Pregnant and not married
I'm a Muslim 16 year old girl and I am not married.
I fell pregnant and I am now 8 months. I don't know whether to keep this baby or give it up for adoption as the father is only young and his family dont know about this situation because he doesn't want to hurt them in any sort of way.
I dont know what to do and I really need help and good advice.
- muslimunited2010
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Sister muslimunited2010, As-salamu alaykum,
I noticed that you did not mention your own parents. What is their standpoint on this?
At 16 years old you will not be able to raise this child on your own. You will need your parents' support, and in fact they will be raising the child with you or for you.
If your parents are unwilling to help you, see if any of your other relatives (grandparents, aunts) can step in. They can help you or even raise the child for you until you are ready to take over.
If you have no one like this, then you may have to give this child up for adoption. But that should be an absolute last resort, especially if you live in a non-Muslim nation, because the child would probably end up being raised as a non-Muslim.
You need to discuss this situation with your family.
May Allah be with you, guide you, and help you.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Salam,
As the adoptive mother of an absolutely precious little girl, I feel the need to express that there is a large Muslim community that is open to adoption. There are many wonderful Muslim families waiting for the opportunity to adopt a child. If you choose an adoption plan, the child can be raised as Muslim.
MS
MS, thank you for pointing that out. It's good to be aware of that option.
Mrs Shafi,
MaashaAllah. If only more of our people thought like you.
Please email me, my husband and I would love to adopt your child in the US. We will allow you to visit any time you want and of course, your baby will know that you are their true mother. We cannot have a child of our own. I hope to hear from you soon and this will be done discreetly.
Johanna10, please do not post any more offers to adopt people's babies. I told you once before that this is an advice website, not an adoption service.
I have placed your comments on moderated status for now.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
I understand the babys father is young but surely if he is brave enough to do the act he can also tell his parents. He will have to tell them eventually rather it be sooner than later. I hope that he is very supportive especially when your child arrives in this dunya In sha allah. Allah has given you this child and trusts you with this child so believe in yourself and be strong. It is difficult but you can do this and you will need support. Im telling you this because i was in your situation a few years ago. Trust in Allah and pray to him