Christian woman marrying a Muslim man, is it worth it?
May God bless you all. I am writing you as I need an advice, if pleases God. I am a 25 year old Christian girl, in love with a 27 y. o. Muslim man. We met at the University in UK and started a relationship with a big respect for each other's beliefs. Now we are in a long distance relationship (I'm in Italy and he is in Indonesia), and we both think at each other as the man/woman we would like to marry. I am writing you as I feel I am in a "loop", and the problem is that the situation is complex.
It seems that in order to stay together, I should move to Indonesia. but for me it is not so easy to do, as I am an only child, my parents are divorced and my mother's health is not good. in addition, moving to Indonesia would mean for me to renounce to my career to set up a family. Therefore, before doing such a big step (I would be totally alone in a Country I have never visited), I would like to feel I am doing the right thing.
His parents expressed some perplexities about me (because of my religion and because, as European, I might not be serious to him). I do understand and respect their doubts, but I think that they will be eventually solved once they will know me personally and realize I really love their son and I am faithful to him. Also, my boyfriend is the only son, so I will support him in being responsible for his parents and sisters once his dad will be old.
And I hope he will support me in taking care of my parents when they will be old as well, as I am their only child. My concerns are about how to conciliate our different faiths. Having experienced what a divorce means for a child, I do not want to repeat the mistake of my parents and be aware of all the implications of my choice.
Although it is only one year we are together, we have been through several issues already (job searching, long distance relationship) and we overcame every situation talking and sharing our opinions. We never had an argument, in the sense that we both think and say our words carefully also when we support different opinions, so that in the end, after every difficulty we realized how important we are to each other. We are both very religious and we respect each other because of our firmness in the faith. In the year we were together, I have started reading the Quran and some commentaries because I feel I need to know more about his belief. During the Ramadan I even sometimes observed the entire fast day, and I appreciated enormously this practice and its coherence. However, I still believe firmly in my religion; Please, do not read my words in a wrong way.. for me, being Christian means first of all to practice Jesus' two main commandments
1)Love God with all your soul, your mind and your body;
2) Love other people as you love yourself.
Therefore, I try to put into practice these two rules and being a caring friend, a loving girlfriend and a honest and virtuous woman. These general principles are close to Muslim's life conduct as far as I know (please, do correct me if I am wrong) . I pray every day God for my boyfriend's happiness, although I might not be part of God's plans for my boyfriend's life. I chose my boyfriend because first, he is a true believer; second, because he is a caring and loving person. He is respected by his friends and virtuous, and always think carefully to what he says.
And, as far as I know, he respects me for the same reasons, although he confessed me that he hopes I will become Muslim one day. That hurted me a lot, as I didn't feel respected, although I know that his hopes are actually wise, as from his perspective we won't be together when God will recall back to him our souls. I know it might sound as a paradox, but I am afraid my being so faithful to my religion can be a serious obstacle to our marriage.
I have a deep respect for Islam and appreciate the fact that it gives rules to follow in everyday life, but at the same time I feel Christian ism is inside my heart and soul. Here is my question: I would like him to know more about the pillars of Christianity and Christian family, as well as I want to know Islam better. I do not mean to convert him. I fell in love and love him and all the things that make him so special, first of all Islam.
But I feel our couple needs to grow up spiritually together (he does not know a lot of things I wish he was aware of about Christian spirituality and family), before thinking seriously about marriage. Do you think this might me possible? I always prayed God to give me a partner who would pray and believe with me..so far, I try to pray at the same hours he does, so to establish a connection, despite the fact that we pray in two different ways.
I thought to ask the assistance of an imam for me and of a Christian priest for him to guide us to the knowledge of our religions. Is this considered disrespectful towards Islam?Sorry, it took me quite a lot to express how I feel.
Please, read my words as a request of help. I did not mean to hurt anyone and I hope my words sounded respectful towards Islam and Muslims. I apologise if my words sounded hurtful to someone, in case please tell me and I will edit again the post. Many thanks in advance, may God bless you all and guide you through your life. A.
