He said someone has cast a magic spell on me; Is this a result of the same?
Black Magic
Asalam o alikum
sorry if i have posted a wrong question. but i am confused a lot. some scholar told my family that someone has caste black magic on me which is producing hurdles in my life. we came to know when i was facing difficulty in marriage proposal. people come and go. i know many people will say that it happens to every girl but we can say that circumstances can be different.
The scholar have told us the way to turn off the effect of black magic but there are hurdles in it 🙁
My family was considering a proposal from a year, first they were hesitating and taking time now they are willing my family liked the other family but my family turned to istekhara for approval. they are seeing bad dreams or unclear dreams which can have good or bad thing in it. now my family is rejecting onthe basis of dreams they saw. i have query that is the black magic has effect on the istekhara? i have read the articles about istekhara and it is mentioned that it is not all about dreaming.
I want to ask
- is the dream is telling that the black magic has an effect on the proposal?
- may be my family rejecting the proposal due to black magic? how much the decision and istekhara can be effected by black magic?
please reply me soon my family is going to reject the proposal in two three days. i am also interested in the proposal but can't say anything to my family as the dreams may be telling the truth. i hope you understand my problem, i am really confused and i think i haven;t been able to convey my feeling to you in right manner?
JazakAllah
~ confused larki
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Assalamualaikum,
Magic and Istikhaarah are two distinct matters. Istikhaarah is for seeking Allah's counsel, while magic can result in evil dreams.
Whoever told you that magic spell has been cast on you, what is the method he used, to tell you that? If he told you out of nowhere, claiming to have knowledge of the unseen, he is a liar.
If you personally did Istikhaarah and the family rejected the proposal, it would be wise to accept this as a result of your Istikhaarah. Istikhaarah need not result in dreams, but they may. It results in Help from Allah in choosing the correct option. You should personally do Istikhaarah whenever a proposal is being considered.
Muhammad Waseem
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You also said that he has told you how to deal with this "magic". Can you tell us what he asked you to do?
Salaams,
Sister, the reality is that there can be difficulty finding a spouse and securing a proposal even if there is no black magic involved. Some people wait several years, and go through several "prospectives", before a nikkah finally goes through. It doesn't mean necessarily there is something greater at work. Sometimes it's just life.
In our day and age there is a trend to find something to blame, some hidden "cause" to a problem so we can extinguish it, get rid of it, and move on into the beautiful, blessed life we anticipate. Life isn't a fairy tale. In fact, most of the time, plans are derailed, re-drawn, or scrapped altogther and replaced. No one is immune to this, and a lot of times people waste their energy trying to find a "boogey man" to place all the difficulties on so they won't have to be patient or take hard looks at themselves to see how they can make things easier on themselves. In reality, we all sabotage ourselves to some extent. Most of us don't even know when or how we do it until we are forced into a corner and have no choice but to put ourselves under a microscope.
I am not suggesting you don't do istikhara. In fact, istikhara should always be done if there's a proposal on the table. But what I am suggesting, while you are seeking Allah's guidance, is also to seek Him to show you yourself. Ask Him to show you what about yourself might be contributing to the hurdles in your life, or what you might be able to improve within your character upon to make yourself a more desirable wife to the men who may be interested.
I also think it's good for your family to research who they go to for spiritual advice. Like brother Waseem said, people cannot just hang a sign on their door that they are an imam or mawlana and start telling people what's going on in their life with no authority. Spiritual leaders should be chosen based on the discipline with which they've practiced the deen, their extensive knowledge of fiqh, Quran, and shariah, and the purity of their character. These attributes are not someone can cultivate in a few months or years, but take decades to a lifetime to perfect. Generally speaking, someone who doesn't know you or your family very, very well but feels confident to "diagnose" your problems would be suspect in my view.
-Amy
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I was engaged but the grooms side had issues with us and they broke of the engagement when marriage was close, they thought that we would give in and reconciliate on their terms but we did not and decided it was better that the matter be ended. many other proposals were there but nothing seemed to initiate. An aalim was consulted who said that some form of bandish has been placed on the girl by those people as a sign of revenge via her jewelry items which were returned.
can anyone help me to find out whether there really is a bandish on me? and if there is how can i cure myself of it.