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What do I need to do in order for my son to be accepted and me as well?

Muslim woman, female Muslim convert, Converting to Islam

Assalamu alaikum, I am a Christian woman who is currently about to Convert. I love my fiancé. He is Muslim. My question is what do I need to do in order for my son to be accepted and me as well? My son was born out of wedlock to another man. Though my fiancé cares deeply for him I want to do everything right. I know that I have sinned and I have asked for God's (Allah's) forgiveness. I want to respect the culture of my fiancé and be with him for the rest of our days. To start a family with him the right way even though I have past transgressions because of premarital sex. Please if some will help shed light to help me understand what it is I need to do I would appreciate it so much. I pray for you all good things and good life.

JessicaW1986


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  1. As salamo alaikum sister.i am very happy to see that you are accepting islam.it is Allah's blessing on u that He has chosen u to come towards the right path.congratulations for that.
    Sister,once a person accepts islam all his or her past mistakes and sins are forgiven.it is as if he is born from a mothers womb free from all sins and evils.so my dear once u recite the kalima,u will become a pure soul free from your past sins and mistakes.it is only after your acceptance of islam that any sin committed by you will be counted.
    You want your son to be accepted by your fiance as well.dont worry about it.talk to him about it.ofcourse you cant just disown your son.your son needs you.you said that your fiance cares for him so i am sure he will accept him.
    At present focus on your ibadah.study about what rights and duties islam has given regarding a husband and a wife.i sha Allah all will be well.cultiral differences can be overcome with time.no need to worry about that
    I will pray for you so that Allah guides you in the right Path and gives you a prosperous life including your son.ameen

  2. firstly I would like to congratulate you for coming to Islam, by Allahs will. Once you revert ALL your sins are forgiven. Dwell not about your past rather the present. Be a good muslimah,wife,mother as best as you can whilst practicing this beautiful religion.

  3. Wallaykumassalaam Jessica!

    Congratulations!

    First off, I wanted to say that it is the acceptance of Allah alone that you should seek and not the acceptance of people. The acceptance of good company will result naturally afterwards. For you and your son to gain the acceptance of Allah, you two need only to recite the Shahada, the declaration of faith, which is as follows:

    ašhadu ʾanla ilāha illal-Lāh, wa ʾašhadu ʾanna muḥammadan rasūlul-Lāh

    (There is no god but Allah and Muhammad is the messenger of Allah.)

    May Allah bless you abundantly on your journey in your new faith.

    Hugs,

    Nor

  4. SISTER THE KEY TO SUCCESS..IS IMAN FAITH...NOT ONLY 5 TIMES A DAY SALAH ON TIME AND GIVING SADAQA FAST READING QURAN DAILY AND DOME HADITH BUT HAVING GOOD CHARACTER...TODAY PEOPLE LACK THIS IMPORTANT QUALITY. ..BEING KIND AND HONEST TO YOURSELF CHILDREN EVERYONE EVEN IF SOME DOES WRONG TO YOU..REMEMBER EVERYTHING IS BEING RECORDED AND THERE WILL BE NO ESCAPE ON THE DAY OF JUDGEMENT...THE BEST EXAMPLE IS OUR PROPHET Muhammad pbuh who is a role model for everyone...understand this because success in both worlds relies on this....Children will follow by actions not just by lectures.make sure he goes to madressah to learn quran and iman...Environmentis very important especially with youth...Remember Islam is simple and natural...don't make things hard for yourself or anyone .That's why we have the four major schools of though.If we follow one of them this will keeps on the path because they lived in the era were Islam was strong for 300yrs and so they new that people will be lost without ONLINE GUIDANCE.KNOWLEDGE FROM PROPHET TO COMPANIONS AND GREAT IMAMS THEN TOO STUDENTS.I myself am a revert too. I study in U.K and married my wife who is a Islamic scholor. THE KEY IS HAVE FAITH IN ALLAH MAKE LOTS OF DUA AND NEVER SEEK ADVICE FROM THE UNPIOUS..SHAITAN IS A MASTER OF DAWAH TOO. HE WILL APPROACH YOU BY OTHERS OR ANYTHING ....SLOWLY SO YOU START THINKING ABOUT IT...REMEMBER ALLAH MUCH AND FIX A SCHEDULE FOR DAILY
    AMALS.VISIT THE SUNNI MOSQUE AND CONNECT WITH SISTERS AND PROGRAMS AND HELP IN CHARITY WORK FOR THE COMMUNITY. .A GOOD YOUNG SCHOLAR THAT I KNOW GIFTED FROM A YOUNG AGE IS MUFTI ASIM RASHID OF SURREY B.C CANADA...HE GIVES LECTURES AND ADRESSES QUESTIONS. HE IS INVOLVED WITH YOUTH AND RUNS A SCHOLARS PROGRAM .GOODLUCK

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