~ Eineliae
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Assalamu alaikum sister... I address you as this bcos as a christian you are still a believer in the one true GOD. I will say however as a muslim this will probably not end well.. In all fairness the way of islam is a lifestyle... It affects the way we eat, what we eat, our marital affairs, business, familial affairs and children. Christianity tends to be a bit more lenient... In islam if you were to marry him it is his obligation to make sure his kids are MuSLIMS. Period . There is no sharing beliefs . Please be aware as a muslim he can have respect for your religion as we as muslims should however this business of sharing christian values even if majority are similar is not welcome when innocent kids arrive as their will be conflicts of interest and confusion. Also as a muslim he k knows having a "girlfriend" is not acceptable so i would make sure he isnt just " playing the field" until he finds a muslima.
Dear Ayatbinthamza, sister or brother in humanity,
thank you very much for your answer. I did not know that having a girlfriend or boyfriend was not acceptable, but now I understand many of his behaviours towards me.. He has always been caring to me, and I could see in his eyes how much he loved and loves me (now he's in Indonesia and I'm in Italy), but somehow treated me as a sister, e.g., not so many kisses, most of them in the forehead. I accepted that as I thought it was somehow related to religion, but didn't know that in Islam is not allowed to have girlfriend or boyfriend.
Thank you again for your advice, may God reward you for your kindness and your time. 🙂
Salaams,
I'm going to be as honest with you as I possibly can. I see a lot of factors of concern in your present relationship with your boyfriend, as well as strong potential for problems as you move toward marriage. I am going to try to address these as tactfully as I can, and I want you to know that before converting to Islam I was a strongly practicing Christian for 11 years. So I do have a solid understanding of where you are coming from and the present situation you are in.
When I married my husband, who was Muslim at the time, I was still yet a Christian. However, it's been my personal experience that unless a Christian woman is truly open minded to the possibility of becoming Muslim herself, it is extremely difficult to meet in the middle. Islam is an "all or nothing" practice, and honestly I always thought Christianity should be approached the same way. If individuals of both beliefs are living their lives like that, there really is not much compatibility between the two, for numerous reasons. Had I not been at a stage in my life when I married of looking for the REAL truth as revealed by God, I don't think my marriage would have lasted even a year.
You are saying you want your husband to understand your faith more. However, this is not something you can manipulate; it has to come from his genuine curiosity and care for you and what makes you who you are. Likewise, he shouldn't be sharing anything about Islam with you beyond what you are interested in knowing. If either of you start pushing that issue you're going to wind up facing the ultimate fact: that only one of you can be correct in your understanding of God and everything that follows that understanding. You can't both be correct, and since both of you feel that you are under correct guidance it will be a stalemate. Who can endure a marriage where that is constantly between you? I certainly wouldn't expect him to concede that your beliefs are correct, and from what you're saying you don't anticipate doing the same for Islam. This WILL create tension, and start eroding your bond, no matter what other things have brought you together.
To me, that is the biggest concern you face. Yet like I said, there are other things you've mentioned I'm not feeling confident about. For one, you mentioned being an only child with an ill mother. You "hope" he will help care for her, but admitted that marrying him will mean moving to a foreign country with no supports and leaving your mother alone and uncared for. Let me ask you something, as a Christian: What do you think God would make of that? He loves your mother, wants her to be looked after. You are the only sure thing in her life. Do you really, really believe he would condone you abandoning her to make a very risky move, that could end up hurting you more than you expect if things don't happen to work out right? Do you really believe this is what Jesus would do, if he were in your place? Think that over very seriously.
