Betrayed and Heart-broken
The Door of Allah's Forgiveness is Still Open!
Salams,
I really needed to talk to someone and gladly i found this site. i never had a bf before , i saved myself for marriage.
i respect and love my parents alot dont want any bad name for them. but now i ruined my life because of this guy.
i met him through family for marrige and we met few times to get to know each other a little but he kept asking for more time. during this i fell in love with him and i thought he does too since he promised me a date for engagement and nikah.
we were alone once and we both lost control. we were supposed to get engaged in 15 days but he betrayed me me and left me heart broken.
i feel like my life is over because i feel guilty and ashamed . iam praying and asking Allah for forgivness but i hate myself, i cant face my family they trusted me. im dying inside i cry day and night even thinking about ending this life sometimes.
its hard i want share this with my mom or sister but i cant , my parents will die God forbid. i cant get married now im not pure anymore. i cant start my life with a lie but i also cant share this to anyone . i just wish i go in past and change everything , i hate myself for doing this. i just hope God forgive me. i am lost .i dont know what to do 🙁
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-and stick to following the guidelines Allah has given us. Do not meet with a man alone. There is a reason for this guideline. When people don't follow it, what happens to you has the potential of happening and ruining people's spirits and breaking them down.
-keep on repenting.
Sister, whenever a man tells you he "needs more time" and gives you excuses to postpone the the things he tells you he wishes for his future with you, he's a player and a liar who just wants to use you for sex. I can't believe how girls can still be so naive about these sort of things.
With that said, what's done is done, and you can't go back to change what you have done. You need to stop crying and feel bad for yourself and instead realize the gravity of your sins and work towards repenting them. Allah can forgive, we must remember his Mercy as well as His anger. But we also need to show Him that we have truly learned our lessons.
Try to focus more on yourself and stay away from boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. Allah has forbidden them exactly to spare us from going through what you're going through now: being used, dumped and bruised. Please understand this and take care of yourself, sister - wait for someone suitable to approach your parents, who will hopefully only agree to a man who's the best for you.
Focus on your studies or your job, have fun with your friends and family, make staying fit an healthy a priority in your life, enjoy your hobbies and, for sure, spend your time improving your relationship to God. Learn more about Islam so that you can avoid what is not good or right for you. If your fill your life up with these sort of tings, I promise you that taking better care of yourself like this will make you a much happier person, as well as a better Muslimah, inshallah 🙂
Mashallah...:-)
Walaikumassalam Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu.
It saddens me reading stories like these.
Prophet Muhammed(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “O ummah of Muhammad, by Allaah there is none more indignant than Allaah when His slave, male or female, commits zina. O ummah of Muhammad, if you knew what I know, you would laugh little and weep much.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1044; Muslim, 901.
SubhanAllah.
Now that has been over.
Make sincere repentance to Allah. The conditions of sincere repentance include:
->regretting the sins that you have committed,
->and immediately giving up that immoral action, and everything that leads to it such as contact, correspondence and dates.
->The conditions of repentance also include resolving not to return to this deed.
Do a lot of righteous deeds, such as prayer, reading Qur’aan, dhikr and fasting, so as to strengthen your faith and piety.
In your future do not tell your future husband that you lost your virginity in this haraam relationship, because it is exposing your faults, and the Muslim is required to conceal his faults. You can use double entendres in your speech. It is well known that the hymen may be broken by means of something other than intercourse in some cases, so you can make the most of that by using a double entendre.
Make sincere repentance to Allah.
Allaah is Forgiving and Merciful, and He is the One Who says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And whoever does evil or wrongs himself but afterwards seeks Allaah’s forgiveness, he will find Allaah Oft Forgiving, Most Merciful” [al-Nisaa’ 4:110]
The Muslim is vulnerable to making mistakes and sins. So he has to repent and seek forgiveness repeatedly. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “By Allaah, I seek the forgiveness of Allaah and I turn to Him in repentance more than seventy times each day.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, no. 6307)
Allaah loves the repentance of His slaves, and accept it. Indeed, He rejoices over it, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When a person repents, Allaah rejoices more than one of you who found his camel after he lost it in the desert.” (Agreed upon. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, no. 6309)
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May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
Great Answer Ya Akhi,
May Allah grant you Jannathul Firdouse and
Ya Allah forgive our sister who has been exploited and accept from her forgiveness and Ya Allah
provide her a spouse whom you love and unite them in the beautiful bond of Marraige which embodies Islam and bring out of them a progeny who are the coolness of her eyes to them and make them leaders of the Muttaqoon.
barakAllahu feek.
