife and discuss about the ways to help increase her libido.
You may want to share the followings with her:
-1- Eat less starches (bread especialy)
-2- Eat more fruits and vegetables.
-3- Eat sea food (it's better than red meat on the night of...)
-4- Drink plenty of water on a regular basis (This is very important). That could help with blood circulation, because sometimes we may get dehydrated without even knowing, and it gives many negative effects.
-5- You may exercise together, as exercise helps blood circulation, as it also helps energy levels. That is usually a big problem with sex drive.
Another thing you may want to know is that, foreplay is most important for women. However, many women may need you to make love to their minds before even foreplay. Because for them, it is psychology first, then foreplay, and then intercourse (This is all highly recomended in the Sunnah).
You may also want to answer yourself the following questions:
-1-Do you make any concerted efforts to flatter your wife?
-2-Do you spoil her?
-3-Is she under a lot of stress, like children, cooking, cleaning, school and work?
Maybe you should help her with many of her house activities; That could also help release many of her stress, Insha Allah. Cooking for her could also help much, Insha Allah. You could be relieving stress, spoiling her, and feeding her aphrodisiacs (celery, oysters, etc) all at the same time.
According to the Sunnah of the Prophet (s.a.w.s), security, comfort, adoration, and affection are very important female turn ons.
The below links may also help Insha Allah
http://www.mydeenislam.com/how-to-make-love-to-your-wife-in-islam.html
http://www.wikihow.com/Increase-Libido
Hope this helps Insha Allah
I just couldn’t resist adding my Du'a for you brother. You are truly a good husband, Masha Allah. May Allah bless you for enduring patience in a situation like this. May Allah reward you brother, and may He bring solution to your matter very soon, and may He replace every pain with many ranks in Al-Firdaus, Ameen, Ameen, Ameen!!!
if your wife is not intrested in making love with you, for 80 % it may be your mistake.
You have to make her satisfied in bed. If you fail in this she may lost intrest in you.
So, my brother, you have to find ways to make her satisfied.
I think still you both do sex even it is not regularly. When you do next time,give prime important to her. Keep aside your likes and intrests for a better life.
I think it would work
whoever selected the pic---- its so hilarious LOL---too good.
I am also facing same prob. I m newly married and my wife is reacting like i will gonna rape her
Many times i tried to make her warm b4 sex but she is reacting like I m not her husband, sex is only one issue, there r many matters which r leading us toward dark part of this relationship, like disobediency , abusive language with me, greed of wealth, bad behaviour with my family.
Alot of times I asked her if she is facing any stress, problem or any act which she dont likes in me and my family but her answer was positive. In my family we cant do second marriage and i am even not willing to leave her bcoz she is alone in this world. Plz my frnd advice me the way to get the hell out of this issue.
Zia, please log in and write your question as a separate post. Give us more details, and we will answer you in turn Insha'Allah.
Wael
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Man from atlantic
I think you should Fast more often to control your desires.
Marsallah your a good person, must men's go cheat on there wives these days for not giving them any sex!! I know my sister has kids always busy cleaning, cooking!!! She even gave her husband sex 2 times a week!!! I guess it wasn't even for him she found out her cheated on her and when she ask him why did you hurt me like that his words were because you didn't give me any how sad s this and he calls himself a Muslim who pray and fast everyday!!! I'm saying your a good man marsallah!!!
Salam
ok cheating is never an option (my opinion) and it's an escape from the real problem. Therefore your sisters husband should have sex more or had to take a second wife. But 2 times a week seem to be ok. I think he should be satisfied.
Does you sister tell you how often she has sex with her husband? This is haram Sister... Think about it: Someone speaks about your sex life...
This is not allowed.
This is sad for your sister. Normally sex in 2 weeks should be ok but if he wants more than this could be a problem too. He should avoid eating meat as much as possible and don't drink coffe because these increase the sex drive.
Salam Brother,
I heard of some people having these problems. Sometimes people with a very high sex drive end up married to someone with a very low sex drive or no sex drive. The marriage then becomes very difficult for both of them. They both suffer. The person with low libido or whatever will find any excuse to say no. They will find marital relations very hard and dread when the husband calls them. It will be a horrible chore for them. I think people with either very high libido or very low libido need to somehow express this to their potential spouses before marriage. So then the person can walk away from the proposal who is the total opposite! I think it is best for some people to know as there is nothing worse then having to be duty bound to do something that you hate for the rest of your life.
Your wife may feel that although she hates it, she is still duty bound to comply so will then feel like an object. You probably need to express your emotional love to your wife. Say things and do things to make her feel special. Spend more time talking , doing things together and being close emotionally.