The other side of that coin is the risks you are taking with your own life. You are putting your sole dependence in your boyfriend by giving up your career and moving somewhere where he knows everyone, and you know no one. You are trusting a mere man, a created being, for every need and to be cared for. If he turns out to be someone else than you thought, or the relationship breaks down, you will be in a very disadvantaged position. Are you entirely sure that's the risk you want to take? You are a woman, and like it or not women are more vulnerable in the world than men. It seems to me that it would show more good faith on your part, and be the best for you and your mother, if he leaves his family and comes to where you are and lives with you there. That, in my mind, is what a real man would do. I can't tell you how many women did exactly what you're considering, and wound up in a very bad situation that they never expected. Everything I'm saying is only my sincere effort to prevent the same happening with you.
And that's another thing: the fact that his family has reservations with you. From what I've seen with other posters, this is not something that just magically goes away. Even if you had no other problems at all, family issues can be enough to drive you apart as they "get in his head" about you and he begins to treat you differently. Read some of our posts under the family issues subsection and you'll see what I'm talking about. Many of the couples start out with good intentions, and then the family ends up destroying the marriage in the end.
Finally, there's the issue of where he is in practicing his faith. Apparently, you two are openly engaging each other in a relationship before marriage. You are calling him boyfriend, and he is calling you girlfriend. Now, I understand that there is no prohibition of this in your belief, but in Islam this is strictly forbidden. So not only are you dealing with someone who understands and approaches faith entirely differently from you, but it's someone who is compromising his own beliefs. Let me ask you this, if you happened to have met someone who was Christian and was doing things he shouldn't according to Christianity, would you accept that level of character? Or would you want someone who talks the talk and walks the walk? How people approach their own belief says a lot about how they deal with life in general. I generally think women should look for men who are committed, disciplined and principled no matter what they practice; and someone who cuts corners or excuses what they understand as "sin" just doesn't fit that criteria.
All in all, I think you have quite a bit to think about. Being in love can make us willing to make big and risky decisions without realizing all of the implications. You have a lot of stake, and I think you need to take more time and do more research into what Islam really is, not only how your boyfriend is practicing it. I think you'll find that unless you are willing to compromise a lot of who you say you are, a marriage to a Muslim will be extremely challenging with lower odds for longterm success. I also suggest you look more into your beliefs and how you understand they should be lived, because last time I checked the Bible did say "do not be unequally yoked withed unbelievers", and by most Christian's standards a Muslim would fit that category and you would be advised not to consider marrying him as well.
-Amy
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Dear Amy,
thank you so much for the time you took in answering me. I think you photographed the picture quite well.. almost a month has passed by, and the situation still is the same. However, I took sometime to talk with him, and these are the consequences.
I think he's going through a period of spiritual growth, for example he has started praying all the 5 times (before he was used to pray 3 or 4), or making his beard and mustache growing..somehow, I feel that, although I keep encouraging him in his faith, this will depart us. On my side, I'm studying both the two religions. I didn't know that passage of the Bible, thank yuo for pointing it out to me.
however, you are right when you say I have much at stake. I would really like to speak with an imam, or someone who can clear my doubts about Islam, and, as you said, religion is the biggest issue. The other one I see is distance (we are literally at the other side of the world)..he tried to find a job in UK but didn't succeed; Italy now is in crisis, there are very few jobs even for Italians, so it is quite hard to get a working visa. However, when I told him about my mum, he understood my situation, but said that we are not living in the 1920s, so I could get a plane and visit my mum for 2 months once I'll be in Indonesia..
I know he's telling me this because he's deeply in love with me and doesn't want to loose me, but I don't see in that a solution..I'd be one day of airplane far away after al, and also I seriously doubt that with kids I'll be able to leave my family 2 months to stay with my mum (nor I'd like to do that, honestly).
In this month I felt so horrible, a mean person, for all these doubts that were puzzling my mind. I deeply love him, and so he does.. I was feeling not worth of him because of my doubts. From your answer I understand that it is normal to havethem..I will work on my weaknesses, study hard and think carefully on what to do.
Just want to say thank you for releasing me from a heavy burden my soul had. May God reward you for all the good you do.