Thanks for your dua. May Allah forgive us and give us jannatul fidaus.
By the way these words are not completely mine. I copy paste many advices which i feel are reliable from a website. Allah knows best.
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May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
Asalaamu alaikum sis
Since know u no ur mistake it's ok u con move on with life remember that ALLAH is ready and willing to forgive his cretur for every thing thy do provided the cease doing it again,if u repented consider your self being for by ALLAH,on the side of parents just no that they human beings who also have mistakes in there past so go to ur mother and tell her every thing if u no her and u a sure that some thing bad may happen do not tell them .If they ask u abt him just tell them that he left you.On the side of being impure this can't be returned bark and u do not have to lie about it because talling lies is also a sine so u donot have to do it .you will get some else who even might be more than that one you had just be strong and more careful abt men because these days most p'ple who are married are facing more difficults and the unmarried ones are placticing zina.This is because kiyam is on the doorway so i wish u the best but be patiant with every thing and every one salaamu alaikum
I do not agree with you that she should go and tell it to her mother or anyone else.
She should repent sincerely to Allah.
She should ask Allah to conceal her sins.
She should not tell it to anybody whether its mother/brother/sister or anyone.
May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
But i think she should tell this too her husband before marriage.. or she will be having lot of difficulties later. If she don t tell and somehow if he come to know.. you are ruining a boy's life (if he cant except it). let a boy know it before marriage and let him marry her willingly after that... she will have a better life inshallah. ALLAH knows best......
Yes smily...that is y I won't marry anyone else I hate keeping ppl in dark. He deserves to know that. And I'm in a stage that I can't tell the truth either , I'm scared... I can not trust a man again in my life.
Just because some men are bad not think all men are bad... Allah has created men as gaurdian of women... there will be someone in any corner off the world to excuse you and to merry you willingly and take care of you. the eternal one who is just born for you... don't lose hope...
PRAY
PRAY
PRAY
that your man should come in search of you!
and PRAY FOR FORGIVENESS and that your sin don't let him away from coming for you. Inshaallah.. remember this is not the only life... May Allah give peace to everyone. don't lose hope sis. Allah loves me that i;m still alive. believe me Allah loves you tooo... and I, your sister and all here love you toooo.
Assalam ualikum look sister what has been done is done,u cant change the past having said that the way u feel is pretty much natural but Allah forgives no matter how big is the sin only Shirk HE doesnt forgive...Dear sis just repent from your heart n believe u me Allah will forgive you...yes its that easy for Allah to forgive its just the satan who made us think that Allah will not forget or the sin is so big or i must die now or like that.....Remember Allah mercy is way bigger than anything else....Forgiving the sinner wont make any difference to ALlah...He loves his creation.....If a mother after knowing that his child has commit adultery or theft or consume drugs forgive coz she is mother n Allah has naturally injected the sea of love in mother so just imagine How much love Allah will do...start a new life sister u must have repent by now alot n i m hopeful by Allah He must have forgiven u by now but what now u r suppose to do....
Follow your Allah orders who love u so much even after u commited sin He never let ours sins go public...Only Allah is our well wisher....Start your new life Believe u me You will see how much respect Allah will give u How much blessing HE will shower on u and He will make u as pure as baby coming out of Womb....Now Make environment around u islamic make islamic sisters your friend learn about your Deen and act on it....We get depressed because we actually dont know about Allah and His mercy...
1 last thing now no one in world understand this thing better than you that When Allah prohibits about certain matter than what is the reason actually,that is why islam strictly discourage any Na Mehram relation apart from marriage....Start a new life and a better life...I could quote u my own life example i could quote u other girls example i could quote u many real incidents but it will get long...i hope my msg will help you..