Don't make intimacy an isolated issue but include aspects in it in your conversations with her, e.g flirting, praising her appearance, buying nice outfits for her to wear. Asking her how she likes you to dress, running her a bath etc etc. So then these aspects can just lead up to intimacy naturally. She needs to be interested in it too. Then you will both be happy.
our marriage was actually a love marriage and in december this year we celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary,,,we still love each other,,,i am a stock trader working from home so mostly i am at home and give a lot of time to my wife,,,take care of her all financial needs,,take her for shopping when ever she desires,,kept 2 maids so she dont have to work,,,got only one child so she is not very busy ,,,never demand any thing from her except sex ,,but still my desires are not being fullfilled,,,being rommantic in nature tried many a times for mutual bath but she refuses even this,,,,feeling frustared for most of the time and has to indulge in masturbation because she even refuses for mutual masturbation,,,showed her all hadith regarding rights of husband but she is always busy in pleasing Allah only,,,what should i do to avoid sin of masturbation ,,,please advise
Assalam alaikum,
What do you mean that she is always busy in pleasing Allah only? Please elaborate her way of thinking.
I believe to make Allah happy is only possible if she pleases you, her husband, as you described you are going out of your way to make her life full of ease, she should reciprocate in the same way.
she thinks praying 5 times a day and reciting holy quran is enough to be a true muslim and to please Allah and not fullfilling haqook ul abbad(the rights of people)
Salam Brother
if your wife is praying this is good but the sex thing is important too. I don't know what to say...perhaps you both could go to a counselor who could help you out.
But if this relationship is very hard for you than you need to search for alternatives:
1.) Divorce - Would not be that great because of childs.
2.) Second wife - She would probably agree or not.
Therefore the decision is between 1 and 2. Would she agree a second wife so that you can have more sex. This would save you.
How old are you both?
Because if you both are 20 years old than your sex drive as a man will be higher but if you both become 30 years old than your wifes sex drive will be higher than yours.
But if your wife is 30 years old and doesn't want to have sex with you than there's something not normal with her. You should go to a counselor with her because women in their 30s have their highest sex drive where men lower their sex drives.
But the thing with working home could be a problem too:
If you work at home than you will be around her 24/7 and you will be normal but if you work somewhere else than your wife miss you and this would mean more sex.
"Be a treasure (let her miss you) then get pleasure(sex)."
This would be my advise for you. Hope I could help.
Additionally you should avoid drinking coffe and eating meat as much as you can because they increase the sex drive of you brother.
Good advice, MashaAllah.
This is also true sometimes.
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Maybe you should also go for some long vacation somewhere, and let her explore many knew things in nature. Some women may love to explore knew things around the world, and the person assisting them in that will mean a great deal to them (so that means more sex too - I think).
Perhaps your wife thinks that praying 5 times and day and reading the Quran will make her achieve Jannah. But the question you could ask her is that could she not pray 5 times a day and read the Quran while not being married? Why then would marriage be considered 1/2 of our deen? Maybe your wife was brought up in a household where she learnt that intimate relations are always bad--and never really understood that if halal, this can be rewarding for her. She will in fact be rewarded for pleasing you. If you have showed her all the Hadith and she is not convinced, that is very concerning. I don't want to suggest something that may come across as being harsh with her because I don't know the dynamics of your relationship, so maybe someone with a similar experience could offer some advice.
If the issue is only libido, she can try certain foods, do regular excerise, but from what you are writing, it seems it is her way of thinking. If it is indeed how she thinks, than you have to convince her that all she is doing could be done without marriage and that you need her. I am very tempted to write "otherwise you will..."
I recall a lecture I once heard about the Quran. In it, the speaker talked about if we got a letter from a dear friend, would we not read the letter for meaning? OR would we open it and begin to read it over and over again and pay no heed to the words? Similarly, reading the Quran over and over again but not paying attention to the message from Allah ultimately does not benefit us or our families. May Allah give us guidance, Ameen.
I am not sure if any of this helped brother, but you and your wife are in my du'as.
Good multiple suggestions, MashaAllah
It sounds to me the same too.
However, before we can conclude our understanding concerning the matter, it may help if we could know how she was behaving from the beginning of your marriage.
-1- Was she in the state of initiating intercourse most of the times?
-2- Did she like to accept intercourse more than to initiate it?
-3- Was she happy with the intercourse?
-4- Did you do your job very well during intercourse?
-5- Was she in the state of resisting intercourse most of the times?
-6- Was there anything else she was concerned about, during your intercourse?
Did you both visited a sex therapist before? Why not do it now?
As for the masturbation, if it will save you from commiting haram, I don't see anything wrong with it.
Salam Brother Issah
for the masturbation topic: Masturbation is as far as I know haram but if you fear that you will near zina than it is allowed (but not halal - just allowed to fear making the greater sin).