I don't know if I lack of respect in saying this, but I will pray for you and for the editors (I've been looking at the website for this whole month, and you all do a very good and caring job). May God bless you.
Thank you wholeheartedly again.
I'm sorry to say this but I personally don't think you two should get married. Don't get me wrong, I have NOTHING against inter-faith marriages...I just think they don't last long. You two get married and I give your marriage a year before you two start running into problems, another 6 months and you'll be contemplating divorce and the last 6 months you two will have realized what big mistakes you made marrying each other and WILL divorce. I don't have faith in your yet-to-be marriage. Sorry but I'm being honest.
Dear Asim,
thank you for your time and for your comment.
The goodness of posting a very personal situation is that you can get several kinds of advices, spanning from more detailed to more direct ones. 🙂
I will consider your words, they were honest but not conveyed in a rude way, at least to me. So, thank you a lot for your time and honesty in answering me.
May God reward you.
There are many side effect in interfaith marriage especially when both couples are staunch beleivers in there various religions. It barely works out fine. If he is a devoted muslims, there are many things you have to sacrifice in order to be with him... You wont eat pork and you wont cook it in the house, no more alchohol,, your children have to be raised muslims. Your dressing code has to be modest..
If you wish to remain a christian whilst both of you are married, you are going to give up many of your christian lifestyle, and the only thing you wont be doing is just the muslim 5 daily salat prayers, otherwise you would see your self slowly adopting the islamic lifestyle and also the christian lifestyle shall be fading away with the passage of time. This would be stimulated by the environment you are in, and by the people around you - your husband being muslim, your children muslims, the family of your husband being muslims, must of your friends shall be muslim (although many might be very liberal [specially in places like indonesia] and dont hold unto the islamic lifestyle).
If he really loves you, and moreso if he is a real muslim, then he is going to do all he can (within the islamic principles) to convince you to leave christianity and embrace islam. Because he would want to leave happily with you in this would, and to also eternally be with you in the heavenly paradise ... He isnt going to force you, but he would keep on enlightening you about the faith and trying to convince you.
If you think all what i listed here are no problems to you, and you can adjust to the situation, then fine, you shall enjoy your marriage with your spouse, especially when both of you truely love each other.
And sister, am very sorry for my bluntness, or if what i said/say might have hurt your feelings. Since you sincerely come here for advice, i think is best i honestly say what i feel is truth.
Again, if you have any question about islam, or you want to clear your misunderstandings on islam, then please we are willing to help you, you could ask us here.
May Almighty God bless you, and May He guide you to his right path.
Mohd.
Thank you very much Mohd!
As said above, I appreciate every kind of comment. I came here to get an advice from an Islamic point of view. As you can imagine, in Italy it's quite hard 🙂
So, thank you for showing me also this side. I'm not scared or hurt of what you said, I always appreciate people who live their religion with integrity (but not with extremism 🙂 ). I personally would like my boyfriend to get closer to his religion, as it is inside his heart and life. II
Honestly, I don't know if I can convert..Christianism is deep inside me, but only God knows. So, I'm studying Islam and we'll see.
It is difficult for me to let my boyfrined go, as it was very difficult for me to find someone who believes in one God and really shows his faith by his example, not by empty words. Please, pray for him, he's really a wonderful person and deserves the best for him. I certainly need some guidance on Islam, and surely will get back to this website to clear my doubts.
Really, than you for your time, I appreciated it.
May God reward you for helping me. thank you again.
Thank you for your kind reply,... Islam has forbiden excremism.. In the hadith, The prophet muhammad instruct us not to go to the excreme in matter of the religion, but we should try as much as we can to be near to perfection, and Allah will reward us for the righteous good deeds we have done.
I would also want to remind you to research on islam from the geniune sources,. Because many site in the internet a being runned by nonmuslims and critics of islam, they misinterprete, mistranslate and misquote the holy koran and hadiths and they misrepresent islam to the people, so that they can sway men away from seeing the reality of islam.. They quote the koran or hadiths out of context so as to suit there notions. Of course the notions are 'islam is a religion of terror, of murder and of hate. Islam was spread by the sword, islam is oppressive to human kind, especially woman kind. Etc etc.'
so am very sure if you study islam on these critics sites or there books, you too would be seeing islam negatively or as a terrorist religion.