Assalakualaikum,
Sister, what is this world but a passing shade to rest? It is not our destination. We are on a journey and this world is somewhere we have stopped. We shall continue our journey soon and will end up in either the Jannah or Jahannam.
We do many things in this world including sins. But our Lord Is still having Mercy on us by not punishing us. His Mercy is certainly wide and much greater than all of our sins put together.
Can you not hope that He Will Forgive you?
Your sin was a major sin, it is best that you regret, but it is wrong to feel hopeless. Tawbah can make you good again.
I must also mention that your family has mistaken by allowing you to be in seclusion with him. He has cheated you and made you commit zina. May Allah Save this Ummah from this sin. People should fear Allah's Punishment and press themselves to protect themselves from choosing to disobey Allah. What will anyone earn by disobeying Allah and making Him Angry? What pleasure can anyone find in Allah's displeasure?
Sister, you should seek Allah's Forgiveness, because He Forgives whoever He Wills. Allah Is with His Servants, as they expect Him to be. So hope for good from Him. And He Loves that we seek His Forginveness:
It was narrated from Abû Hurairah that the Messenger of Allâh ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: ``Allâh, Glorified and Exalted is He, said: ‘I am as My slave thinks I am, and I am with Him when he remembers Me.' By Allâh, Allâh rejoices more over the repentance of His slave than one of you when he finds his stray camel in the wilderness. `If he draws near to Me a handspan, I draw near to him an forearm's length, and if he draws near to Me an forearm's length, I draw near to him a an arm's length, and if he comes to Me walking, I go to him at speed.''' (Muslim)
Also remember how vast His Mercy is:
It was narrated from Abû Hurairah that the Prophet ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: ``Allâh has one hundred (parts of) mercy, of which He sent one part down among jinn, humans, animals and insects, because of which they show compassion and kindness to one another, and a wild animal shows compassion to its young. And Allâh has kept back ninety-nine parts of mercy by which He will show mercy to His slaves on the Day of Resurrection.'' (Muslim)
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalamu alaikum,
I am too in the same situation, in my case its a girl i loved so much who betrayed me, used me and lied to me that she will marry me and now she is with other guy..
I am still waiting for my post to be published..
I pray to Allah to ease it for us.
assalaamualaikum sister i can understand your situation , but u must not lose hope ALLAH knows whts in our heart and ALLAH is most merciful and love us 70 time more than our mothers love, do not think about other what they witll think just think about allah and love allah and put your full trust in allah , the mistake done is a lesson for you anf you must learn from it and trun towards allah cry for his love and mercy, when allah is with you none can harm you he will take care of your life , forget about everything and forget the past concentrate on your present as it will be your future , read 5 time salah, tahjud prayer, recite quran, and do good deeds like giving sadkha and then u will realise allah will make your heart clean and pure and all the negative is aways from you soon, the person who hurted u dosent deserve your true love , but u need to move on and make your life better inshallah soon you will see u deserve more better in your life which allah will give u 🙂
keep smiling ALLAH loves u dear 🙂 🙂 he is always with people who repent truly and will open ways for them 🙂
Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh
SubhanAllah, if Allah has guided to remorse and regret and turning back to him, who on earth could stop you from being forgiven? Allah's mercy outstripped his anger.
Oh my god, u don't know how much I cried reading every single comment and how many times I read them.Thank you all for understanding.I'm not a bad girl but I fell soo bad. I thought I will be hated by everyone , but I was so wrong . I'm 28 yrs old I live in west , I never had a bf, never drink or smoke. I'm religious but I just don't know what happened to me. I know Allah is great and He forgives. But I can't forgive myself. Reading ur comments give me a courage to live. I was dying inside every sec. I will try to live again . Now only Allah is in my heart. Keep me in ur prayers. I thank you all from bottom of my heart,sisters and brothers for ur messages. God bless u all 🙂
ask forgiveness each day.......he is the most merciful.... it was is a trial in your life
Yes I will keep repenting for rest of my life.
do not get into a relationship outside marriage again .
Be careful.
Ask your parents to find you a suitable match. Avoid free mixing. Do not meet a non mahram man in absence of your wali.
may Allah give you a pious husband.
May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
Yeh brother, that was the first biggest mistake I have made and for sure it will be last. I won't see a man in my life. Allah knows better but I don't think I can marry anyone else.
