The definition of “difficult” IS my life and I’m going to go crazy!
I can't breathe anymore, I'm on the brink of going crazy!
Salaam alakum brothers and sisters. I have very uptight parents. Especially my dad. I am 18 years old, and I understand when people say that "Allah tests us" but I can't take it anymore. I can't breath anymore, I'm on the brink of going crazy! How long is Allah supposed to test me? Until I kill myself? Then what? He's going to blame it on me and take me to hell? Uff!
My dad is very strict and my mom just takes it from him at times. My sisters and I are not allowed to go out. My schedule? Go to school for 3 hours, come back and stay at home. That's literally my everyday schedule. Do you know how much that hurts? To look at my friends and others go out? And have fun? And love their life? And some barely pray? But me? And my sisters? We respect our parents, we pray, we don't do wrong but here we are stuck in the house 24/7. I am going to go crazy! I can't breath anymore! I can't explain all this despair in me! It's freaking crazy!
I've tried speaking to my parents about this but they always say "screw what people do! Be grateful for what you have" I AM GRATEFUL FOR WHAT I HAVE! but for how much longer am I supposed to sit at home everyday and wish I die! And cry ad cry and cry' and just.. Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!
I feel hopeless.. I want to die. I really really want to die. I might not make it to heaven.. But I don't care anymore, cause I know deep down my heart that I've been patient all my life, I've been good and nothing ever been good in my life.. I feel like dying. What am I supposed to do? Ya Allah.. I'm just so close to hurting myself.. I can't handle it. No words can explain my grief.. I've tried accepting this. But I can't anymore. I CAN'T! Please help me! Please help!
W.A
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Assalamalaikum
allahs slave.
Your reference Name is so good that satan is thinking that he must beguile you so much that
you record in yr mind that you join him with wrong filthy thinking about deathTHOSE WHO LIVE HUTS THINK ABOUT THIS ONCE DAILY WITHOUT FAIL] and other things.
AND THAT ALSO FOR THIS SMALL SUBJECT MATTER[NOT GOING OUT WITH FRIENDS]
NOT WORTH -SEE THIS TO KNOW THE TRUTH -
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/suicide-in-islam/
AND THEN SEE THIS ALSO-
http://sisters.islamway.com/modules.php?name=News&file=article&sid=753
You think the friends who are enjoying [FALSE PLEASURE] DEFYING THE COMMANDS FO ALLAH.
are very good and they have any ethics SORRY NO THEY DONT HAVE ANY ETHICS THEY ARE
GOING OUT FOR TRAINING THEMSELVES FOR A BAD SOCIETY- AND THIS IS THE AGE THE WRONG COMPANY AND COMES IN CONTACT-
AND SEE ANOTHER CASE JUST AFTER YOU SUBMITTED HAS COME AND EE THE RESULT OF MOVING WITH FRIENDS..
[My name is AbduL and I am 18. Four years back I had sex with a couple of a guys and I had sex with a woman also, but now I am feeling ashamed of myself and I do tuba to Allah but I am Telling my heart FroM noW on I will NoT dO ThIs. But after 2 oR 3 dayS I am watching PoRn Or DoInG MasTurBatIOn. I am feeling bad for mySelf if ALlaH will PuniSh Me oR nOt. PlZ HeLp Me My BroTher,S anD SisTERs...
Kool55]
FIRST OF ALL YOUR CONNECTION WITH ALLAH IS SO STRONG AND YOU WANT TO DEFY
HIM ONLY WHO YOU LOVE IN DOING SAJDA DAILY.
AT THIS STAGE YOU NEED TO KNOW WAHT YR CREATOR HAS SET THE RULES AFTER PUBERTY
PL SEE THIS WEBSITE WHERE THE FRIENDS LEAD TO INTRODUCTION PAGE...2ND PARAGRAPH
http://www.al-islamforall.org/Misc/purdah.pdf
PL START READING ASTAGHFARUALLAH CONTIOUSLY EVEN IF YOUR TOUNGE BECOMES DRY
AND SEE THE EFFCT IN 2 3 DAYS YOU YOUR SELF WILL SEE YR FRIENDS AND THINK IT LOOKS
SO CHEAP TO GO ABOUT THE WAY THEY ARE AND INSHALLAH ALLAH WILL OPEN WAYS TO YOU.
RAMZAN IS IN ABOUT 2.MONTHS AND 23 DAYS PREPARE YOUR MIND READ GOOD SUBJECTS ON ISLAM.
SEE YOU WILL GET PEACE OF MIND.