So be sincere to yourself and study islam on sites that a runned by muslims, or books that are authored by real muslims.
May God guide you, my italian sister.
Thank you again Mohd!
Yes, you are totally right: there are a lot of websites that are biased-driven and misinterpret the Quran.. For example, most of the websites I found attack Islam for the famous issue of poligamy, but few of them mention the sentence (hadith?) in which there is written that you can marry more than one woman IF you are able to treat all of them equally.. (please, correct me if I'm wrong. I am reading it in Italian, so the translation in my book might be incorrect).
Personally, I think that, as all the ancient holy books, one should reflect carefully on each single word, reading over and over again before jumping to conclusions.
this is the reason why I came here to seek for advice: I like this website as I think it shows that Islam IS about peace and respect, and you can seek for advice although you are not Muslim.
I don't think Islam as a terrorist religion, and I get pissed off with my friends when they say in this way. Unfortunately, some branches of the terrorism use religion as an excuse. But if we just look at history, also "Christians" did the same.. Humankind is greedy and puts religion as excuse unfortunately, but we have to do our best to overcome biases.
I just feel sorry that now there is a "contrapposition" between west and east of the world. It is true that values are somehow fadingin the west; I think that our society, at least in Italy and UK (these are the countries in which I lived) is progressively becoming superficial. but it is also true that there are a lot of people who want to be living witnesses of deep-thinking and values, without be integralist or extremist 🙂
So, once again thank you Mohd for your advices and all your time. May God reward you and guide you throughout your whole life. 🙂
Like I really liked Amy and Mohd's answers. They were very realistic and honest. Though. I would think you would be more weary about being in Indonesia by yourself. I understand one has to step out on faith, but Christianity also teaches to deny one's flesh to choose God's will. Is this what he wants for your life? I do believe that you know your boyfriend better than someone online, so you can judge for yourself whether it will work out as long as you are truthful with yourself. Examine things with clear eyes. Love is a verb more than an emotion. If he is mr. Right, the question is not whether its worth it, The question to me is whether it is the right time? Seed time and harvezt. There iz a time and a place for everything. A year is definitely not very long to me.I think. It will work out. We are all people who practice faith based on our relationship with god. Is it not about our relationship with god and what he tells us at the end of the day. You might be a ptestimony. Your mother might get healed. I just wouldn't let anyone stereotype you and your relationship. Cause from a Christian perspective God's plan for you may not be understood by others. But s it his plan? From an Islamic perspective, I don't know. You're going to have to settle that with your man. I'd. Listen to Amy.
Peace unto you italian sister!,
you see, concerning the issue of polygamy, the sentence you are refering to is in the koran and i quote
"...then marry women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then (marry) only one..." koran4:3.
From the analysis of this verse, the muslim schoolers explained that marrying more than one wife is conditional, and the condition is that the man must be prepared to deal justly between the wives. If the man cannot deal justly between the wives, then he should not go into polygamy. Because polygamy would be a calamity for him in this world, and a very grate calamity and source of mighty problems in the hereafter/judgement day...
And the reason why God made polygamy lawful to those who can maintain justice between the wives is because of the shortage of males even in those days (1400 years ago).. Because of the series of wars that is going on in those days, the men are dying in the battle field. hence the female population outnumber the males, and so there are many many many young women, divorcees, and widows that cannot find male spouse.. So in other for this women to maintain there respects and dignity, God gave them the option of polygamy..
Lets look at the situation in the world today. In the europe, united states, the west indices and the rest of the world, the population of women far outnumbers that of men. In america for instance, there are 5 to 7 million more women than men. This means that if every man should marry one woman, there are more than five million women that can not find husband. And dont forget among the male populations, some are homosexuals- you call them gays, this men rather get married to each other and they wont find for them selfs female spouses..
