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Hopeless and frustrated with life, I want to be happy

Finding a job can be difficult in this job market. Here are some tips.

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Asalam Alaikum  all brothers /sisters,

This is my second post.My first post was"shud I marry him or not Mufti says I can"( It was a long mail since i have to made a decision.The problem was my husband divorced me(talaq bayan)broken the nikah but according to mufti its in my hand that I remarry or redo nikah with i was confused to do it or not bcoz i dont want divorce but I cant see any change in him.If you people have patience to read my that post do advice me.

My second problem is I have lost my new born baby boy then after 2 months divorce and now since 5 months I am searching for a good job but I am not getting any.I am highly educated.I want to get busy so that i forget my past.sometime i get so frustrated that i fight with Allah cry to him in lonely.I sometime feel so hopeless that feel like going back to my ex husband since (i can do re nikah with him).but then someone says inside me dont go back to him.I prey all 5  namaaz ,do istagfaar all the time,keep fast,read tahazud, read quran cry in my namaaz but nothing good is happening.I dont indulge myself in gibat,hasad(jeleousy) or any bad habbit.

My parents are old now and at this stage they have to face all this,it hurts me the most.I am the youngest in my family after my marriage they were free but now again.....anyways...I have accepted the truth that divorce was written in my destiny so i got it.I dont complain to Allah for this.but I desperately need a job.After so much of pain i think i deserve some happiness.I am working hard for my job.give interviews but i dont get any reply from their side.I want to live a nice life which is good for both duniya and aakhrat.I do sabr but sometime get so depressed and get hopeless.Its effecting my health also. please advice me.

Allah Hafiz.


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  1. Salam Sister,

    Have patience and faith. In Sha Allah, you will be rewarded for your good deeds. Patience is virtue. Ameen.

  2. Assalamu allykum my dearest sister,after reading your last post and this one...i feel your pain...continue your prayers and all...
    "In every hardship there is relief"
    may be Allah s.w.t is testing your patience.
    But i have hope something great which will please you is on its way insha.allah.
    Read this dua' which brother waseem wrote for you, in your last post when you are frustrated:
    "inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un"(verily,we belong to Allah and truly to Him shall we return).
    "Allahumma ajirni fi musibati wa akhlif li khairan minha"(O Allah! protect me in this calamity that has befallen me and replace it with something better).
    And also this dua' below is a great one,it shows and make you feel that you trust wholehearted Allah Alone.i would recommend it...
    "hasbun Allahu wani'mal wakeel" [Allah (alone) is sufficient for us(qu'ran3:173).
    "La hawl wala quwwata illa billah"[there is neither power nor ability safe by Allah]
    hope i helped.
    your sister aisha

  3. Salam alaikum sister,

    You can also add this dua' to the one given to you by Brother Waseem
    " Allahumma laa sahla illa maa ja'altahu sahlan wa Anta taj'alul-hazna itha shi'ta sahlan".
    "O Allah! There is no ease except in that which You have made easy, and you make the difficulty, if You wish, easy".
    Insha Allah your prayers will be answered soon and Allah will lift all your borden, just trust in Him and have patience. Allah's Apostle (SAW) said, "The invocation of anyone of you is granted (by Allah) if he does not show impatience (by saying, "I invoked Allah but my request has not been granted.")Narrated by Abu Huraira(RA).
    Seek help through patience, and the contact prayer. It is a difficult thing, but not so for the humble. Q2:45

    • Asalam alaikum sister & brother,

      Thank you for all your response and advice.If you have read my old post where I have mentioned that my husband was forcing to get my document but my parents and I thought that his intentions are not right so i did not give him and he took this step of talaq in anger.

      was I wrong in not giving? shud have i given him this wud not have happened? was I a disobidient wife as he says and will be punished by Allah. Please tell me this guilt is killing me.

      • Hi Sister . Can i ask Where do u live and are u married now... i have been through such situation and i can understand the pain you are going through. So wanted to talk.

        • There is no need to ask the sister where she is from. I don't know if you are male or female, but if you are a man then your questions are completely inappropriate.


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