How do I get rid of these haram thoughts?
Assalam o alaikum wrwb,
Hope to Allah swt that everything would be fine with you and your family insha Allah. (ameen). I newly married 6months ago alhamdulillah; I got some dark ideas in my mind. I encourage my husband to call any bad girl or prostitute as a sex game that it makes me turned on in bed. He never did it but I always encourage him to have a girlfriend or can have one night stand with anyone but not let him do nikah with anyone. I put him on dating sites and asked him to talk to girls and its really stressful for him. One moment, I am encouraging and then start getting upset after all that why he did that?
For me as a British non-Muslim girl all these things are completely normal for me and I am brought up in that kind of atmosphere. So, how can I cure myself from this satanic disease? My husband has told me he wants to get second wife but I hate this idea of sharing him and its making me hate him as I feel I am not good enough.
Hope you will consider my question for good advice.
jazakallah kheir,
salamoallaikum wrwb,
Mrs Khan.
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U want ur husband to have sex with prostitute/ other girls which is adultery offcourse and I'm shocked about that comment , that u being a british non muslim this is common
I don't think how open minded ppl are nobody will what their spouse to get indulge in adultery , just to get him/her turn on . Really u should consult a sexologist regarding this issue
Secondly , well ur husband want another wife which islamically he can , but with consensus with his current wife that is u .
thirdly , if u act like this , it might affect ur marriage ,
Lastly , u need help both spiritually and mentally
MrsKhan,
It seems like you didnt appreciated your husband's love towards you.
You told him to commit adultery! You showed him wrong doors to happiness and fortunatley his NAFS/soul didnt want to commit zina!
what you can do now is APOLOGISE to him and say you will never ever bring filth in your clean relationship. And that you do not want second wife or girl at all. But if he insists on second wife then you have to make the decision whether you want to be with him or not.
Sister, I appreciate that you r not muslim and so you are probably not aware of the gravity of committing sin, esply such as zina sister, please take your time and learn about islam regardless of what happens to your marriage. Please look into Islam. If you believe in God, then please turn to Him and ask for forgiveness- Repent! And tell God to guide you to true path, which is ISLAM. Please be sincere and well patience.
I wish you well in life.
Parveen-
Dear Mrs.Khan,...
It is the first step you are taking towards God to admit here your faults.As muslims we believe Allah forgives all sins accept associating another god with Allah.So saying you asked what it is you could do saying how can I cure myself from this satanic disease?
1) The first thing you need to do seriously is repent to God sincerely.Ask him for forgiveness and you hope for his help.and take some time for this maybe in the middle of the night when your by yourself.
2)you should believe that jesus peace be upon him is not nor was ever God.
3)Then you should say the shahadah ,That is saying that you believe in Allah/God the one
and you believe in his messenger Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him and believe in this statement.
start with these things and if said with even a slight bit of sincerity,will change you.
Then if you get this far and you are wishing to go further then start making prayer as much as you can according to the way of Prophet muhammad peace be upon him.For God says in the holy Quran in surah 29:45 what means "Recite, [O Muhammad], what has been revealed to you of the Book and establish prayer. Indeed, prayer prohibits immorality and wrongdoing, and the remembrance of Allah is greater. And Allah knows that which you do."
I recently started to follow islam.I have a very large collection of non islam books and music do u think I should get rid of it all? I know I should I mean what use do they have to me now or in the next life! But I'm sentimental about things.I know I'm answering my own question but I feel I need some help on what to do. Inshallah u can answer my question.thanx
If they are un-Islamic in some way then you should get rid of them. It's better for you to focus on Quran right now than on music. Begin memorizing the Quran and let it be your music.
Wael
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