What do you think would be the solution to this million of unmarried woman???
Should they leave there whole life in this world single and unmarried??? And you know its very difficult for a well matured healthy women to keep on controlling her sexual urges through out her whole life... In the midst of the struggle, she is gonna give up and start satisfying her sexual urges through whatever means possible.. This means she would become a public property, or a whore or a prostitute..
Do you think this would give respect and dignity to these women??, or do you think polygamy would?
You know, the 2nd, 3rd, or 4th wife is as much a wife as the first wife. The husband must not take one of the wife as superior to the rest of the wives..
So logically, i think you would agree with me that polygamy is an answer to the problems..
Any question on any issue regarding islam, we are willing to help you out, italian sister. May God guide you to his path.
Mohd,
I agree that done Islamically, polygamy can be an appropriate avenue for one to follow. Unfortunately though, most polygamous situations I hear about in my community from those in them tend to lean toward a gamut of polygamous situations best described as:
OOPS! Did I Fail to Mention I Have a Wife and Kids in My Country?
OR
Now That I'm a Citizen I Will Return to My Country and Marry the Girl Who's Been Waiting
OR
But I Haaaaave to Marry Her! My Mom Said So! (aka: the "It's My Culture!" excuse)
In each of those situations, when the first wife (or the one who thought she was the only wife) got angry or protested the deceit, lies and manipulations, what was all the husbands' pat answer? "In Islam I can have more than one wife." And, the wives' anger was somehow their fault, their deen was weak since they were unaccepting of the situation that Allah guided their husbands into making. Of course in ALL of the situations I am aware of, a VISA/citizenship was involved provided by the marriage to the US born wife. It's all really hurtful stuff, and nothing I would consider (though I am not a scholar) anywhere near what the prophet(pubh) or Allah(swt) intended when allowing for polygamy.
You are right lydia, some men go into polygamy for the wrong reasons.. But no one should blame islam base on what some misguided fellows do. Some men have there wife and children back home, but because they want to possess green cards and gain citizenship from other countries, they would try to reach out to vulnerable girls and get married to them (not for the sake of Allah, but for the sake of green card. Since that is the easiest way of gaining citizenship into the girl's country). This is absolutely wrong and un-islamic..
Whoever wants to go into polygamy, should do so for the right reasons and should do so for the sake of Allah..
There are many divorcees and widows that are more than willing to accept becoming second wife. This is because many of this innocent women find it difficult to find potential single spouses ..
Also some women are in there late 20s, 30s or even 40s, and still they havent got married even for ones, because they have been searching for potential spouse all there life and there is no success. This women would also accept becoming second wives if they see the opportunity.
Whosoever wants to go for polygamy for the right reasons, then the first wife should be able to see reasons and compromise with him. She should put her legs in those single and unmarried women shoes.. And she would realise that giving those unmarried women the chance to become married (so as to maintain there respect and dignity, and also to enjoy the sweetness of marital life) is the best thing for her to do.. And for this reasons, she is gonna accept her husband having a second wife without much 'pain'.
Mohd
Hi there, I just found your post somehow when i google about long distance relationship.
I am from Indonesia and i am a moslem.
There will be a lot more obstacle than religion if hes from indonesia. There will be culture and family-in terms his family of dad and mom and sisters or brother. Marriage is a huge thing for sure but if you sure you could overcome differences between you two then it should be all right.
In Islam it is allowed for a moslem guy to marry a christian girl, but doesnt work the other way (if the girl moslem and guy is christian). And about the marrying more than one wife.. yes some guys did that but for sure guys these days especially the educated one rarely did so (if hes indonesian). You shouldnt be worry about this yet.
Most important i somehow got the sight you, your self not even sure if hes really that in to you and... trust me.. indone guys just like any other guys if he want you to be his wife he will ask you!
