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I can’t stop watching porn, I feel guilty then repent but somehow end up watching again. Please help.

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I'm a 16 year old girl and i want to repent my sins i know i have made a lot of it, the biggest of them all i feel is watching porn i know its gunah and i also feel sick about it. I tried a lot to stop doing it but i always end up doing it, i did every thing even spending less time on net i even made my setting strict but still nothing helping me i want to be the old girl i used to be not this person. ? if any further information is required im willing to give but please help in this matter !

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  1. sister read a'udzubillahi minasy syaitonirrajim as much as u can, and the Quran. make sure u pray and fast on Ramadan and keep making lots of dua. ask ALLAH to help you.

    make sure your not alone always. try to stay with good Muslim people who follow Islam. so stay run away when two Muslim to be gather.

    I hope ALLAH help us all AMIN!!!

  2. Friend,

    You dont worry. You will stop watching porn after some months.

    When I was in high school I used to watch porn film. But after high school(in your age) i never watch porn till now,3 years.

    I am sure,with in 1 year you will stop this bad habbit

    • Thank you soo much for these helpful messages, i actually feel much lighter know after reading these feedback ! i really appreciate for the help and support, i'm trying my best to get rid of my addiction and now a days im putting my focus to please my parent and make them happy, im really grateful to this website and you guys. I pray to Allah yous guys succeed in your life and may Allah grant you jannah !1 once again thank you 🙂

      • Sister, Get married as soon as possible.

        • Marriage can wait until she's old enough. She a child. 16! Marriage won't fix these problems. Personally, I think boys are a waste of time. Marriage, you know!

          • Good point but boys are not waste of time. If, according to you, that person is a waste of time, then why did u replied to him? U yourself wasted you time...

      • Assalamualaikum Sister. I have found a solution. Install this software K9 web protection. I am not one of those people who are spamming or scamming. Believe me, install this software. It blocks any pornographic allowance on your computer. It is password protected so let someone you know keep the password. (parents).

      • O Allah pls help this sister, with your help, everything is possible !

    • Sister ,

      Get married as this will solve your problems insha allah

  3. Watching pornographic websites, and sexual activity is haraam; it is a disease. The one who does that is afflicted and he should seek to remedy himself by repenting and giving it up, not by making up excuses for himself. All sinners make up excuses for themselves. The one who drinks alcohol or takes drugs or commits adultery – they all claim that they are under pressure and that they cannot escape it except by doing something haraam.

    In fact these haraam things only add to their worries and stress. One of the punishments of sin is feelings of stress and alienation, and darkness on the face and in the heart. The further away a person is from his Lord and the more he is indulging in sins, the further away the means of attaining happiness and peace of mind are from him, as Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):

    “But whosoever turns away from My Reminder (i.e. neither believes in this Quran nor acts on its orders, etc.) verily, for him is a life of hardship”

    [Ta-Ha’ 20:124].

    As for the people of faith and obedience, Allah, may He be exalted, says concerning them (interpretation of the meaning):

    “Whoever works righteousness, whether male or female, while he (or she) is a true believer (of Islamic Monotheism) verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e. Paradise in the Hereafter)”

    [an-Nahl 16:97].

    fear allah brother i have really felt bad seeing the kind of profile u have and what are u into, fear allah ,and nver walk on this wrong path day of judgement is near, and we never knw when we will die , ask forgiveness and repent before it is too late

    jazakallah khair

    • why do you call her brother???????she is a sister......

      • 🙂 sister men tend to think women cant get addicted to porn. I had to read 16 year old girl twice to make sure I wasnt reading it wrong!

        • Same here. I didn't read it twice because I picked up on the language that it's a "she", but I don't really hear of girls into that.

          I actually believe that most girls are into it but perhaps they just hide it.
          I wouldn't be surprised if they hide it anyways because Allah has made the feeling of shame stronger in females' hearts- which is a good thing, especially when sinning.

