Proposal from an Arab man.
Salam,
I need advice for my question. I live in a country that is not that strictly islamic, it can even be considered as a free-religion country but it still stands with title of anIslamic country. I am a muslim, but this is not the point.
My problem is that I met this arabic guy and his age is 1 year older than mine. He came here for a family business. I met him from a chat; and we have met so many times I can't even count it. We have so many similarities between us- such as the way we think, our interests, and even our attitude. Well, in the early stages for me, we kept on hanging out just as friends, or best friends. We can definitely see that we both are so happy whenever we are together, and I never expect that we can be more than friends.
But one day, he did express his feelings to me. He said that he has some feelings for me and it grows everyday. He even says that he loves me and couldn't imagine how would it be to be without me. He also meets me almost everyday. Even if he's busy with his work, he will drop by to see me. Wu-allahi we never had sex because we are both muslim and we know its haram.
The things that are different between us are our countries, cultures, languages, race and family lifestyle. He also gave so many hints that he wanted me to be his wife- he even asked how many children did I wish for and what type of guy do I want for a life's partner. So is this truly love? Or is he just playing around with me? I admit that I have some feelings for him too, bacause of his caring and sweetness. Sorry if my english is bad.
-zaliha
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ASSALAMALAIKUM-
1ST IF HE WOULD HAVE BEEN RELIGIOUS ARAB-HE WOULD NOT HAVE DONE THIS WITH YOU
I met him from a chat; and we have met so many times I can't even count it. We have so many similarities
between us-[CHECKING OR COMING TO THIS STAGE IS NOT ALLOWED IN ISLAM RATHER IT IS HARAM]
HE MIGHT BE BUSINESS TIME PASS ARAB LIKE THE OTHER STUDENT ARABS WHO MAKE THE
USA GIRLS PREGNANT AND RETURN BACK AFTER THE STUDIES ARE OVER AND WHEN THE GIRL CALLS HIS RESIDENCE HIS FATHER WILL SPEAK AND SAY DONT EVER CALL AGAIN-
Or is he just playing around with me?
I admit that I have some feelings for him too, bacause of his caring and sweetness[THATS HIS INFATUATION]
YOUR FULL ANSWER IS IS IN THIS-
http://islamqa.info/en/93450
REGARDS
You need not be so negative brother. Non- believers read these replies as well. Islam is a strict way of life, but the way you are putting it, you would be chasing potential reverts away from our beautiful religion. Nobody is perfect. Sometimes the people who commit the most sin, become the best of muslims, and those who act as if they are pious, commit more evil than you know. So you cannot judge a book by its cover. Therefore Allah SWT does not instruct us to marry a pious partner, He says to marry a compatible partner. Inshallah once you are married and you are compatible, you will most likely be able to help each other become closer to your Creator Inshallah
Salaam
Sister,
You are playing with fire and if you don't want to get burned, you really should stop seeing this guy. If he thinks that you are wife material, let him go through the proper channels and ask for your hand in marriage.
Salam
Read very very carefully,
You said, " I am a Muslim, but this is not the point."
What really is your point. From the beginning you were wrong. The first meeting with the guy and all that. Don't dig in it anymore. If he is Arab that do not make him Islamic guy. Cause he is not following Islamic teachings completely. See, your own example. You live in a country which has a Islamic label. And yet the country is not following Islamic laws. I know the country but will not name it here.
What matters the most is that your a Muslim girl. That matters a lot. And if you have a connection with Allaah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) then you don't need to look for a pious husband. Allaah (subhanahu wa ta'ala) will do it for you. But first make yourself worth a true Muslim. Marriage proposals will come to you automatically.
Regards sister in Islam,
Allaah Knows the Best!
Assalaamualaikam
At this time, he is not your mahram, so you and he both need to make sure you are following Islamic guidance regarding any interactions - so, you shouldn't be spending time in private with each other, or having flirtatious or romantic conversations, or un-covering. If you have transgressed Islamic limits, it's important for you both to repent for this.
If he wishes to marry you, he should approach your wali with his proposal, which you and your wali can then consider, based on his deen and character. Words can be empty; he needs to prove his good intentions with appropriate actions.
Remember: There is no couple before nikah.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
I agree 100% with midnightmoon
And do Istikhara by yourself as well Zaliha (sister in Islam).