Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Is it a sin to let someone commit a sin?

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I'm living with my roommate since a year. She's been dating a guy since 3 months and spending nights with him, feeding me lies that she's going to spend night at some relative's home.

I play along that I believe her as I don't want to interfere.

But it's getting to my head and I'm worried about her. He's not a loyal person & has a reputation as a casanova, and I want to save her, and the fact that every time she's out I know what's happening keeps me awake at night.

What is my responsibility in this as a muslim and her well wisher??

Saba901


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  1. OP: But it's getting to my head and I'm worried about her. He's not a loyal person & has a reputation as a casanova, and I want to save her, and the fact that every time she's out I know what's happening keeps me awake at night.

    Do you date guys also?

    I don't think you can do much.

    If you are worried she is having sex and may get pregnant, you can start a conversation like asking her if she knew about the news about an "18 yr old Muslim got killed by her dad for stealing Condoms". This can lead to conversation about birth control, dating and sex, Zina etc. Don't say any thing about her unless she asks. Don't even think about sharing her info with others.

    You can read about the news on the Internet first.

    Does your room mate talk to you casually about her "dates"? At that time you can ask her to be careful .........

  2. It is hard to see the people you love commit sin, but there isnt much you can do but make dua for them. Maybe its time to stop playing along and start having a serious talk with her about how this affects her, bring up religion when you talk to her. If she pushes away, then there isnt anything you can do, it is her journey and she must find her own way.

  3. All you can do is give advice. Once that's done, just be there for her.

    She is an adult and is responsible for her own soul.

  4. Salam
    I think if your room mate is dating and you sort of know, you should just ask her about it. Although she might not like that you are interfering in her life, but who cares. I do believe you have a right to ask her,after all you are sharing a room and she's making you believe her lies and you feel uncomfortable and sad.
    Why is she acting smart and trying to pull wool over your eyes? Maybe she is ashamed that she is doing wrong and just needs that bit of telling and she'll adapt her ways, or needs that bit of telling.
    I mean if your quiet close talks and conversion can easily be carried out with no hard feelings.
    If I had a close friendship I'd talk about issues which was making me feel uncomfortable.
    Have that talk then it's up to her what she does at least you have tried.

    Good luck and may Allah bless you and also help her correct her ways,Ameen.

  5. I think all you can do is advise her sister, and remind her of Allah, you can't be responsible for her actions, i do worry for you though, being around bad company is not good for your deen,

    if she continues in her ways sister, i think it would be best for you to protect yourself from her fit-nah and move out if that is a viable option,

    i think mashallah you are a strong person to keep to your faith despite these bad influences i hope inshallah your friend see's sense,

    stay strong lovely

    xxxx

    • Dear Sister

      You are quite correct. I will add another example.

      A person is drowning and you know swimming but he is too much trapped in fast current. It is your right not to try saving him because you may definitely drown along with him.

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