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I broke many promises to Allah – help!

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Assalamualaikum everyone

I need a serious advice about a few things..

I broke many promises to Allah many times, i don't want to sin again. I've tried to not sin for a few months.. I tried for a week alhamdulilah i didn't sin often now, but i still sometimes sin. I promise every time when i did it. I'm still willing to try to stop sinning, i'm still young i don't want to be punished or go to hell

I know i can clothe the poor people, fast for three days and give money to charity

I wanted to fast for three days but i don't want my parents to know. Should i lie or say "I broke a promise to Allah so i'm going to fast for three days"?

And if i go for the give money for charity, can i donate them to the orphans? If so how many money should i donate? What should i do?

I pray to allah every day and ask forgiveness everytime..

Will Allah forgive me? Does Allah still love me? I'm really worried. I'm determined to try to not sin again and broke a promise but i'm bit losing them if i sin..  I hope i do.. I hope i can be forgiven for my sinful acts..

Amateur

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  1. KEEP PRAYING:) have faith 🙂 beleieve in God:) life is a test:-) V all make sins:-) v arent perfect. FIX ur mistakes:-) learn from them:-) God will make everything good:-♥♡♡♥♡♡♡Therr are many soultions in this world:-)

  2. Assalaamualaykum Amateur,

    I hope this message finds you in a better situation than when you first wrote in, and if not, then may Allah relieve your burdens very soon.

    Firstly, I would suggest that you not make any verbal promises to Allah. Allah knows everything about you, and therefore also knows what is in your heart. You do not need to burden yourself further with feeling that you owe Allah something other than your sincere worship. He created you and knows your weaknesses, your strengths, what you are capable of, when you are trying and when you are not.

    I don't see any reason why you couldn't make your charity of choice the donation of clothing to orphans. What a great cause! Also, if it is too difficult to tell your parents that you are fasting, then don't worry about it too much. It is your intention of wanting to do good that Allah is looking for, and He doesn't need you to put yourself in any super uncomfortable situations to "prove" that to Him. Just sincerely ask for forgiveness and you will be forgiven very soon, Inshallah,

    Best,

    Nor

  3. Alhamdulillah that you're striving to please Allah swt. Breaking an oath is a serious matter and it's not helping you to keep away from the sins themselves

    Saying "i will never do this sin" is a very difficult undertaking, almost an impossible goal. And when you sin it adds to the sense of failure.

    So instead try saying "alhamdulillah, I'm not sinning right now. I don't even want to to sin right now". Its an affirmation of your achievement that you haven't sinned. And it keeps you in the moment. You don't need to worry about never committing a sin. You need to worry about the here and the now.

    If a day goes by without you having committed the sin, say "alhamdulillah i didn't sin today! Alhamdulillah Allah loves me so much He protected me against that sin and made me strong!"

    If you do commit a sin, start again. Remind yourself of all the days you didn't sin and say "yes i was weak just there. But i will be strong again". Ask for forgiveness and start a fresh.

    Allah swt loves you so greatly that He is giving you opportunities to repent. His patience and forgiveness never run out. Feel blessed for the love He had shown you by giving you the strength to change your life.

  4. Do not worry. Allah is Ar-Rahman, or The Most Merciful. There is not a single sin that Allah will not forgive except for Shirk. Do not think because you have committed many sins Allah will not forgive you. Even if you put all the sins in the world on one side of a scale, it will not be heavier than Allah's mercy. But after you seek repentance, ask for His guidance and help so you won't repeat it. Try to regulate your prayers (if you already have then choose a different point which you feel weak at and work on it). Find the source of the sin (maybe a friend who always tells you to do it or just Shaytan messing with your head) and fight against that. I know that inshaallah you will be forgiven. Ameen. Remember, no one is perfect.

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