My sister in law is alone
As salam u alaikum to all
My sister in law got married to a person around 20 to 22 years back. She get 12 children with that man but unfortunately no one is alive. Due to some serious problem she got divorced 7 years back and she is alone now, her parents have died 8 months back. There is no one to look after her. She refused to marry any stranger or any man because she got torched by her husband much more. She is younger then my wife. I was thinking to get her in my life to give her a good life same as my wife.
Is there any way in Islam to help her because I care her more in our family?
So please help me regarding this matter
Thanking you all
amjadkhan
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You can help her in every way without marrying her.
She has 12 kids she probably could use your help financially, you don't have to marry her.Plus it's not really your place to say she's alone or not!!!
If she is your wife's sister then, Islamically, it's not permissible. Unless your wife divorces you or dies.
“Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: … two sisters in wedlock at the same time, except for what has already passed” [al-Nisaa’ 4:23]
It was reported from Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) forbade marrying a woman then her paternal aunt, or a paternal aunt then her brother’s daughter, a woman then her maternal aunt, or a maternal aunt then her sister’s daughter, or an older sister then the younger sister, or a younger sister then the older sister.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, no. 1045; Abu Dawood, no. 1768. Al-Tirmidhi said, it is hasan saheeh).
Fayrooz al-Daylami said: I came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allaah, I have become Muslim and I am married to two sisters. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Choose whichever of them you want [i.e., and divorce the other].” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1048; Abu Dawood, 1915, et al.)
I found these on islamqa but I have heard of this previously too.
I know you want to help her but here's the thing with that. You currently help your current wife through the contract of marriage. If you want to take some of what you offer to you wife and give it to your sister in law then it is really your wife helping this woman not you. You would be just stealing from you wife and giving it to this woman if you did it on your own. If you want to make her your wife then you aren't allowed to marry two sisters so unless you divorce your wife you can't really marry this woman, assuming she's your wife's sister and wasn't married to your brother. And why would you divorce your wife and give up responsibility to her and leave her in the same state as this woman?
What you can help her with is your share of the wealth in the family. So if you were going to buy a big tv for yourself and you would only gain from it, then you can give this money to her. Outside of that, you and your wife must agree to help this woman at the cost of what you can give your wife.
IF YOU WANT TO MARRY HER .THAT'S OK.BUT LET YOUR WIFE KNOW YOUR INTENTIONS AND THAT SHE IS OKAY. BUT YOU SHOULD OTHERWISE NOR GET INVOLVED OR YOU WILL BE RUINED BECAUSE IT IS FORBIDDEN TO LOOK OR TALK TO ANY WOMEN WITHOUT A VALID EXCUSE.ALLAH KNOWS BEST...LET YOUR WIFE HELP HER . JUST SEND HER WITH SOME MONEY AND FOOD. BUT STAY AWAY
Assalaamualaikam
Actually, Islamic Law prohibits being married to two sisters at the same time (as stated in the Qur'an - 4:23). So, it's not ok for him to marry her without first divorcing his current wife.
And please, please stop posting in all caps. Seriously.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
If you want to help her, Just give her money, why do you feel that you must marry her to help her, and how on earth do you think that marrying her whilst being married to her sister, would be a good place for this women, or your wife, even if it were halal, ( its completely forbidden)
would you want to marry your wife's mum as well if she were in hardship... you need to have some respect for you wife
even entertaining the thought of marrying your wifes sister is disgusting, your poor poor wife,
You should fear allah