THOSE WHO GOT ISLAM LATER FATER SEEING THE DIRTY WORLD HAVE STARTED COMING TO ALLAH.AND THEIR COUNTRIES ARE IN THE VERGE OF BECOMING ISLAMIC STATES FROM WHERE THE MINGLING OF SEXES STARTED0-WHICH YOU ARE DESIRING TO DO-
SEE THIS-TRUE ISLAM PREACHES ITSELF-WITHOUT SWORD-OR CONQUEST OR INVASIONS OR COMPULSION...
Very good Video, and some good points.CLICK...AND SEE
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6-3X5hIFXYU
HOPE YOU WILL ENJOY THE BLISS OF ISLAMIC LIFE.
Salam..
Well first of all, life is ironic isn't it.. we all have different tests, some are harder than others, but never the less, all of us are being tested frequently..
I heard what's your problem is, but I dont understand what's the reason. Talk to your parents, especially your dad, ask him gently why. Make plans with him.. you know. compromise.. You sound young by the way. Is that the factor you can't go out? Maybe your dad is being overprotective.. i know that feeling, but talk to him. make him understand.. talk to him again. but dont pester.. make him see things the way you see them.. ok
As salam alaikum sister,
Your parents are trying to do the best they can to protect you and give you the best islamic education. But i do understand that you need a social life. It doesn't have to be going out to the mall it could be visiting a friend at home or inviting one friend around.
Maybe if you could involve your mum , like asking her to make a meal and invite couple of friends around she will feel reassured to meet them and realize they are good company and she would trust you more.
You have to be diplomatic , being rebelious would only make things worth. But mashaAllah you seem to be very respectfull.
If it doesn't work, ask a family member you feel close to to speak to them without mentionning that you requested it. Explaining that as a teenager isolation can lead to depression and socialising is an important part of developing your personality and that it would have a positif effect on everything in your life.
Try , but take this suicide thoughts far away from you, this is not the solution.
And this situation wont last forever anyway and you know it
Yeah they don't want you to do thinks like drugs and damgerous thinks
Who are you saying uff too in your post?
Salam.Things look nice are really sometimes not as they are seen. Going out,harms in many ways.Some time we are influenced&get trapped.What u eat,not every one eats. Allah never harm his any slave.Pl keep protected,inside ur home.Pl remember never to sleep at&before sunrise.If ever u slept before dawn or dusk.U will go worst.Thanks.
Doago
Syed
Salaam my Sister,
I am sorry that you are feeling this intense claustrophobia which in my opinion is very natural. You are experiencing cabin fever - which all of us experience when stuck in any form of confinement for a period of time with no change.
You are likely to begin to relax as soon as something that is different from your everyday experience happens - this can occur in the form of some kind of fun, or uplifting interaction. If you are family are averse to the idea of you going out by yourself or with your friends, I would advise that you start to ask them for you to all go out together - to visit family, or out a restaurant or some other "different" thing that you can all do together: the possibilities are endless - and there is no reason why you cannot have some fun together as a family.
You can also introduce a sense of adventure and "newness" to your everyday experience by picking up a hobby (again, mum can be in on this as well if you are not allowed by yourself).
I know it is frustrating to be confined and not allowed any form of self expression or freedom - however slowly, your parents will begin to relax the rules a little soon inshaAllah, as you get older.
Peace,
Leyla
Editor, Islamic Answers
dear Leyla,
asalamalaikum,
heard from you after a long time. hope you are ok. may Allah keep you happy and content and grant you wisdom.( long time ago you replied to my post and it gave me confidence to trust this website.i still visit your reply whenever i feel sad about the situation.)
take care.
Salaam Friend,
May Allah bless you for thinking of me and wishing well for me - I am still here! Just been in the background. Elhamdulilah I am well, and I send you love, warmth, appreciation and prayers today, tomorrow and always xxxx Leyla xxx
What ur parents are doing is not wrong, they are just protecting u. I was in the same case when I was 18, my routine was just going to school and get back home, I have only 2 -3 freinds and I was not allowed to meet them to their house.At that time it was quite frustrating. But when I entered univeristy, things get better, I was able to hang out with freinds.My parents restrictions helps me to chose good peaple and now it helps me to set the limits by my own.There are girls who lie to their parents just to have fun or to meet peaple. I don't need to do that because i know what I do is not wrong.
Don't be sad, today earn ur parents respect & confidence and u will see when u will start univeristy things will improve.
Just relax and breath, u have all ur life to enjoy and go to restaurants.
Hello brother, have you tried to ask your parents why they dont let you out. It is probably because they think that you will start doing drugs and sins .