Six abortions and pregnant again, what should I do?
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Salam, I am so confused about my situation and complications along with this i am going thru. I am divorced and have 2 kids with my marriage. i am in a relationship with this man who is been promising me for marriage since 4 years, but till now he is not ready for it.
I dont want to do anything haraam as im feeling guilty EVERY day and every second of my life as i have committed a big crime. i pray to Allah cry for forgiveness of my mistakes but how do i fix it.
i have been pregnant 6 times in 4 years by him that i have been aborting my all babies (Allah forgives me for that) because of the fear of what people will think and wat will i tell my kids who is the father as my relation with him is being najayze haraam.
Now I'm pregnant again i really wants to keep this baby as i feel bad and regret of my previous abortions. but he is not ready for it as he doesnt want anybody to know about our relationship please help me show me the way what should i do.........
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Salaam sister,
Having sexual relationships outside of a marriage is haraam. Having abortions is haraam. You know both these are great sins.
Waiting for a man to marry you for 4 years whilst getting pregnant by him numerous times....do you really think that he will marry you? Even if he did what type of marriage will you have? Why is he waiting? What do you know about him? Does he already have a wife? Many secrets? Many other lovers?
Get out of this relationship or get married ASAP. Repent for your past sins and try your best to become a good muslim. Remember you already have two children and should be trying to bring them up as good Muslims.
May Allah guide us all.
Ws
Salam!
So sad to hear this sister! Poor babies had NO fault in this! YOU MADE THE DECISION TO DO HARAM... Be a women and make wiser decisions! For Gods sakes... 6 abortions. You use the abortion as a way to delete what you have done! If this "man" does not want anyone to know about you and him then what makes you think he is good?
We do not have the power to decide who lives or not... Repent to your sins sister and never commit such sin.
Stay away from this man!
Salam sister.
6 abortions? Sister, this is not okay. And what takes me aback is that you're not even taking responsibility for, yes, murdering not 1, but 6 of your children. Alhamdulilah, I am happy you realized you want to keep this baby, but aside from that, you need to wake up. This man your with does NOT love you. He is using you, and you're letting him.
He promised you marriage, got you pregnant 7 times now, and your worried about him "not being ready?"
Sister, it's not that he's not ready, he never wants to get married, because he doesn't care about getting married.
You need to get rid of this man. Stop letting Shaitan mess with your head. You shouldn't even WANT to get married to a man like that.
Sister, Alhamdulilah, I know you are smarter than this, I know you can understand that all of this is wrong, and if you don't get rid of this man from your life, you're setting not only yourself, but your poor children for more destruction.
You don't need this man for anything. The only One you need is Allah.
If you lose your trust in Allah, you lose everything.
Sister, Inshallah Allah, may Allah open your eyes, and lead you and your beautiful kids to the right path. Amen.
Assalamu Alaykum,
You need to take responsibility for your actions. Just because society will know you committed zina, or because your boyfriend won't support you does not give you the right to abort your babies. After one abortion, shouldn't you have learned from your mistakes and avoided getting pregnant?
You say you don't want to look bad to society by having a child outside of wedlock, but are you setting a good example for your children by having a boyfriend? Wake up, this man obviously just wants you for one thing, if he wanted to marry you he would have already.
Sister repent sincerely for what you have done, and focus on raising your children. I suggest you keep your baby, it is innocent so why should it be killed for your mistakes.
Seriously? Like did you think he would change after the fourth, fifth or sixth abortion? He's just using you. Honestly, if a guy doesn't introduce you to family within a month, isn't making strong steps towards marriage by six months, it's Game Over. What will your daughter think? Domt be so desperate just because you feel alone.
Sister, he is using you for your body and using lies to make you believe that he will "marry you, but he isn't ready yet." It's ridiculous that he IS ready to have sex with you and make babies but isn't ready to marry. That should be an alarm for you right there.If he was truly going to marry you, he would have repented and not have sex with you after the first attempts. This is only going to lead into more destruction in your physical life and also your spiritual life with Allah(SWT). I pray that your conscience kicks in one day and tell the guy everything that is going through your mind and give him an ultimatum. You are a woman, a mother, a gem created by Allah(SWT) and don't let liars degrade your status. Brothers such as this one are giving a bad representation to us brothers who would respect,honor, and cherish their wives.
In addition, there are many women or couples that find it difficult to conceive and worse case scenario, can't even conceive. Alhamdulilah, Allah(SWT) has granted you a good system to become pregnant 7 times. Please don't let this gift go away to a man who doesn't deserve it. Pray to Allah to become better, to forgive your sins. You can't just rely on Allah(SWT) for things to get better. Part of making things better is YOU and YOURSELF alone. I wish you the best in your life and hope everything gets better sister. Ameen.
Assalam alaikum Sister Alia,
Brother Sobhrab said it well--do not delay a moment in choosing the right decision. May Allah guide you and help you in this difficult time--but help will only be there if you choose to do the right thing.
Sister,
I am not here to judge you nor tell you of your transgressions not only to your God, but to yourself. An abortion is murder plain and simple. Take a hard look at those two beautiful children of yours. I am certain that you love them dearly. Imagine knowing them now and the thought if you had aborted them. Now...think about the six abortions that you have had. Those are six human beings that you have denied the right to live, breath, play, grow, love, marry and most of all...you have denied them to know Allah...our creator.
Abortion has become a convenient tool for the times that we are in. Not only are you in a haram relationship with this man but you take the lives of these innocent gifts from Allah as if they were yesterdays trash. This man is not going to marry you...not now, not ever. He gets what he wants for free thus he has no obligations to you. You are in denial if you think otherwise.
I hope that by the time your question has posted, that you have not aborted your child. It is time you grow up and take responsibility for your actions. Instead of murdering this innocent being, you might consider giving the child up to a loving family for adoption. Don't worry so much about your reputation and don't think that people don't know what is going on...they do. Rather, worry about the wrath of Allah and how you could take a bad situation and make something good of it. Allah is most merciful sister. Seek his forgiveness, stop seeing this man who is straight up using you and turn to Allah for guidance. Maybe then, you can find peace and get your life in order.
Salam
Alia sister
How many days is your pregnancy?
Salam Sister,
your story is sad.... a little plan to get out of this tricky situation:
1.Pray to God, that he will get you out of this situation.
2.Get away from this man.
3.If you have any friends (just girls), then go to them.
4.Ask you friends, if someone is old enough to marry and wants to marry you
5. Be 100% honest to your partner
6. If he doesn't accept your past, then he doesn't deserve you
7. If he should accept, then go and marry this man and always be honest.
8. Pray to God and make good Deed in name of God and spent money for the childs you aborted and in the day of judgement you can give this hassanant to them and hopefully you will enter Heaven.
Sister God loves all of us and now we should show God, that we love him too. So do everything in God's Sake and hopefully you will have an happy life here and in hereafter.
Allah may help you and your two childs...
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. He will never marry you. He is just enjoying himself and using you as a time pass
I wonder how naïve you are ......to trust this cheap fellow and got pregnant 7 times .. HUH !