Bleeding after sexual intercourse, repentance and salat
In a Qudsi hadith the Prophet reported that Allah says, "..my servant does not come closer to Me with anything more dear to Me than that which I made obligatory upon him. My servant keeps coming closer to Me with more voluntary deeds, until I love him. When I love him, I become His ear by which he hears, his eyes by which he sees, his hand by which he holds and his foot by which he walks. If he asks Me anything I shall give him. If he seeks My protection I shall grant him My protection"(Al-Bukhari 6021)
I am 16 this year. I just lost my virginity. I had sex with my guy friend yesterday. I truly regret it.That was my first time doing sex. I felt remorseful and regretful after that. I realized I have committed a grave sin. I want to repent. I was truly stupid for following my selfish desires.
Yesterday,I realized I bled after the intercourse.The blood was red at first and slowly later in the day,it turned to brown.Today,I checked myself and I saw a little darker brown blood on my underwear.I would like to know if I can still solat or pray even though I still have this bleeding.I checked online and some resources stated that it is normal to bleed after first time sex.
But I want to know,what blood is this? can i still pray? I had my period about 19 days ago so I don't think it's my period as I bled immediately after my sexual intercourse.
Please answer my question as I feel terribly lost. I want to to repent and ask for Allah's forgiveness. Please help me.
-zachyte
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Assalamu alaykum Sister,
Turn to Allah in repentance. Seek forgiveness, do tawbah from the heart.
Remove the cause of sin from your life and treat Shaytaan as your enemy.
Stop being friends with guys and getting emotional with them.
If you want to share things, there are many girls to do that. You do not need a guy only for that.
Also, stop contact with this guy, turn to Allah in repentance, never turn back to this sin again.
Alhamdulillaah you wrote to us, it makes me sad as your brother, what happened, but I or you cannot erase it.
Yes, Allah can convert evil deeds in to good deeds, Insha Allah.
Please read the verses properly and practice them in your life:
111. And lo! unto each thy Lord will verily repay his works in full. Lo! He is Informed of what they do.
112. So tread thou the straight path as thou art commanded, and those who turn (unto Allah) with thee, and transgress not. Lo! He is Seer of what ye do.
113. And incline not toward those who do wrong lest the Fire touch you, and ye have no protecting friends against Allah, and afterward ye would not be helped.
114. Establish worship at the two ends of the day and in some watches of the night. Lo! good deeds annul ill deeds. This is a reminder for the mindful.
115. And have patience, (O Muhammad), for lo! Allah loseth not the wages of the good. - Surah Huud.
Regarding the other part of the questions, sisters will Insha Allah help you.
May Allah accept your tawbaah and make you pious again by His grace, for Allah is able to do all things.
As Allah says in Surah Ash Shura:
25. And He it is Who accepteth repentance from his bondmen, and pardoneth the evil deeds, and knoweth what ye do.
26. And accepteth those who do good works, and giveth increase unto them of His bounty. And as for disbelievers, theirs will be an awful doom.
Pray salaat on time, turn quickly to the Qur'an, read it with meanings, try to understand it and put down your questions on a separate note.
Study Islam and do not stress yourself. Allah will help you if you seek His help. Besides Allah we have no protecting friend nor helper.
Salaam,
Your brother.
Salaam zachyte
Sister i am very sorry for the pain you are feeling. The blood is of that breaking of the hymen of every woman will have the first time after sex with or without marriage. Also some women do bleed and some women wont every woman is made differant. I suggest you get yourself checked out at the doctor to be safe and did you use protection. Yes sister you regret the mistake you have made and therefore now you are feeling guility and fearing of allah. All i will honestly say to you is dont do it again and repent for your mistake what is done is done you cant change it. I hope you wasnt forced to have sex and it appears to me very sadden you gave it up just like this at 16 years old not judging you. Inshallah allah bring you back onto the correct path. My sincere heart goes out to you as you are so young and you gave it up without knowing what it means for you in the long run. No one has a right to judge you but i pray you now realise the sin and the impact this may have on you and also your family. Your not selfish you wanted to be loved but there are other ways of going about it then committ sins i hope this bring it home to you and you sincerly repent to only allah and only you know you are sorry w/salaams.
zachyte,
For your sake, I hope you used protection. If not...go see a doctor without delay. Allah forbid you become pregnant or have a sexually transmitted disease.