  4. Hello,

    I found the below article, its called Battling Temptations. It's for people who are suffering from porn addiction and such. It has some tips on what you can do to stop. Also, if you subcribe to the website they send you some REALLY good articles everyday about islam on various topics, i think you should subscribe because you will gain knowledge on islam everyday and fall in love with Allah a little more everyday as well, inshallah.

    http://www.suhaibwebb.com/islam-studies/battling-temptation/

    Hope you get over this soon, Inshallah.

  5. Dear sister , u need not curse urself . U r not a lonely one but quite surprising to see a girl with this. Sister it is a disease u need to take a psychiatric consultation. If u r hesitant then u can use fluvoxamine drug to banish this act . Best remedy is salah and islamic thinking. This pornography is a plot of jews.

  6. Assalamualaikum sister,

    You are only 16 and have been exposed to this evil already. It will be difficult for you if you do not give it up immediately. I know it seems hard, but there is no gain, without some pain. Would you expect to get Jannah from Allah while doing everything that was easy? Rather, some difficulty is a part of life, a test from Allah.

    Allah Said:

    2:214
    أَمْ حَسِبْتُمْ أَنْ تَدْخُلُوا الْجَنَّةَ وَلَمَّا يَأْتِكُمْ مَثَلُ الَّذِينَ خَلَوْا مِنْ قَبْلِكُمْ ۖ مَسَّتْهُمُ الْبَأْسَاءُ وَالضَّرَّاءُ وَزُلْزِلُوا حَتَّىٰ يَقُولَ الرَّسُولُ وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا مَعَهُ مَتَىٰ نَصْرُ اللَّهِ ۗ أَلَا إِنَّ نَصْرَ اللَّهِ قَرِيبٌ
    Or do you think that you will enter Paradise while such [trial] has not yet come to you as came to those who passed on before you? They were touched by poverty and hardship and were shaken until [even their] messenger and those who believed with him said,"When is the help of Allah ?" Unquestionably, the help of Allah is near.

    And He Said:

    3:142
    أَمْ حَسِبْتُمْ أَنْ تَدْخُلُوا الْجَنَّةَ وَلَمَّا يَعْلَمِ اللَّهُ الَّذِينَ جَاهَدُوا مِنْكُمْ وَيَعْلَمَ الصَّابِرِينَ
    Or do you think that you will enter Paradise while Allah has not yet made evident those of you who fight in His cause and made evident those who are steadfast?

    You get what you have to do? Allah Made it clear: patience...

    You have to have determination and belief in yourself that you can do it. And then, no enemy can make you fail. Do not be a friend of Shaitaan, but a friend of The Most Merciful - Allah. The Deen is beautiful but shaitaan makes it seem boring and makes the shit (literally) seem like gold. This is what is porn, so much disgusting. This is the reality, which you should realize. Now, next time, you should feel disgusted even at the thought of porn, it seems good before you see it, but eventually you realize how disgusting it is.

    Make yourself away from it and save yourself from it, before it becomes more difficult.

    Read the following posts also, which may help you, in sha Allah:

    http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/feel-ashamed-my-masturbation/
    http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/how-to-control-carnal-desires/
    http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/porn-masturbation-made-lose-confidence/

    And fast regularly if possible, this helps in controlling, as suggested by Rasoolullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. Have patience until you are ready to get married, and remember the following:

    Abu Barzah Al-Aslami narrated that the Messenger of Allâh ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: ``The feet of the slave of Allâh shall not move [on the Day of Judgement] until he is asked about five things: About his life and what he did with it, about his knowledge and what he did with it, about his wealth and how he earned it and where he spent it on, and about his body and for what did he wear it out.'' (Tirmidhi - Hasan)

    So make yourself ready. And remember the following Hadith:

    It was narrated that Anas bin Mâlik said: ``The Messenger of Allâh ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ said: `Paradise is surrounded with hardships and Hell is surrounded with desires.''' (Muslim)

    Abu Abdul Bari
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  7. Assalamu alaikai-warrahamatullah

    Sorry to hear about your issue. many teen are been track by this evil junks, Below is a link with tips on how to handle porn, insha Allah it will works..