In long term there will be so many obstacles, its better to think in the long run (what belief do you want your kids to have?where will you stay? this will affect the children life in future as if its in indonesian they will be easier to be a moslem--i said easier but doesnt meant it will close the option to be a christian).
Anyway there will be so much to think of for you 🙂 wish you good luck!
Shalom!
In response to what you said about Christianity History...it was infact the Catholic Church that killed and persecuted non Christian Pagans and also the primitive church which is now the pentecostal church.
The first church was underground for many years so much so the sign of the 'fish' was derived so that they could know who were believers or not to gather for fellowship and worship!
Please lets get it correct.
ANYHOW: Evil doers over the years have hidden behind religion as a cause for their crimes and murders...whatever they believe they are agents of Satan but God will Judge them not us.
Let us all focus on individual faith and buillding a personal relationship with God.
Religion separates thats why even Love can be complicate!
Lets focus on what we have in common; sometimes we have less differences that we all share..but we dwell on these differences too much
ONE LOVE, UNITY IN ONE GOD!
Shalom
@Eineliae -
I should tell you that in Islam there is no girl friend-boy friend relationship.
you said that he" treated me as a sister, e.g., not so many kisses, most of them in the forehead. I accepted that as I thought it was somehow related to religion"
This is unacceptable in Islam sister that he touches/kisses you.
The Messenger of Allaah Muhammed(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”
Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486.
You should ask him to fear Allah.
Do not let him touch you/kiss you again.
It is not permissible for the Muslim to long for the things that lead to zina(adultery, fornication), such as kissing, being alone, touching and looking, for all these things are haraam(forbidden) and lead to the greater evil which is zina.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)”
[al-Isra’ 17:32]
Do you know that he can't even keep looking at you.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allaah is All‑Aware of what they do.”
[al-Noor 24:30]
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A woman is not a tissue paper that can be used and thrown. Islam has given many rights to women which many fail to realize.
The guy whom you call your boy friend needs to be serious about Islam and needs to respect you .
If he is really interested in you and wants to marry you then he should come through proper doors and ask you to marry him. He should not do things which are forbidden in Islam.
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So what is happening in your life now sister?
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As you have been here
I would like to tell you about Islam
We Muslims worship Allah - the only one GOD who created you and me and all that exists.
The GOD of Adam, Noah , Abraham, Moses, Jesus, Muhammed (peace be upon them) and all.
why did Jesus(peace be upon him) the son of Mary (may Allah be pleased with her) came to this earth?
Jesus came to teach people about ALLAH. He came to teach people to worship none but ALLAH alone without associating any partners with HIM.
Allah says
“And I (Allah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone)”
{Quran 51:56}
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Allah alone deserves to be worshiped.
HE has no father, mother, brother, sister or son.
HE is not like us.
There is no one like HIM.
Allah says,
Say, "He is Allah , [who is] One,
"Allah-us-Samad (The Self-Sufficient Master, Whom all creatures need, He neither eats nor drinks).
He neither begets nor is born,
"And there is none co-equal or comparable unto Him."
(Quran 112: 1-4)
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what is the purpose of this life? just study, earn, marry, children and die or there is more to it?
Do you know that this life is temporary?? and we will die and will be raised up again and there is going to be a day of judgement?
Please Research about Islam. See how it makes sense inshaAllah.
I want you to be saved from the hell fire and enter Heaven so I invite you to Islam.
Here are some links for you where you can learn more about Islam inshaAllah
-> quran(dot)come
- > Invitation2Islaam(dot)wordpress(dot)com
replace above (dot) by . and paste and search in your address bar
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May Allah grant us success! May peace and blessings be upon our Prophet, his family and Companions!
Assalam o alaikum,i'm from Pakistan, I just want you to know that,you should listen to your heart,trust the GOD(Allah) and he will make everything easier for you both,as u believe in One God and praise him.And I Believe that he that he will make this marriage successful.......
Just listen to your heart and always trust God(Allah).