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Repent before the Day when Allah will Question you

Repent before the Day when Allah will Question you

I loved a girl at my teenage years, and after that she married with another person. But we can't forget being together, also we were still staying in our love. I know that is a big mistake by me, but I can't leave her.

She always said to me that she need a baby from me. Unfortunately finally we commited zina, she got pregnant and after born a baby. After few months I was totally disappointed with this. I feel, I have done a big sin no one made before.

This feeling is still haunting me since last 6 years. Now my parents try to arrange my marriage, but I can't marry, because always I am thinking about it. Last few years I don't contact her and she also.

I want make a good change, I want to be a real muslim. I always made tawbah after all my salah. But still I'm not satisfied with my tawbah. Dear brothers and sisters please advice me, I admitted all my sins to Allah, is this a sin Allah may forgive me? What can I do for next? Please guide me to change myself as a real good muslim, and I must want to live my entire life as real muslim until death Insha Allah.


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  1. Where z the baby now?? Where z dat girl? Why u didn't marry her before? Its good u realized ur mistake and u r repenting. he will listen u and forgive u. Keep on repenting..... Allah loves his creature more than 70 mothers and our mom if we say sorry to get she forgets and forgive and love us with out any regret. So keep on ur prayers....

  2. Asc.

    The best thing I can recommend is to pray 2 rakats(or even more) in the last third of the night. This is about 1 hour before fajr. I swear this is an amazing time to talk to Allah and also make dua as Allah descens down.just pour your heart out and cry to Allah. May Allah make this easy for you and forgive all of your sins. And remember Allah will forgive you!

  3. I understand you had sex with a married girl? How do you know the child she gave birth is yours?

  4. read Holy Quran with tarjuma. follow the guidelines given on how to spend your life. follow sunnah , our prophet mohammad (p.b.u.h) is the best role model to follow and thus be a good real and practicing muslim. zina is the biggest sin so you should apologize to Allah sincerely and make sure you never repeat it again

    may Allah guide you and accept your taubah. ameen

    • Mr.mahrukh, reading Quran is advisable and best to feel peaces but with tarjuma not advisable because, it will get lot of doubt about meaning, because we should not assume any meaning from aayath, because we are not mujthahid, if you wan to know meaning please follow Thafseer which is from Ahlu sunnath, example (Ibn kaseer Thafseer, Jalaly etc,
      one more example i am giving for understanding while reading direct Taharjuma
      In Fatiha sura, إِيَّاكَ نَعۡبُدُ وَإِيَّاكَ نَسۡتَعِينُ
      Meaning is ( We worship You alone, and beg You alone for help. )
      According meaning of this Ayath, we should not ask any kind of help from any one, is it possible this social life,
      example, we can't ask one glass water to our Mother or wife or from any body, we should ask from allahu only as per direct meaning of this Aayath
      Is it possible

      But Our Imaams(from Ahlu Sunnath) teach us that all helps are from Allahu only, helps from mother or wife or from any body etc all are just medium or behalf.

      Or else if we are thinking as we are getting helps from their own power, we 'll be out of from Islam.

      So that's why i said we should follow Thafseer of Ahlu Sunnath (In any school of Hanafi, Maliki, Shafi, Hambali) these are Ahulu sunnath who are following suntha of prophet muhammed (S)

      Sorry brothers and sisters for made bored, but its my responsibility to clear whether people like or not
      Includes me In your prayers
      Assalamu 'alaikum

      • really? reading tarjumah not advisable in islam??

        a person with a common sense can very wel differenciate between direct meaning of the quranic verses and the practical life's possibilties. isn't it?

  5. Dear Miqdamm ,

    I am not sure about your sincerity towards repentance but you have committed a grave sin .If there is proper Islamic law in your country then i think both you and your girl friend were clearly eligible for strict Islamic punishment .

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