    http://blog.iloveallaah.com/2010/07/29-tips-for-teens-on-how-to-handle-pornography/

    I believe you will make it insha allah...just believe you can do it, try out the best you can and put trust, leave the rest to Allah, for surely he will help you and Allah SWT said:

    And He will provide him from (sources) he never could imagine. And whosoever puts his trust in Allâh, then He will suffice him. Verily, Allâh will accomplish his purpose. Indeed Allâh has set a measure for all things.
    (At-Talaq 65: 2-3)

  8. I know its hard, but keep trying my dear sister, in sha Allaah u will get over the porn addiction

    Okay, now dont be scared, but we need to remember that as well as the seen world there is a world of the unseen. Its either ur possessed etc or you are just very influenced by ur environment, either way, it is the shaytan making u tempted to watch porn again and again.

    For ruqya ( diagnosis and treatment for magic, evil eye, possession etc) plz watch 'diaries of an exorcist' on youtube, the host of these videos also has a fcbk page, with the same title.

    Now to defeat shaytan ( regardless of whether ur possessed or not... it may just be psychological addiction - we need to have a balanced view - may be ur depressed, in which case plz sort that matter out too, sister be strong, dont allow shaytan to get hold of u, ur much stronger dear sis, plz remember that ) ...

    * pray 5 times a day ( which u should do anyway), do voluntary prayers too... Tahajjud prayers
    * learn more about islam, definetly about the aqeedah
    * recite Quran more, even listen to it when free, intstead of surfing the net. Also learn the tafsir, its amazing!
    * sister, u must also avoid music and movies completely, as much as u can, because these are sources of great temptations! But because it has become so common, to some it may look innocent at times, coz we are kind of desensitised to it, but reality is that music movies are no innocent things... Plz sister, delete all music etc, please Allaah instead of pleasing shaytan if u want victory. Im sure u do want victory over shaytan, which is why u came here for advice. Good start sis, u recognise that theres a problem, ur trying, and want to correct urself for real. Keep it up, dont ever give up sis... Plz watch ... Turn the bass down by abu ibraheem husnayn
    * fast! This will quite naturally lower sexual urges, in sha Allaah
    * get involved with islamic activities more, fill up ur free time with being in the company of good people and helping around the house, and in sha Allaah get involved in da'wah too. Look for services and masjids and people that u can go to in ur free time to help u grow spiritually, in sha Allaah, and be of a good influence, in sha Allaah. In the UK, Birmingham, green lane masjid is wonderful. ... Basically try to get urself in the company of good people and get urself in doing good and worthwhile deeds.... Plz avoid non mahram, and do full hijab, very important!
    * dont even do the things that may lead to badness. For example, for now dont use the net, and if u ever need it for homework etc, then try to do it with the company of another person, in sha Allaah. U dont have to tell them why u want them by u, just go to them or tell them lets talk whilst I do homework, say coz u dont like being alone, which is true anyway, why would u like being alone now, as u know it will allow u to watch porn. Try not to be too alone, and when u do be alone, do zikr and pray.
    * ur 16, u can get married, plz consider it, if u think itll help in sha Allaah.

    Please Allaah and displease shaytan and in sha Allaah u will soon overcome ur addiction as u spiritually grow, and in sha Allaah ull become very content and at peace and become a much better muslimah, in sha Allaah. U seem to have the potential to be a wonderful muslimah, in sha Allaah who will raise kids of tomorrow, I mean how many teens will try to rectify their mistakes nowadays as such, so keep trying, its hard at first, but ull be fine in sha Allaah. May Allaah guide u and make things easy for u.

    put a fullstop to the porn right now sis, and get urself busy in good things, one day ull be a mother in sha Allaah, and one day u will have to answer Allaah. So lets not waste time, and lets act responsibly from now sister, and this is always a reminder to myself first. We dont know when death might come sister, so repent, and live life according to Quran and sunnah, dear sis

    Take care of urself, physically, psychologically and spiritually indeed!!! Be strong, fight shaytan!