You should remember that whoever gives up something for the sake of Allah, Allah will compensate him with something better than it.
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Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allaah will grant after hardship, ease”
[al-Talaaq 65:7].
SubhanAllah.
I request you to read this hadith
Umm Salamah (may Allaah be pleased with her), said: "Abu Salamah came to me one day after being with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: 'I heard from the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) something that made me very happy. He said, "There is no calamity that befalls one of the Muslims and he responds by saying 'Innaa Lillaahi wa innaa ilahi raaji'oon (Truly, to Allaah we belong, and truly, to Him we shall return),' then he says, 'Allaahumma ujurni fi museebati w'ukhluf li khayran minha (O Allaah, reward me in this calamity and compensate me with something better than it),' but Allaah will do that for him."'" Umm Salamah said: "I learnt this from him, and when Abu Salamah died, I said, 'Innaa Lillaahi wa innaa ilahi raaji'oon,' then , 'Allaahumma ujurni fi museebati w'ukhluf li khayran minha,' Then I thought to myself, Where could I find anyone better than Abu Salamah? When my 'iddah (waiting-period) was over, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asked permission to see me, whilst I was busy dyeing a hide. I washed the qaraz (a kind of dye derived from a certain plant) from my hands and granted him permission, putting out for him a leather cushion stuffed with palm fibres. He sat down on it, and asked for my hand in marriage. When he had finished what he had to say, I said: 'O Messenger of Allaah, I do not want you to lose interest in me, but I am a very jealous woman, and I am afraid that you may see in me something that could earn me the punishment of Allaah. I am also a woman who is ageing, and I have children.' He said, 'As for the jealousy you mentioned, Allaah will take this away from you (according to another report: as for you saying that you are a jealous woman, I will pray to Allaah to take away your jealousy). As for what you say about age, the same applies to me as to you. As for your children, your children are my children.' So I accepted his offer and the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) married me. Allaah gave me someone even better than Abu Salamah, namely the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)."
These two reports are in the Musnad of Imaam Ahmad. The hadeeth was also reported by Muslim from Umm Salamah, who said: "The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: 'There is no Muslim who suffers a calamity and says what Allaah has commanded: "Innaa Lillaahi wa innaa ilayhi raji'oon, Allaahumma ujurni fi museebati w'ukhluf li khayran minha," but Allaah will compensate him with something better.' When Abu Salamah died, I said, 'Who among the Muslims could be better than Abu Salamah, the first household to migrate to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)?' Then I said [this du'aa'] and Allaah compensated me with the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). He sent Haatib ibn Abi Balta'ah on his behalf to ask for my hand in marriage, but I said, 'I have a daughter, and I am a jealous woman.' He said, 'As for your daughter, we will pray to Allaah to make her independent, and I will pray to Allaah to take away your jealousy.'" (Reported by Muslim, 1525).
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May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
Thank you brother. Yes you are right. I hope Allah, my prayers and time make me forget about my horrible past Insha'allah
There is something else that shattered me down . I was too shy to mention it in my question, I had STD . Even though I didn't have sex it was just a min thing and one time. But still there was a contacy. Dr. Said doesn't matter u still get it and he said ur husband or bf is fooling around. I didn't know about all these , everything first time ( oh God I am ashamed ). Dr said its curable and treatable if u don't have contact. So I am scared of that too if that ever going to effect my future in anyway. I want to end this missery because I am thinking too much .please advise. :'( :'( :'(
So sad :(. Basically the STD got transferred to you isn't it? Insha'Allah its totally curable. Hope its a lesson learnt. Anyways, before you marry someone else, you need to do a medical checkup once again to see if the STD is cured or not and if it is, then alhamdulillah and if not, then you need to inform your potential partner (future husband) of this disease you aqquired. STD is dangerous as it can be transferred from one person to another and destroy lives.
Make dua to Allah to grant you shifa, cry to Him and plead Him to have mercy on you, forgive you and guide you. May He do so. Ameen.
