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I feel depressed and suicidal, how can I get rid of these bad feelings

I am in such pain

I am in such pain

AOA,

I  am a 19 year old girl.  I belong to a very good family and practice religion as far as I can. I was so happy a year back then I came to know about masturbation. I didn't know at that time that it was a sin or it will become a habit but as far I'm concerned it wasn't a habit for me.
Last year during these days I did it for about 45 times but then I read about it in Islam and left it, but this thing stuck in my mind that I am a bad girl.  I can't be happy; I remained depressed all the time.  I'm in the top in my class but after that I lost interest in everything: studies,  playing games with my sisters, talking to anyone and even prayers.
I thought about suiciding as my life was about success, and I was n where near that.
I wanted to live happy as everyone does- everyone is happy.
Now after a year I again get the same feelings,  and I again did that. Now I think these feelings will never leave me and I curse the moment I came to know about it. Tell me some solution how I can get rid of these bad feelings and how to keep myself away from depression. I just want to forget about it. Please help me, I seriously need help.

afifak


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  1. wslam.
    Dear sister,
    You should be well aware of the fact that Shaitaan causes you to commit this shameful act.
    In the sentence of ur life,Shaitan may be a comma but never let him be a fullstop.
    Ur lucky that Allah has guided u and u r working towards getting rid of this habit.
    The only solution in the world for getting rid of this habit is that u start praying salah five times a day regularly.A salah in which u feel a connection with Allah not just an ordinary exercise.Not just three or four, Im asking u to pray entire five times a day regularly.Make Salah ur oxygen.Believe me,u could try a thousand tips to get rid of masturbation and u'll fail again and again if you dont commit urself to Salah.Sexual desires are the strongest and most the powerful emotion humans have.But Allah is the most powerful and Mighty who created these desires for man.So if you dont enslave urself to Allah,no doubt u'll become a slave to ur sexual desires.
    With Salah comes dua.Make sincere dua to Allah to forgive u for the past mistakes and protect u in the future.If you dont control this now,this habit can destroy ur bright future.

    Never get disappointed.Never loose hope in.Allah.Allah SWT loves His slaves who turn back to Him after realizing their faults.Quran says:
    "Verily,Salat prevents from shameful acts and bad deeds."
    Remember that these feelings u get are not a sin in ur account.Sexual desires are a gift and blessing to mankind from Allah.Sin is when.u act upon these feelings in the wrong way.If u get these feelings,doesnt mean that u r a bad girl.Having such feelings in just so normal.Whenever such thoughts and feelings approach u just seek refuge from and try to get rid of these thoughts.Ur a gud girl.Allah SWT will help you.The solution for depression too lies in Salah.
    Dont get depressed.Reconnect to Allah.Doors of mercy are open.

  2. Assalama'alaikum, I read your post and definitely believe that Allah has guided you and opened your heart to the truth. Allah is forgiving and most merciful. He saved you in you realizing that what you were engaging in was a sin. Allah has said that if you come to Him for forgiveness with sins even as multiple as the sea foam in the entire world He will forgive you. Keep this in mind that if you kill yourself you will have committed a sin far worse than masturbation. You would have committed a sin where there will be no salvation. The devil is trying to play games with you. He cant get you through masturbation hence he is trying to get you to commit a sin far worse than it. You have to be strong. Say your five daily prayers, recite istigfar frequently, and keep yourself busy. Surround yourself with people and dont isolate yourself as that is when the devil comes to you and whispers into your heart to engage in prohibited acts. As long as you pray your five daily prayers with sincerity in your heart, whatever bad thing you are doing you will eventually stop. Allah is Merciful. Hold on tight and dont let iblis steal your future.

  3. It seems shaitan is trying to mess with u

    Do all yur 5 prayers on time
    Do your morning and evening azkar daily and completely whether u have period or not.
    Recite surah baqarah and finish within 3 days. Do this ever 3 days. Shaitan cannot handle surah baqarah.

  4. Asalamwalaikum sister

    Shaitan is trying to get into your head to make you feel so so bad, because you have finally realised what your doing is completely wrong! I understand it may be so hard once you get addicted to it but mash'Allah the good thing is that you have realised sister!
    Try your best to read namaz 5 times a day or as much as you can, recite the Qur'an and whilst making Dua speak to Allah like Allah is very close to you and can understand how badly you want to be forgiven.

    I hope this gets easier for you In Shaa Allah Ameen

  5. MY DAUGHTER !
    SLAMALYKUM , I AM 100% AGREED ON THOSE ADVIZES YOU RECEVIED FROM OTHER BROTHERS AND SISTERS PLEASE DO ACCORDINGLY INSHA'ALLAH ALLAH WILL HELP YOU , LET ME ADVISE YOU THAT YOU BETTER DISCUSS THIS MATTER WITH YOUR MOTHER OR SISTER OR ANY CLOSE FRIEND WHO CAN CONVEY THE MESSEGE TO YOUR PARENTS SPECIALY TO YOUR MOTHER LET THEM FEEL THE BASIC NEED , LET THEM THINK ABOUT YOUR MARREGE , AND PRAY ALLAH SUBHANA TO SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM , I WILL ALSO PRAY FOR YOU

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