  9. Sister It's so sad me myself is Victim of it..

  10. I'm an 18 year old girl and I have been addicted to porn since I was 12. It is hard. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! 1/3 of all porn watchers are female. Fight for your purity of body and mind. I will think of you in my prayers if you will think of me in yours. You are not alone. We can fight this together

  11. assalamu alikkum sister
    our guardian almighty ALLAH most merciful most beneficial guide us through the path that is best for us he will punish so intensely if we disobey him.. he is watching us all the times ..
    and ALLAH's angels are always accompanied with us they use to pray for our forgiveness which is depicted in many hadith's ,just think about how they will ask allah for our forgiveness if they are sees u when u r watching porn even with a thought that u r commiting sin, create that modesty,as the modesty is a main part of iman ,our beloved prophet (s.a.w) taught us alot about modesty.. may ALLAH save us from those sathanic whispers that leads to forgetting
    about the modesty we have to keep in front of ALLAH.
    anyway ,dont lose hope; try slowly atleast think about that ,allah created this guilty feeling in ur mind that made u to ask this.... now do tasbih namaz .. it really gonna help (inshah allah) ..make it very slowly with patience ..let sathan fly away ..stand in front of ALLAH seeking his forgiveness whole heartedly ..make a hahabit of reciting quran(its meaning) conduct a strong jihad by fighting the evil spirit in u.. remember mote u watch or do denying what ur spirit says more ur heart is going to be diseased making u far away from ur creator and closer to hell .. me too trying to avoid many of my sins one by one.. itsall depends on intention ..MAY ALLAH GUIDE US and all the muslim ummah to jannah by forgiving our sins..ameen

  12. If you really want to learn how to stop watching porn then visit this website http://healthlifeguide.com/how-to-stop-watching-porn/

  13. I'm 15 a girl. I have porn addiction too and i really really need help.

  14. I am Also addicted to porn please help

  15. I think marriage is the only solution. u will be definitly alone some time and thn will think about porn.

  16. Salam
    I am a single muslimah struggling with online porn (not doing real life zina) but very ashamed, its so hard to stop with the internet.

    Please can someone help me? I want to install porn blocking software and give the password to an online buddy... Has anyone done this, does it help?

    Any advice appreciated.. Only serious replies please..

  17. just like alcohol or drugs,people get addicted to porn , u need a strong will power to quit. first thing don't use internet at home,remove internet connection. no internet means no watching porn. if u have any work on internet then u can use cyber cafe.
    porn is a viral infection which is spreading like wild fire,government should ban it

  18. if any one is addicted to porn ,the should recite the dua for toilet when going and coming from the toilet..
    and I have a better solution .You go to bath?yes! so before going to bath sit in room and recite last 6 surahs of quran.and in while bathing think that you are quitting porn and Allah is helping you .After finishing bath again recite last 6 surahs of quran. you can do this anytime you bath ,and as many times as you can
    if some girl is menstruating, she shouldnot recite before bAthing but should recite after bathing!

    I am also suffering from porn addiction and I am trying to do this and quitting it
    please do dua for me!

  19. Apnay ap ko 5 waqt Namaz ka paband banao.....
    InSha'Allah You will get benefit....

  20. if someone needs further advice on this matter , search the archives

  21. Sisters ,

    Its time for you to get married as you are struggling to control yourselves and do sin . Marriage is the best solution .

  22. Assalam-o-Alaikum! ...

    • Assalaamualaikam

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      Midnightmoon
      IslamicAnswers.com editor

  23. Sister what you cpild first is to repent to allah. Then try doing something that would use your time up so you do not watch porn. Don't keep thinking about it and last but not least make lots of dua to allah to help you lose this bad habit. If you have a downfall whilst stopping to watch it then get back up and repent to Allah. The best of repenters are those who sin and repent straight away. I make dua to allah to help you, and guide you and keep you on the straight path. O ask allah to arm you with amazing taqwa levels also ameen.