Repent and seek Allah's forgiveness. Your post breaks my heart because I too have a daughter who is 16 years old. You must feel very alone, sad, and angry with yourself. I implore you my love...don't let this man sleep with you again. He is only out to satisfy his needs...his wants, he doesn't give a dam about you. He isn't going to be there if you turn up pregnant (God forbid).
Turn to Allah, repent. Keep away from this guy "friend" of yours. He is out for one thing and only one thing. I hope you can be strong enough to stay away from him or any guy for that matter. A young girl has no business even being around guys because unfortunately...this is where it leads.
Salam
Assalaamu alaykum Sister Umm Muhammad,
Whether the guy stands with her in pregnancy in such case or not, it is not something we know for a surety. He may stand up and be with her, but what is more sure is the grave sin and the displeasure it earns of Allah. Even if the guy stays with her in her hardship, it is of no good use until they both repent to Allah for earning His displeasure.
Displeasure because He guides us, made us Muslims and we come out of the state of submission and throw away that Guidance aside and follow our desires, our lusts.
May Allah guide them both by this episode and make them turn to Him in submission.
Salaam,
Your brother.
guys mom is a converter so cant a muslim girl marry that guy?????????????
Salaam Salma,
Sister are u asking some question of ur own, if so you have it posted else u wont be able to get attention, I think it haven't got attention of admin yet, u maybe waiting 4 reply so have it posted............... Allah Hafiz.................
Salam,
I'm sorry to hear this. Did you use protection?? All you can do now is beg for forgiveness and become as pious as ever. If you need help in anyway or need someone to talk to PLEASE tell me and I will be glad to help. I really mean it!
Jzk
May you all see this as a reminder to fulfill the desires of our lord before your own.
Salaam
Lets stop talking about what a great sin she has committed. Let her ask for forgiveness and inshahAllah Allah will forgive her if she really feels guilty.
Now DOES ANYONE HAVE AN ANSWER TO HER REAL QUESTION? Can she pray while she is bleeding so that she can REPENT herself?
NOTE: This is not menstrual bleeding, so please lets help our sister.
The only person that actually understood the question! Very frustrating reading through these replies.
The bleeding is from the hymen, not the uterus. If it is now brown (which indicates the blood is old and not fresh), and spotty, chances are the hymen has stopped bleeding already. So technically, she's not bleeding anywhere inside her. I see no reason why she cannot pray. Also, if she's 19 days into her cycle, chances of becoming pregnant are less than if she was say 10 to 14 days into the cycle, which bodes well for her as 16 is so young.
Salaam. Im married mother of 3 . recently i had a problem spotting and bleeding . Nearly 7month now im still same. I dont know wat too do i read my namaz but sometimes i get stress wen im bleeding dark brown red i dont know can i read my namaz.i could not understand its period or normal bleeding. Can u reply me brother or tell me any dua for my problem. Jkz
Assalam alaikum Sister,
You should go to see a doctor as soon as possible as you have already waited 7 months. Seeking a diagnosis online wouldn't be possible--and it best to consult with your regular family physician. It could be stress or it could be some kind of hormonal imbalance. There really are a wide range of reasons for this.
As for your prayers, I suggest that you email the local Shaikh and describe this issue so that they can give you a detailed answered regarding your prayers, inn shaa Allah.
Hope you see the doctor soon.
May Allah give you shifa, Ameen.
Salaam,
First and foremost, it is very brave of you to write what you have written and I hope this message reaches you in the best of spirits. Ameen.
Hopefully, these few ideas may help you:
1. Turn to Allah in repentance and ask for forgiveness from your heart. This you may do in salaah or in a dua at night, as the angels will protect you at night till the morning, In Sha Allah.
2. After repenting a little, you may and can decide to tell someone you feel most comfortable with telling - perhaps your mother. In Sha Allah, she will understand and will help you with your struggle.
Allah is the Most Forgiving, Most Merciful and can lead anyone astray as well as convert a deed to its opposite, if He wills.
I pray for the best of you sister Zachyte and all I can finally say is that I am happy to hear that you are repenting such a deed and have learnt your mistake.
Jazak Allah