Islamic marriage advice and family advice

I kissed a guy and I’m regretting it so much.

Hello, I am an 17-year-old girl, who recently kissed a guy (he is Muslim Pakistani) and I've never dated someone before or done anything like that in my life before with anyone. But every time I and he are together we seem to forget many things and just drown into each other. I know I did something wrong but now he is asking me if I and he are bf and gf and I told him I don't know. I am so upset because I feel as if Allah will never forgive me.  He admitted that he is in love with me and I admitted that I am with him too, but I Am so confused. Can someone please give me advice?


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  1. Marry him immediately if both of you love each other ... Do not touch anyone without marriage again ... And make it your habit just like a Muslim cannot eat the meat of a Pig , follow the right path and do listen to your heart when it stops you from doing this sin again. This is a test and God is watching you , do not disappoint him...

  2. Bismillah
    Just like the brother said if you CAN, Marry him or cut contact with him 100%. Nobody loves you more than Allah, would you choose a persons love or Allahs?

  3. Sister i understand what you are saying . Please tell him if he wants to marry you then it's good . If not let him talk to you when his ready to keep things Halal

  4. I disagree that you should marry him. If he really loved you he wouldnt have let you fall to sin. I advice you to guard your chastity, do ghusl, repent and cut off your tie with him, no matter how hard. Allah is way more important, would you choose this life over the afterlife? Cry and talk with allah. Allah is so merciful and forgiving. Turn back to him, don’t talk to boys. Women your age should study and worship allah profusely. With regards, abdulaziz.

  5. There is a difference between love and lust. Lust can easily be mistaken for love. Ensure that his purpose and motives are truthful and not to steel your innocence. Even so first you should marry if it is truly love.

    Love definition :
    Love suffereth long
    Love is kind
    Envieth not
    Is not selfish nor is Puffed up
    Love behaves itself unseemly,
    Seeketh not her own,
    Is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil
    Rejoiceth not in iniquity but rejoiceth in truth
    Bareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
    Love never fails unless it is not love but knowledge or words.

    Be cautious of all things.
    Best of luck

    Corinthians 13:4-8

  6. salam,

    first of all, Allah SWT has made it clear throughout the Quran, about his will of forgiveness, if the Muslim sincerely repents.
    but be cautious to not do it again.

    it is very easy to not function properly mentally when you are in love, so you have to be really careful with picking the person with whom you are in love with.

    if he as a Muslim really likes you, he should have had the patience to delay any psychical contact for after marriage.

    if he doesn't have the clear intention to marry you, skip on him because it's only a temporarily act of his hormones, and only based on lust, which could end up very wrong if continued.

  7. Sister, it's never too late to turn to Allah. So make tawba and make your relationship halal but if marriage is not an option then stay away from him because Allah is more deserving of your love above everyone and everything else.

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