But he is a married man and one of the reasons why he married is to protect from zina. Therefore his wife must please him as he has to please his wife. Perhaps because she is 40 years old she is in the meno state but I don'
Salam Brother Issah
for the masturbation topic: Masturbation is as far as I know haram but if you fear that you will near zina than it is allowed (but not halal - just allowed to fear making the greater sin).
But he is a married man and one of the reasons why he married is to protect from zina. Therefore his wife must please him as he has to please his wife. Perhaps because she is 40 years old she is in the meno state but I don't know.
If his wife rejects to have sex with him on no reason then the angel will curse her the night.
She as a wife has the obligation to have sex with her husband.
I don't know what to say if some of the spouses fall into zina. Then this will be very very bad.
Allah's law and Huquq Ul Ibad comes to this....very hard to answer....
Therefore my dear Brother manfromatlantic please show your wife that she is a special for you and she is princess of your dreams and she deserves a lot and co.....
we both r 40 years old and i remember in our 15 years of married life she initiated the sex for 2 times only and in the first year of our married life every thing was ok ,,although she was always reluctant to sex but she always enjoyed it later thereby meaning i always left her satisfied and same is the case now that she is satisfied but has now become more reluctant and some times i even have to beg her to be with me in bed,,,she always make lame escuses and most of the times flatly refuse,,,not that she doesn,t love me or dont enjoy sex with me but just out of her habit,,,,it is her habit to always refuse on first instance and later may be that she agree seeing me begging for it
Selam Brother
this seems to be really a problem if you both are 40 and she never initiates (2 time in for me like never) sex. Speak with if you both don't want to go and counselor. Perhaps she has some mental problems you don't know about but perhaps not. Write a letter to her :
"My Dear XYZ
herewith I am exposing my love to my dearst dream. You know the day when we met in xyz...."
and so on...You need to know. Additionally read Buchari and Muslim for help. They will help you to find the right insallah.
Salam brother,
From experience I know that there are women who love their husbands immensly but hate sex. They just do not enjoy it. And also after many years of marriage they become tired and exhausted and it just becomes a chore. If she enjoyed it she would never refuse you.
I think intamicy is something that should be enjoyed by both partners. It should not be a compulsion on the wife or else she will hate it. In any case if someone mutally agrees to do something out of their own free will it is more fruitful then someone being forced.
It may well be that her libido is low too. I don't know what can be done about that.
Maybe you should try breaking the old age habits. Bring back the magic, the romance, the zing back into yout marriage! Get her flowers. Send flirty texts when your out. Do something unpredictable! Break the mould then maybe she will too! Make yourself irrestible by speech and appearance. Maybe make her jelouse by showing your not interested in her. Let her come to you.
And also you need to have a good talk with her. Pour your heart out. Let her know how much this is effecting you. She needs to know that it is serious!
May Allah bless your marriage
thanks issah ,,,i will try to follow your advise
May Allah be with you and your family Brother, and may He grant you delight in your wife and your child/children and make you a good example for the righteous! Ameen.
I feel the men are getting a little too into this post...no?
Its kinda starting to gross me out now...maybe the editor should put up a post to finalize this post.
I think Manfromatlantic probably gets it now..
Assalaamualaikam
I agree with RM - this is getting a bit explicit. Guys, this isn't just being read by brothers - sisters are reading this too, and as a sister I have to say it's a bit too graphic. Giving advice on relationships and marital issues is one thing, but sex tips aren't appropriate.
Please let's keep it tasteful and halal, inshaAllah.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
I have deleted the more graphic comments.
Wael
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Yeah ...Hands on Ctrl + Del Buttons.....
And more comments means more SEO for this website Bro
That's true, but that's not my primary concern. I'd rather have a website that is useful and Islamic than one that is popular.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Should be primary concern. We need to spread the Islam to the world. Effective and Masseffective.
And popular is better than useful.
Popular is better than useful? SubhanAllah. I disagree 100%.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam
Bro Wael this is not Fatwa Service and therefore it can't be useful. If you mean that it is recommend something than this service is not no1. If this website would have more SEO than more people with more experience would write here there ideas.
But we you are right. I need go forward. It's not my website.
If this website is not useful then you should not be spending your time here. Can I ask, how old are you?
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
So Noapologise, if we lack some Islamic Adab, can't we at least use our own common sense to respect other's properties?
tasteful???
Midnightmoon you must be a women....Also we need to talk openly about this. As long we don't take bad words, this doesn't concern.
Read the "Unfaithful Wife" topic. The stories of the brothers are much more hardcore.
Don't tell us to use a graphic comments please...
Assalaamualaikam
Yes, as I mentioned in my post, I am a woman (just the one, though).
"This doesn't concern..."? Well, actually, as I'm an editor on this site, the content of the website is very much my concern.
Talking openly is one thing, but it's important to remember that you cannot control who reads your comments when you post them on an open forum. Men, women, teenagers and even children could easily read what you say here. If you don't even want a female editor to read your comments, then think about all the other people who are able to access them...
