Islamic marriage advice and family advice

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web of tears

How did things get so complicated?

I was in realitionship with non muslim man over then 3yrs. He always told me that he is going to convert to islam and we will get married. He did not. I left him. Alhamdolillah. I found a good muslim man that strength my deen so much cause i really was forgetting Allah. I did my ramadan so good, I was proud of myself. We did our fatha, and i'm happy. We live in different countries and it's so hard. After ramadan i got so depressed, i would drink and i was drunk for 5-6 weeks every weekend. I felt so bad. So depressed. I cheated on my man. And everyday i'm so angry at myself i've never behavied this way. Wallah i was feeling like shaytan was living in me doing all this bad things, messing my mental health. I really don't know what to do. I am so ashamed  of my self.

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  1. Are you keeping up salah? Did you just stop practicing after Ramadan? When your emaan is weak, shaytan will mess with your head. If you stop practicing and you keep falling into sin, this will only lower your emaan. You cannot draw closer to Allah by disobeying Him.

    "And whoever turns away from My remembrance - indeed, he will have a depressed life..." (Quran 10:124)

    You need to give up haram and come closer to Allah.

    It is haram to date or even socialize with non-mahrams, it is haram to be friends with kuffar, drinking is very dangerous, the punishment in the grave for zina is extremely severe but remember, Allah is the Most Forgiving and the Most Merciful.

    Ruling on taking boyfriends and girlfriends: https://islamqa.info/en/1114

    Can a Muslim be a sincere friend to a kafir?: https://islamqa.info/en/21530

    Regarding alcohol: https://islamqa.info/en/20037

    Regarding Zina: https://youtu.be/KTUo8g7Da2M

    You know how you feel so happy during Ramadan? That is because your emaan is raised and you are obeying Allah. Peace is from Allah, if you leave that which angers Him and turn to obeying Him, I promise you your life will be much better. Turn back to Allah before it's to late.

    There are two shuyookh in Saudi who address the youth who fall into many of the things you've mentioned. Please check-out this playlist. Insha'Allah it will inspire you 🙂

    Mansur Al Salimi and Nayef Al Sahafi: http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9gwZRThp3ETWn-u-UgHccGyyv95c_AJE

    May Allah make us among those who draw close to Him

  2. Salam..This is a case of seriousness repenting....This were you should be eg. Praying 5 times a day Reading Quran daily morning n evening minimum Some hadith zikr 100x astagfur 100x durool 100x 3rd kalimah morning n evening minimum. .You must also attend lectures weekly at a Sunni mosque and get involved with women's chapters Practicing ..Muslim friends are very important. You must try to fast once a week...As you can see that this is a good consistant rourine. .I know that all scholor and pious people follow a schedule similar to this. Now there is something else that can effect this ....Halal must be observed! Are you listening to music Looking at bad things Socializing with opposite sex Bad company...These will effect you...The bottom line is.If you are not obeying the commandments of Allah and teachings of the prophet Muhammad S.a.w. Then you will never live a life of peace contentment happiness satisfaction and barakah. Regardless how intelligent or wealthy a person is....Allah is the controller of hearts and when your time is up..You will not only see the truth when you die but are you ready to answer the questions in the grave...This is very scary n a sudden shock for those who did not prepare themselves in this world......
    IF YOU FEEL THAT AN EVIL ENTITY IS WITHIN YOU .YOU MUST DO THE FOLLOWING. ..GET CHECKED OUT .REFER TO THE IMAM AT A SUNNI MOSQUE..MAYBE HE MIGHT REFER YOU TO A LEARNED MAN IN THIS FIELD WHO CAN EXAMINE YOU....I WOULD ALSO LISTEN TO MANZIL DAILY .JUST DOWNLOAD APP. BLOW ON YOURSELF THE 3 KULS BEFORE BEDTIME...EVERYTHING YEAR IS HAQQ..MY WIFE IS A SCHOLOR AND I MYSELF AS A REVERT STUDIED IN THIS FIELD OF EXORCISM. ..ALOT OF PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD ARE EXPERIENCING JINN IN HABITATION AND THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW IT...SO BE SMART AND WISE OR ELSE YOU WILL LOSE BOTH WORLDS AND SITTING THERE FEELING SORRY IS THE FIRST STEP SHAITAN WHISPERS! I LEAVE YOU WITH THIS SAINTLY SAY.....AN IDLE MAN'S BRAIN IS A DEVILS WORKSHOP. GOOD LUCK SISTER.

  3. The root cause is not whether she fasts/prays or behaves well or not. The root cause is that she is not with her husband. A husband and wife should be together for the marriage to be successful.

    Yes of course they should pray, but praying Salah does not automatically guarantee a happy marriage. But living together.

    I read all these stories and when I look at the advice, it's always the same, you got to get to the root cause of the problem.

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