Dr. Said its fine. Its gone after I took the pills. He is going to do another test again to make sure. I even did the test for HIV because I was paranoid and scared to death. Thank God it was all negative. I know no body knows what happens in future and I don't know that I might not be even alive by tomorrow. I know I made a big big big sin and mistake, I cry for my sin till now to the point that I feel I'm losing my vision. I'm scared what if Allah bring this up in future as my punishment even though the Dr said all okay but I'm scared of bad name . I'm sorry everyone will think I'm reacting so much but I have no one to talk to. I'm trying to stay away from this negativity and the advises I got from here I'm following it ( repent, pray, being patient) but its hard :'(
asalamu alaikum,
sis take a step back and take a deep breath. firstly whatever medication the doctor gives you make sure you follow its course thoroughly. secondly no one knows what the future hold, you might not be alive in the future only Allah knows, so don't over think whats gonna happen etc, otherwise you gonna get paranoia and get sick. also pray night and day to Allah(swt) to help you, forgive you, cure you and to protect you from all the hardship, trial and tribulations on this world and the hereafter
one more thing, when you going through hard time just remember their is someone out there who is going through much more worse than you.
ma salama
Yes who knows what happens tomorrow. I want my heart to be filled by God's love so there is no space for hatred, worried and nothing else.
Dear sad girl,Allah is most merciful and forgiving!!! So you must forgive yourself as well!! You must forgive yourself! You are human ,humans are not perfect,it is apparent to me that you are a good ,kind soft hearted loving person,these kind of scum prey on people like you because you are innocent ,trusting and soft hearted.u have to be extra careful ,but I'm sure you know that now,I'm so sorry that you had to learn the hard way.I hope that all this will soon be a faded memory and now that you know that your fine medically you put this in the closet and throw a way the key,nothing good will ever ever come of this if you tell anyone! Never tell anyone,k?
I won't tell anyone and thank u so much . I learned in hard way. I'm soooooo glad I found this website or I don't know what would've happened to me. Allah helped me a lot , at least he gave me a chance to repent and I was never religious the way I am now and I am happy in that way. And all beautiful ppl helped a lot in here God bless you all.
i want to die now...i am sick of this fake world 🙁
@fatima
sister, you are going to the doctor and asking him to give you the medicine without telling him what is your problem.
first calm down.
say أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم (I seek refuge with Allaah from the accursed shaytaan).
tell us what happened. so that you can get help inshaAllah.
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May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
Assalaamualaikam sister.
I'm so sorry to hear you are suffering. Please try to remember that, whatever else happens in the world, Allah loves you, and we - your sisters and brothers in faith - wish for you what we wish for ourselves.
Suicide is never the answer. The problems faced in this life remain and are left for other people to struggle with, and can never be fixed. If you feel you are going to harm yourself or even end your own life, please contact your nearest emergency department, hospital or crisis phone support.
Allah blessed us with life and faith. Hold tightly to these and inshaAllah you can withstand any trial.
If you need advice on a specific question or problem, please log in and submit a question.
May Allah give you strength and help you stay on the straight path.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
my problem is that i love some one..but due to some understandings he is against me..he wants to take revenge from me...that is why i do not want to live anymore...how can i face him as my enemy..
Islam came to close the doors that lead to evil and sin, and is keen to block all the means that may lead to corruption of hearts and minds. Love and infatuation between the sexes are among the worst of problems.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (10/129):
Love is a psychological sickness, and if it grows strong it affects the body, and becomes a physical sickness, either as diseases of the brain, which are said to be diseases caused by waswaas, or diseases of the body such as weakness, emaciation and so on. End quote.
And he (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (10/132):
Loving a non-mahram woman leads to many negative consequences, the full extent of which is known only to the Lord of people. It is a sickness that affects the religious commitment of the sufferer, then it may also affect his mind and body. End quote.
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in the first place a man/woman is not allowed to correspond with a non mahram (until a valid necessity)
fear Allah.
Leave that guy alone. stop communicating with him.
what revenge does he wants to take from you ?
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May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
no one replies me 🙁
tell him to fear Allah.
leave him alone. do not contact him.
seek help of Allah.
make dua sister.
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May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
i contact with him just to say sorry again and again because if he will told every one about us then obviously my parents will shoot me...
sister ask him to fear Allah.
