Sexual intimacy in marriage in Islam
Salamualaikum Sir,
Meri shadi hone wali hai aur mujhe yeh information chahiye ke as per islam aapni wife ke sath kaise SEX karna chahiye.
Regards,
- Ahmed
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Translation:
"I am to get married soon and I need information on the etiquettes of 'sexual relations' between husband and wife in Islam."
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Brother Ahmed, As-salamu alaykum,
Congratulations on your upcoming marriage and may Allah make it a source of blessings and happiness for you in this life and the next.
Zawaj.com has many good articles on the subject of sex in Islam, and the intimacy of marriage. See this page:
Sex in Islam
In particular see the articles in the first section, "Islamic Perspective on Sexuality." I think these will be most relevant to you.
If you need something in Urdu then I don't know, maybe one of our other editors can guide you to a good website.
Best Regards,
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salamu Aleikum Brother,
I hope you are fine. Well, I think that it is not so difficult to explain the boundaries and rules of a sexual
husband-wife relationship in Islam.
First:
There has to be foreplay and kissing for Rassul Allah said: All games are futile except from 3: archery,
training one' s horse and playing with one's wife. And he said: Don't turn your backs on your wives
after sex without giving them their right, too. In Islam, both husband and wife need to reach an
orgasm. I would recommend you to be very gentle with your wife on the first night and tell her how
beautiful she is. Compliment her and give her the feeling that she is the hottest woman alive.
And then try to see how the situation develops. Maybe there will be some accidental touching.....that may
lead to more...... Don't be pushy, rather sensitive and caring. Caress her body with your hands and
your tongue, for oral sex is allowed in the religion of Islam as a means of stimulation. There are scholars
who say that it is makruh to look at the private parts, but that only refers to a situation in which you
want to have a child out of the contact for the child may get blind according to the hadith.
Be caring, say nice things to each other, and don't forget to do it at least once a week, especially on
Friday night for there is a lot of sawab in it.
The prophet s.a.v.s. said: Anyone who follows the rahbania(celibacy) , who refrains from eating meat and
perfuming himself, is not of my Ummah. And whenever you enter your wives in intercourse, the sawab
is comparable to the sawab of Jihad.
Good luck in your marriage brother