  24. Step One-Admit that you can't give up
    Admit that you are unable to get a grip on your consumption of pornography. It is uncontrollable. Every time you turn on the internet, go to the video store, turn on the television, you cannot say NO to yourself. You cannot NOT surf porn sites, or stop watching. You are no longer in control of your life.

    Step Two-Admit only God can get you out of this
    You know, after trying using so many different ways to control your addiction and subsequently failing, that only Allah can help you out of this. You may have known it before, but you are convinced of it now without a shadow of a doubt.

    Step Three-Your life and death are all in Allah's control
    You have decided to put your complete trust in Allah, who is in control of all aspects of your life and your death. You have chosen to seek His Help first and foremost.

    Step Four-You have completed a self-analysis
    You have done an honest, sincere, but often painful self-evaluation of your good points and bad points, analyzed your addiction, and tried to understand how you reached this point.

    Step Five-Made a specific repentance to Allah
    You have admitted to Allah, to yourself, and to another trusted Muslim (if possible) exactly where you went wrong. You did not make a general request for repentance. You specifically listed your mistakes, and in particular, your addiction to pornography.

    Step Six-You were open and ready to receive Allah's help to change
    You know that your Tawbah (repentence to God) and being sincere, must be followed by action. You are ready to do what is necessary to change, no matter how difficult or painful. Even if it means not even watching television for the news or never surfing the internet alone.

    Step Seven- You have asked for the removal of faults
    You have asked Allah, with sincerity, humility and regret, to help you never repeat this action (i.e. looking at pornography) again and to help you avoid repeating sins committed in the past again.

    Step Eight-You have decided to seek others' forgiveness
    You have made a list of everyone you had hurt through your addiction, whether it was your spouse, children or parents, and made the intention to approach them seeking forgiveness. You must not, however, disclose your addiction since whatever Allah has kept hidden must remain hidden. You just seek forgiveness for any possible act of harm and hurt. Allah does not like a sin to be advertised.

    Step Nine-Seek forgiveness of God
    Seek the forgiveness and protection of Allah. Do sadaqah (charity) and fast as kaffarah if possible.

    Step Ten-You have completed nightly self-evaluations
    You continually, every night, have done an honest self-evaluation of your behavior, and were ready to admit your mistakes and thank Allah for the good you did that day.

    Step Eleven-You have prayed for greater God-consciousness
    You prayed and continue to pray five times a day, seeking closeness to Allah, and a consciousness of Him (Taqwa) wherever you are. You increase your reliance on Him to help you with this addiction to pornography and with all other matters in your life.

    Step Twelve-You preached and practiced
    You have not just "moved on" after Allah blessed you to get out of this addiction. You helped others you knew with this problem with regular contact and sincere advice. By the grace of Allah, helping others helped you maintain control over your addiction and you helped another person get out of this destruction and misery.

  25. Sister, remove your internet connection and get a phone which does not conect to Internet. If you are a student; go to the library for studing. Ask your mother to find a good husband for you or atleast discuss it with your elders. Tell them the truth.

  26. Assalamualaikum talking to strange boys like me and others about this matter is not allowed brothers and sisters stop replying and texting u all talk about haram but did u think that what your doing is also haram ....if you have any doubt please ask ur masjit hasrath ..thats nabi sunnah ..sahabah use to ask nabi wat ever doubt they had ...in case of girls please ask ur frnd good in islamic knowledege or ask matharsa osthab ...insha Allah plz stop replying to girls msg viceversa for girls ....its nt allowed in islam..Alhamdulilah hope u al understood

  27. Young Muslims across the world are falling in droves into grave sins like watching porn, zina, adultery, drinking alcohol, abusing illegal drugs, dating, gambling etc.

    And these youths are not just from non-religious Muslim families some are also from pious ones, the difference the latter do it behind the veils.