Do you want to leave with such a person who is already blackmailing you. ?
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i am feeling he will not break my trust but i do not know why he is doing this...i do not want to live with him but he will told every one then how will i face every one?
You feel he won't break your trust but on other hand he is blackmailing you? Well he already broke your trust sister blackmailing is one kind of threatening and trust is broken. Suppose If you fall sick and threats your life won't you go to doctor for get rid of it?? Then it's same thing what happening to you know. Seek help from Allah and get rid of him.
thank you so much for supporting...
Sister, I pray for you to get over this difficult time. This world is a little messed up in it's way but it is because of the people who mess it up, other than that it is very beautiful. Open up your eyes, this is reality now but the true reality is after our death. This does not mean that you take your life, sister please do not do that because then you will never have a change to go to Jannah (Paradise) the real place that we all long for whether we know it or not. We are Muslim and we have a change to get there so we have to stay patient. I know you are hurting right now but just turn to Allah and time will heal.
We have all been through some form of difficulties, myself included, where we thought that there would be no way out but with the right mindset and the right faith we overcame these difficulties. There are people out there who have lost their parents, their children, and even those who lost their faith in Allah that are in a very bad situation but they are doing their best to move on with their lives and find a way back to Him and realize that this life is nothing but just a test.
I wish we could help you better if we know more information about your situation so please if you want more help then send a post so there will be more people who will be able to help you and give you hope. May Allah protect us all from these types of situations.
i am still afraid of him that he will tol every one about me...but i know ALLAH will help me...
Let me ask you, do you pray? If you do please do it from your heart cry to Allah. To be honest I was like similar situation like yours! Mine was web worse to say he blackmailed me to marry him otherwise he will put some girls bad pic with my name on it in the Internet. I was like you was scared. But after that when I seek help from imam he told me start pray if you don't. Pray is the powerful weapon who can't defet you. Then I started seriously from my heart I cried to Allah day and night and by the blessed from Allah he gave me my partner now i have a lucky daughter too. It's all Allahs blessin. So dont be fool. Don't let saitan win over you sister.
thank you sister...please pray for me...
i will also pray for yuo and your daughter...
please pray for me...i hate my self..why i do not pray?...why i am not afraid of ALLAH?..my heart is feelingless....that is why i hate myself...i want to pray.bt i do not pray...why????????
Sister,
If you hate yourself then how do you expect anyone esle to love you. Please dont say that. I know times can be hard and we despair over the mistakes, bad choices we made in the past but what is done is done.
Allah loves you more than you can imagine. So i would advise that you leave everything you are doing right now....perform wudu, pray two rakats, on the last sujood, cry your heart out to Allah, Tell Him all the things that are currently hurting you, complain to Him about you troubles and fears , beg Him for forgiveness and plead with Him to show you the way!
Then, try to be keeping up with your 5 daily prayers and repeat this act over and over.
I would also suggest that you visit http://www.suhaibwebb.com and http://www.yasminmogahed.com. There are loads to inspiring articles there which can help you overcome your hardship and bring tranquility in your heart.
May Allah ease your burden for you and all of us.
i feel there is cover on my heart as no advice works on it....something is binding me to not to pray...
We, the children of Adam have not been created perfect.
Therefore, mistakes and regretful situations are bound to happen.
However, these mistakes are Allah's way of testing our love for him.
The fact that you have been crying is in itself a sign of imaan.
It means that still in your heart there is light but unfortunately,
there is some darkness in there.
Allah azza wajal placed you in this situation to remove all the darkness.
He wants this repentance to feed that light left in your heart.
The light will then destroy the darkness,
and your body will want to adopt the deen.
Look at Firawn, he killed people but still Allah told Musa a.s to remind him,
Because a reminder might benefit him.
This shows that Allah was willing to forgive a despicable tyrant,
If he turned in forgiveness to Allah.
This teaches us to 'never lose hope.'
Remember, your sin is not greater than Allah s.w.t's
mercy and forgiveness. Just start fresh inshaAllah x
Good and compassionate advice, thank you.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam sister, yeh I'm praying now and I'm more religious....listening to Islamic lectures and learning more day by day about Islam
I guess Allah loves me that gave me time to repent before I die.