This is an Islamic website. One of the fundamental principles of Islamic behaviour is modesty. Modesty doesn't include public posts of sex tips. You say that we need to spread Islam to the world - we can't do this if we compromise our own Islamic values and behaviour.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
Brother, what are you doing? It's not fair. I did the wrong thing and then noticed my mistake. If it was a good thing, I wouldn't have requested it to be deleted. You are really embarrassing me, honestly.
Assalam alaikum Br. D/noapologies,
After learning about what the second Caliph said with respect to sins and repentance, it was very admirable that you put your feelings aside and shared that information. You started with one stance but changed based on what you learnt and you have to admit that you learnt something that you didn't know at the beginning. In the same way, isn't it possible that you might be missing the point on some things here? You must find this site useful (I know that I do 100%) for you to keep on coming back to it.
The truth is that shaitaan is terribly jealous of humans and loves to see us divided--so let's not make him have an ounce of happiness inn shaa Allah.
Sister,
The Satan uses me? I think he has some more serious issues than me 🙁
I think we all need to stop humouring this guy
clearly he is only here for a bit of amusement..
I don't understand why the editors aren't stepping in....?
Salam
Sister can I ask you how old you are? Just for interest...if you don't want you don't have to tell me.
I'm 20 and half....yeah Bro Wael a little old.
And to my friend RM: I am very happy to make you laugh at me...:D
Really I don't get angry at you all. It's cool
How do we know how to make sex without speaking about it???
Noapologies:
You are Not making me laugh .No offence, but you might benefit from getting yourself a dictionary and maybe look into enrolling in some English classes..
You're comments don't make much sense.
Salam Sister
you are right what to topic of forgivness. But we should accept the truth that most things can't be forgiven. If you have been cheated on than you would know. But we don't have the experience. And plus you are not a man. And a man has something like honour and this can't be thrown away. I know that this is not understandable for women and I am not making you bad for that.
What do you expect if someone of you has cheated on you and you just say: "I forgive you."
Isn't this guy a kind of Dayyoth...for both men and women
Yeah there are questions these are too hard to explain but we should not forgive everthing. Example look at what the Prophet said in his last words.
As far as I know he said that you should not hurt somebody and got hurt.
And another question: If I am big sinner and then repent is someone who hasn't sinned so much more worst then me because
If you sin and repent your sins will be converted in Good Deeds.
And would you keep silent to the person you have wronged that much. We should not wrong people and repend. And we should know why we should hide our sins. And you all talk about the Forgiving Allah and that's ok but why don't we talk about the Utterly Justiceful Allah. He has 99 names. This means 99 properties which we should know.
Adab is very important (even I have big lack of Adab but I admit it)
Do you think I hate you or I am the devil itself? I just want my brothers and sister don't get violated in their rights.
And we should make a urgent topic about Huqul-Ul-Ibad (Rights of People) like Silver99 made one. But his topic was called Tailon Law.
And we should know that God will just not forgive the rights of peoples because this would make him unjustful.
And a little example: Musa was running away from the Pharao.
If the pharao would have rependet sincerly then would he be higher then Musa because his sins will be converted into Good Deeds. What about the people he killed?
And what do you understand in sincerly repentance? Please explain and I would like to know...
Maybe this post should be closed, as it does not benefit the OP any more.
Salam Bro
I dont want to embarras you. I just you to know that it's allowed to speak about sex...But if I have embarred you then I apologize from you...
Why do you need to let me know that it's allowed to do so on a public forum? I know how to defend myself when I am right, but in this case I am wrong so do not defend my mistake...Also, you need to apologize to the Editors and everyone for directing such harsh speeches to them... If you want to know how to make something, visit a therapist.
Salam
why should I apologize for something I know that I am right.
And I think you mean that I should go to counselor because thereapists are for sickness in mental base. And my speeches weren't harsh but the truth is always hard to admit.
Our Brother manofromatic was asking us about how he can get his wife to have sex with him. Should we recommended him to go to a counselor? Why has he even visited this site? Or why have the editors allowed him to make his article public if they would know that this is getting a little bit to graphic.
And yes kids could read this article very easy but they can read many things easy on the internet. The parents should give them a greater attention or they can visit a lot of more adult web sites which they shouldn't visit (for their own sake).
I think we have to pay more attention on which website they surf everyday. Perhaps this website should have a adult blocker or similar that kids can enter the website if they enter the right answer.
Example:
Questionbox: "Name the second caliph in arabic form!"
Answerbox: "Ummar"
If answerbox ---> Right ------> You will be redirected to Zawaj.com
If answerbox---->Wrong-----> You will be redirected to kidsgames.com (just as an example)
But the questionbox should tolarate many variations and some tpying errors.
PS: If any of your editors are hurt by me than I apologize from all of you
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