    The pious ones are bewildered, they wonder why even after listening to hours of discourses about Quran and Sunnah in mosques, knowing numerous 'Azab' Quranic ayats and hadiths, listening to popular Islamic speakers for hours, watching hundreds of Islamic videos on YouTube, spending hours online debating and defending Islam. praying three , four or five times a day and reciting Quran, even doing dawah has no effect on them and the knowledge is just not registering in their heart to stop them from sinning.

    So, what could be the reason?

    The answers comes from Imam Shafi'i:

    Imam Shafi’i was advised by his Shaykh to give up sins when he started being forgetful -because he had seen the bare leg of a woman when the wind blew her garment -this was by accident

    The light of Allah is not given to the disobedient: “I complained to Wakee’ of my poor memory. Leaving sins is what he guided me to address. He informed me that knowledge is a light. And Allah’s light is not gifted to those who transgress.” [Diwan ash-Shafi'i)

    When al-Shaafa’i sat before Imam Maalik and read to him, he admired him because of the intelligence, alertness and understanding that he saw in him. He said, “I think that Allah has caused light to enter your heart, so do not extinguish it with the darkness of sin.”

    Many people acquire tons of knowledge but unfortunately it does not reaches their hearts as they continue sinning while acquiring it nor does it stop them from sinning in the future, knowledge is light that Allah causes to reach the heart, and sin extinguishes that light.

    All humans are dead except those who have knowledge; and all those who have knowledge are asleep, except those who do good deeds; and those who do good deeds are deceived, except those who are sincere; and those who are sincere are always in a state of worry. -Al-Shafi‘i

  28. assalamu alaikum im 18 year boy iam trying to avoid the porn but i cant happen plz help me

  29. Dear Sisters/Brothers,

    First of all think positively that you can overcome from this problem. Allah has not commanded anything which we can not do. Shaithan is the one putting waswas in our heart and negative feeling that we can not overcome from this.

    Determine today on wards i will not commit this sin not a single time. Forget your past. Do good a'amaal as much as possible. Keep yourself busy in religious activities like dhauwath thableigh/learning ilm/ social services/spending time with families and friends.

    Like some people had commented disconnect internet. You are not going to lose anything Use a normal phone by which you can call and text.

    Eat less. One third is sufficient. When you eat more you get more desire. If you can do this half of your problem are solved. Put your nafs in hunger. Punish your nafs.

    Think more about death, life in the kabr.

    Tell your nafs if you do this again i'll punish you in so and so ways. For example if you watch again i'll give a big amount of sadhaqah or will pray so many raqaths of salath etc..

    Start to memorise Qur'an. When Quran comes inside your heart bad things go out from your heart.

    Try to get marry soon. Be open to your parents and tell them you want to get marry or tell through someone else.

    Finally without Allahs help we can not avoid this sin. Seek Allah's help crying.

    Keep in mind how you are will be your future husband or wife. You want a husband or wife having watched so many non mahram men/women before marriage.

    Some people have this bad habbit even after marriage. Keep in mind your marriage life is not going to become successful and this will affect your children as well.

    You can my dear brothers/sisters.

    May Allah forgive all of our sins and great high status in jannath! Aameen.

  30. Brother, I watched the prono graphic stuff after this Ramadan please brother give an advice how can I stop it and do I lost the rewards that I earned by doing ibadat in past ibadat please brother help me with it

  31. I am also an addict of porn! marry me! This is theonly way you and I will stop watching porn

  32. Asslm aleikum muhmin...
    Make two rakahth namaz and cry in the last sajda and ask for forgiveness....after namaz say ' lahilaha illallahu wahdahu laa shareekalahu lahul mulku walahum hamdu yuhyee wayumeethu wahuwa alaa kulli sheyhin quadeer ' 100 times and say ' asthaghfirullah 100 times....after that go deeper meditation in sitting position either on chair or floor in sitting position...and remember and deeply concentrate on allah...for about 15 mins...repeate this whenever you get free time...

    May allah forgive your sin...ameen

  33. Best way is marriage but if u cant just disconnect Internet, get rid of ur phone and try to use internet in coffee nets .
    that my problem too and i think its the only way . الله اعلم

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