I married before my divorce, now pregnant
I had my nikah done two years ago. I was happy with him until we started having problems. During this period, I met with someone who worked in the same place as me. We became good friends and started getting really close. He knew about me and that my nikah had already taken place, but still he formed a relationship with me physically.
During the physical relationship we started falling in love with each other. He wanted to marry me because he said a relationship like that is wrong. After one month he did nikah with me. After two months I submitted my case of divorce in pakistan to get divorced to the first man. My divorce was final in november. I'm now pregnant, and my parents are cursing me and telling me to abort the child. I dont know what to do, I'm feeling really scared. I want to know what the solution can be to this?
-sarah14
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Dear Sister Sarah,
Really felt sorry for the situation you are in. But the thing is that You have not divorced from the first person and you did second Nikkah which is almost invalid. And regarding the baby I can't pass a verdict here.
In this case you need to consult a sound Scholar in your city.
Allaah Knows the Best!
the damage has been done, now what to do? keep the baby, if you have an abortion, you would be killing the child. the child is alive right now. many sisters who had an abortion, right now most of them regret it.
peace...
Assalaamualaikam
The first thing to think about is your baby. Your baby is a blessing from Allah, and at the moment has one person to rely on for protection from the world... you. This is a role granted to you by Allah, for He knows you have the strength to protect this young life. Please don't be tempted to harm your child. Even if you do not feel able to provide the child with a stable home yourself, there are alternatives to abortion, so don't let people make you feel you have no choice. Some people may say that a child born out of wedlock is haraam, but this is not true - a person is not haraam, especially not based on the actions of others before they were even born. Your child is innocent, and a creation of Allah.
In the Quran, we are told that we should protect life and not act to end it. There are even specific references to the importance of protecting the lives of our children.
Regarding your marriages, I think it would be best to discuss the matter with an imam or a lawyer who has studied Islamic marital law - you need an expert conclusion on the matter.
You and your new partner both need to reflect on what has happened, though, and repent for the transgressions which have occurred. Then, work to build an Islamic home for your child and yourselves.
May Allah protect you and your child from harm, and guide you to the straight path.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
Amen! Ya Rabb!
Allaah Knows the Best!
AsSalaamu Alaikum Sister,
I agree with other's that you should keep your innocent Baby. Perhaps, Allah will forgive you and have mercy on you, by the kindness and love that you show to your Baby. The Baby is a creation of Almighty Allah, and therefore you should love it for His sake.
In the Holy Quran, the most hateful act to Allah after shirk is to kill a soul, and then zina.
Almighty Allah says:
“And those who do not implore besides Allah any other god, and do not kill the soul which Allah has made sacred—except in the pursuit of justice—and do not commit adultery. Whoever does that will face penalties. The punishment will be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will dwell therein in humiliation forever.” (Quran 25: 68 – 69)
"...Whoever kills a soul—unless it is for murder or corruption on earth—it is as if he killed the whole of mankind; and whoever saves it, it is as if he saved the whole of mankind..." (Quran 5: 32)
As for other issues regarding your case, I'd urge you to follow the advice given by Sister Midnightmoon.
Sarah ,
Your Nikah is invalid as you were married to your husband during that time .
You have commited a Big sin and shamefull act .
Zina (fornication or adultery) is one of the major sins; the degree of sin is worse and the punishment is multiplied if the woman is married, because that is a betrayal of her husband … Hence the punishment for an unmarried zaani is one hundred lashes, and the punishment for a previously married zaani is stoning to death.
It is not permissible for a Muslim to turn a woman against her husband because that leads to the breakup of families, even if there was a bitter dispute between the spouses. Some scholars regarded this as a major sin. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “He is not one of us who turns a woman against her husband.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2175; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
If a person turns a woman against her husband and spoils her for him so that she leaves him, then he marries her, his marriage is not valid and they must be separated, according to the view favoured by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah (may Allah have mercy on him). This is also the view of the Maalikis
Please refer to below fatwa from islamQA for clear details
http://islamqa.info/en/201510
he had physical relations with me?
he still formed?
what he had,he still formed?
i can see how you were enjoying his flirtatous messages and replying in the same way when you were married to your first husband.
the reality is you were thinking that i'm at work and my husband would not know so i can have some extra fun but it resulted in this.
you can cheat the people of internet and not AllahSWT and his servants.
your first husband has done dua against you.
be prepared for the judgement of AllahSWT.
la hawla quwata illa billah.
AsSalaam Alaikum Brother Irfan,
How do you know that her first husband has made a du'a against her?
Even though it was not right for her to engage in a relationship before her divorce, but everything has happened already and she is carrying a baby, so we do not need to scare her (as she is already scared about everything).They can solve the issue when she meets an Imam, inshaAllah.
i cannot explain "logically" if thats what you are expecting. 🙂
the answer i can give you is do dua and ask AllahSWT whether i'm true or not,he is close to your jugular vein...he will answer 🙂
Narrated Abu Huraira: Allah's Apostle said, "Allah said, 'I will declare war against him who shows hostility to a pious worshipper of Mine. And the most beloved things with which My slave comes nearer to Me, is what I have enjoined upon him; and My slave keeps on coming closer to Me through performing Nawafil (praying or doing extra deeds besides what is obligatory) till I love him, so I become his sense of hearing with which he hears, and his sense of sight with which he sees, and his hand with which he grips, and his leg with which he walks; and if he asks Me, I will give him, and if he asks My protection (Refuge), I will protect him; (i.e. give him My Refuge) and I do not hesitate to do anything as I hesitate to take the soul of the believer, for he hates death, and I hate to disappoint him." (Book #76, Hadith #509) [Bukhari]
Walaikumusalam warehmatullah e wabarakatuhu!
Brother Issah! Just leave those people who are so ......... of themselves. You got my point.
Allaah Knows the Best!
Sarah,
Whatever you do, don't abort your unborn child. This child is innocent and has a right to life. Seek advice from a learned Muslim Scholar about what steps you need to take. Do not delay as time is very important here. Repent to Allah for your sins and no matter what you do, do not kill the life that lies within you.
Salam