My husband has personal conversations with other woman
Salams,
If a muslim man is married and is having a personal conversation with a muslim woman everyday that is also married. How should the wife deal with this situation?
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As salamu alaykum,
The wife should talk to her husband, telling him that she doesn´t like the situation he is creating and that he should stay away of women in general and married women specially, what would he think if she was the one having conversations?
Communication and giving an opportunity to him to change the situation, if not I am sure she will know what to do.
All my Unconditional Respect,
María
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María
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Assalamu alaykum Sister,
His wife should kindly and peacefully ask him what is going on, why he needs to do what he is doing.
If he answers to her satisfaction, of something being important and unavoidable, if she feels it is acceptable she should accep it.
If she feels it is ruining her married life, leading to problems between her and her husband and is causing fears of him deserting her on account of another woman, she should oppose it, first alone, if he understands fine, if not involve the family, still not than produce proof of any "affair" going on between the two and bring the matter to light.
If it works with herself or help of family and the issue is solved, try to live in peace.
If all efforts of peace and reconciliation fail, after all necessary hard work, the only option left to seek peace is divorce, then a woman should take that course.
It is quite early stage now in your matter.
Try to be kind, ask in peace, see how things go, Insha Allah you shall be fine.
Always take such matters softly without much accusations else it could lead to further divide between you and him and close more doors to reconciliation.
Be sure of what you see and believe. Trust Allah, pray for your khair, read Qur'an with meanings with your husband, daily if you can, Insha Allah this would help.
Love normally, do not show extra or less than before. Remain calm, normal and continue the charm and hope the best from Allah.
May Allah forgive us and have mercy upon all of us.
Salaam,
Your brother.
My father has personal conversations with another woman as well (both are muslim). He has also visited her numerous times which is why me and mother believe he is having an affair. We have confronted him about this but he says that me and my mother just like to make up stories so that we drive him away from us. I have found numerous evidence, such as text messages, emails and pictures that confirm his affair. My mother has become seriously depressed due to this. My father has said that you can leave me if you want and also your mother but I will never give her a divorce. My mother tells me she wishes to leave him but says she cannot till I finish my education next year. I dont see this as any reason but I did not argue. I am scared that my mother will not stick to her word and stay with him despite of his behaviour. He talks to this woman every night now and visits there whenever he cans. Any advice to how to resolve this situation will be greatly appreciated.
jd89, please log in and write your question as a separate post, thank you.
Wael
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Salam,
I am in a hurtful situation. I have a child with my husband and found evidence of an affair. Emails and pictures of the both of them living in their own world, extremely intimate and they go away together etc wen he was supposed to be on a guys trip. She is a Muslim as well. I am so torn inside and he keeps saying he did nothing however all the emails and intimate information shows another side to him. I look at divorce as the last option because I don't want this woman to have any part of my child's life. How can I deal with this? If I get divorced my child's life will change drastically and as a mother I don't want to do that. Is there any hope? Isnt adultery in Islam similar to murder? He has caused me great pain and I try to keep positive as much as possible for my child. Any advice ?
I'm sorry to hear about what you have experienced. It is indeed a great betrayal when a spouse does this. Please log in and write your question as a separate post and we can advise you, Insha'Allah.
Wael
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May Allah help you in difficult time .
Why are so many Muslim Men cheating these days? It get's me worried, and I am single. What should a wife do to fulfill her husband, so he does not cheat on her.
I dont know but I am starting to get worried also. Not all Muslim men are like this, those who truly do fear Allah & follow His laws, those are the ones who wont cheat. Also there are those who aren't religious who don't cheat so I think it depends on the person. Sometimes it also depends on the situation he is in, if he interacts with someone at his workplace he can also develop feelings even if it is strictly business related. Sometimes a wife does everything she can to fulfill her husband's needs but as we are human beings there is always a chance we may fall to sin.
Truth is we can't depend on anyone but Allah. I think that is what He is trying to teach us by showing us these examples of human nature. All I know is that there will be no cheating in Jannah, so that's what is keeping me from wondering if I will ever find a faithful spouse. Sometimes when you look at the big picture instead of focusing on the negatives, your anxiety & fears start to slowly melt away.