no way around it, he said he has to marry someone else
There is this guy I got to know online from London (born and bred). We like each other a lot and have been talking to each other (not everyday) for almost 2 months. I had brought up marriage a couple of weeks ago, and he said his family wants him to marry from their culture and there was just no way around it.
He always tells me how much he misses me and he seems to be a good practicing Muslim. I too am a practicing Muslim. We seem like a good match. However, as much as he likes and misses me he is not in love - he says that comes when one gets married. I am a practicing Muslim, so how can his parents see it as wrong to marry me just because I am not from their country? Now that seems unislamic.
I have explained to him that it does not make sense that we cannot get married because I am from a different place. How do I get him to marry me?
-Ginger
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Say ok I will be marrying someone else too....
He will ask who.?
With jealousy .....
Dont tell him the name or anythng.... just say well there is someone.... y should I tell u... he will try to find more.... u can through this way bring him to his knees men are too much jealoused....u can take advantage of it....
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lol I'm sorry, this just made me laugh.
You met him online and know him for 2 months. How well do you know this guy. If he knows his family is not goinf to approve then what is he doing meeting people online and wastinf their time if he isnt gona marry them. Just be very careful of this virtual world please. If his family is not aproving and he goes against their wishes then do you think you will have a peaceful marital life or there may be discord and tension among family members. There are a lot of muslim men out there and my suggestion would be to marry someone whom families agree on because in my personal opinion and based on experience i find that is less of a headache in the long run. If you really want to marry him have someone else find out more about him and i dont mean get a stalker on him i mean get your parents involved and dont do all the talking tp him yourself because that gives shaitan an avenue to intervene and put wrong thoughts in your head. If i were you i would just stay away from online things altogether because its not worth the risk.
OP: I had brought up marriage a couple of weeks ago, and he said his family wants him to marry from their culture and there was just no way around it.....He always tells me how much he misses me and he seems to be a good practicing Muslim. I too am a practicing Muslim.
I have a feeling he has made it clear that he can't marry you but he has no problem being friends and getting close. Don't get close with hope of getting married.
As you said your are practicing Muslim I suggest you focus on your daily life and Allah forget about a man who didn't give you any marriage proposal nor willing to.
Plz dont convince him for marrying you. He doesnot deserve you. Focus on your daily life. If he is in your destiny he will come back to you. So dont waste your time on him.