Catholic woman pregnant by a Muslim man
A Bolivian woman with her baby
Hi, I am a student from Bolivia and I live and study in UK , I met this muslim man in a holidays in Spain, we stayed together for three days, I really enjoyed stay with him this time. We never talked about religion. I only knew that he was a Muslim when he told he couldn't visit me because of start Ramadan .
After 5 weeks i found out that i am pregnant. I went mad, scared and I was thinking to do an abortion.
I told him and he was very happy about the baby and will help with everthing i needed.
My plans now is move to his country (Portugal) to live with him for while and have a baby because i live with other students and my family is not here.
My student visa is finishing soon and he asked to marry me if I have any problems with the visa.
I am a bit confused in live with him pregnant even more now when he asked to marry me.
I'm afraid of marry with a him because we don't each other well , i would like to stay more with him and learn more about him and maybe after if I feel in love with him i would marry otherwise I have to find my way without him.
How is the marriage with a muslim man ?
How the muslim man behave inside a marriage ?
- luna
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Hello Luna,
You have every right to feel confused and scared. Think about what he is asking you. In your post you say that you were with him for only three days. Do you think that's enough time to get to know someone? You said it yourself that you need to learn more about him. Luna, you don;t know anything about him. Why would you consider moving to his country?
You should know that having sex outside of marriage is wrong. Not only is it wrong but every time you have unprotected sex you are taking the risk of contracting an STD that you may not recover from.
As for your questions about marrying a Muslim man or how does a Muslim behave in Marriage? For starters this man has not given you a good example of a Muslim man. He is only Muslim in name. If he were a practicing Muslim then the two of you would not have had sexual relations.
Before committing to this man and moving to his country you need more information about him. Is he a student? Does he work. Can he support you and a child? What type of housing will he provide for you and your baby.
Take your time. This is your life that you are talking about. Never make decisions without getting all of the facts.
Abdul Wali
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Luna, one of the validation of a Nikah ( Islamic marriage) is that you must not be in a relationship with the man, I believe the you have be apart one menstrual cycle,secondly, you need to read the rules behind marriage, I.e what validates it, what nullfies it, cause I believe if you have the child, if will be forbidden for him to marry you anyways, these are know as Mani( Preventions) of Nikah. Alot of people have misconception that you can get into relationship and then marry that person, am afraid thats not going to make the marriage valid.
Lastly I invite you to read and explore Islam, May Allah guide you to the right path. Ameen
Zaki