Is there anything I can do to get him back in my life?
Hello all,
I'm not muslim.....I'm a hindu girl. I have lost a lot of things in a year. I have lost my confidence in my working life due to cheats done by my manager with my career. I lost my father and I almost moved into depression as I was surviving by seeing his face. Now I have lost my love.
I had two very good friends. One of them is a guy. We were the group of three and the girl from our group got married. Later, me and this guy started spending time with each other. I had feelings for him when we started knowing each other, but during the initial days of our friendship he told me that he cannot have a love marriage as his parents are not in favour of it. He cannot even ask his parents because he is scared that this discussion can harm his father's health. He had an affair for 4 years and broke up because of this reason. To get rid of these feeling I flew out from our country and I told him the reason. After 3 months I came back to my country and things were normal between us, like friends only.
But after my father's death, this guy held my hand and took me out from the situation. Brought a smile back on my face and we both finally expressed our feelings for each other. This time we both had feelings for each other but as I mentioned above he is afraid of telling his love life to his parents, so we cannot continue this relationship. I told him to put the things on our destiny and see if we can meet. For two months the relationship was beautiful and we were cherishing our togetherness....our moments.
But a week later of two months completion he saw a girl for marriage and on the spot said yes for marriage. He messaged me and told me clearly that it's over between us. It was easy for him to move out from this relationship without giving a 1% effort of saying no to that girl and creating a situation in our favor.
Now, I really want him to realise what he lost after this breakup and also at the same time I want him back in my life with a honest commitment. Please tell me if you can pray for me to Allah to get success from this lost relationship.
-Maggi
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Salaams,
I see a few things in your post that leave me wondering. You say you are not Muslim, yet you are asking us to assist with this problem. Is the guy in question you're talking about Muslim? Because if he's not, I doubt anything we would be able to say will matter. Since this is an "Islamic" advice site, anything we could say would probably not apply to someone who is not Muslim, and probably wouldn't be accepted either.
If, in fact, he is Muslim, I am sorry to have to tell you that any relationship with you, including marriage, would be strictly forbidden to him. Islamically, he should not have been having any type of relationship with you. Muslim men cannot be friends with women in the conventional sense, and neither is dating allowed. As far as marriage, Muslim men may only marry other Muslims, Christians, or Jews. Since you tell us you are Hindu, marrying you would have been forbidden, and the marriage not even considered valid for him.
It seems all of that is irrelevant now, since he's informed you he's found someone else to marry. At this point, making dua to Allah to have him back would be improper. It sounds like the only and best option for you at this point is to let him go graciously, and move forward with your own life and goals. Perhaps one of them can be learning more about Islam and how it can enrich your life and heal the heartbreaks you've endured.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
yes Maggi,this is v appreciable,ur inner consious still guide u to go to Allah.Believe me Allah can not come in our Vision.Pl try to forget that man who left u.In ur own,just make a v fine bath,Sit any where,close ur eyes&first of all be v thankful to Allah,for doing every thing nice to you.Than ask OH MY LORD OF THE LORDS,ALLAH;JUST BLESS ME HAPPINESS&SATISFACTION.Pl do this every day before the sunset&before the sun rise.Pl never be in bed in these two times of fortunes.Allah loves its every creation.Take care.If u get out of ur all crises,than,search the gt blesser.the great merciful,but not in self made statues.U Will find Allah all the time with u.Thanks.
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