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I haven’t heard from my muslim husband in days

How long will I have to wait?

I just married my muslim husband and everything seemed to be fine. Earlier this week he dropped me off at my mom's house without a kiss or anything.  The ride there he told me to trust him and I'd understand later. I haven't heard from him or seen him in days.  He did however tell his brother to tell me to be patient. I've been praying to Allah, doing as my husband asked me to.  But I still find myself worrying.  He told me that I'm his only wife and he wanted to be with me for the rest of his life.  I really need an understanding of why I haven't seen him.  Is he testing me? Oh and we didn't get married through paper.  He told me that sexual intercourse consummated marriage and our commitment to each other made us husband and wife. Is this true as well? Please help me understand.

Flip24


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  1. Did you have a proper Islamic Nikah?

  2. OP: I just married my muslim husband and everything seemed to be fine. Earlier this week he dropped me off at my mom's house without a kiss or anything.  The ride there he told me to trust him and I'd understand later. .......  He did however tell his brother to tell me to be patient. I've been praying to Allah, doing as my husband asked me to.  But I still find myself worrying.  He told me that I'm his only wife and he wanted to be with me for the rest of his life. .........  Is he testing me? Oh and we didn't get married through paper............  He told me that sexual intercourse consummated marriage and our commitment to each other made us husband and wife. Is this true as well? Please help me understand.

    You don't become a husband and wife just by having sex. I have feeling your husband may be already married. He may use you for sex and to get some immigration benefits. His brother probably knows every thing.

  3. I am more than cent percent sure he is pakistani. Sexual intercourse before marriage is fornication in islam, you should inform his family immediately also police.

    No matter what its haram and the longer you keep it secret the more sinner you become.

  4. Ask Allah for forgiveness he wil surely forgive you as he is gafooror raheem and this is not marriage this is Zinah he should not be imam or mufti by him self marriage in islam have proper way where person take place from both side and have witness and imam mufti or molvi make nikah and khutbah and all paper work is not compulsry but now a days its need as a proof so no bad people can change their saying anyways this is not marriage may allah guide us all

  5. Assalaamualaykum Flip24,

    I am really sorry that your husband/partner has left you in this state of anxiety. You write:

    "The ride there he told me to trust him and I'd understand later. I haven't heard from him or seen him in days....find myself worrying...Is he testing me?"

    He really should have told you why he is leaving you at your mother's house. It is not for him to test you...it is for Allah.

    Continue to pray, but when he comes back, explain to him that your feelings were hurt by his behavior and that it is unacceptable to you for him to repeat this in the future. Also, demand that the marriage is confirmed on paper. Talk to him about these things while still at your mother's house, and stay at your mother's house until he has given you an answer that you are satisfied and comfortable with.

    Hugs,

    Nor

  6. SHAME DONT EVEN TRY TO GET HOLD OF HIM HE IS A LIAR. AND HE MADE OUR ISLAMIC WEDDINGS LOOK BAD

  7. shame dont even try to look for him he is bad news

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