Shared nude pictures while chatting; now he is blackmailing me. What should I do?
Assalamu aleikom my dear brothers and sisters,
I need your help. I have sinned. I have sent nude pictures of me while chatting with a guy. Astaghfirullah,,, I got carried away and shaytan had found his way to get me . I make istighfar ever since and tawbah and sincere repentance and try my best not to miss any prayer and make qiyam at night . But this guy won't understand and he started to threaten me , he says he will publish my pictures on the internet if I don't do what he wants.
I am so ashamed of myself, yet so scared to continue doing sins over and over again because of him. I made sincere repentance but if I refuse to do what he asks me to do my 'sutra', my reputation will fall from grace. What should I do ? Please help me , I make duaa every second to Allah but i need to hear a response , to see it clearly :/ should I tell my mother about it? Or should I do whatever he asks me to do?
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ASSALAMALIKUM-
YR CASE IS ABOUT BLACKMALING WHICH ONCE STARTED IT WILL GO ON FOR LIFE-AND IT WIL START WITH HIS DEMAND FOR ZINA AND REPESTEDLY HE WILL CALL YOU AND THIS AHVE NO END TO IT
IT IS BETTER TELL YR MOTHER SO THAT SHE CAN TALK PRIVATELY TO HIS PARENTS AND SEE THAT HE TAKEN TO TASK AND CONFRONTED BY HIS PARENTS TO GET BACK THE PICTURES OTHERWISE HE MIGHT DO WHAT EVER HE LIKES WITH YOU EVEN UPTO THE EXTENT OF CALLING YOU SHARE HIS FRIENDS ALSO ANYTIME ANYWHERE ANYPLACE ALL THE TIME INSTEAD OF BECOMING A SEXDOLL IN THESE TYPE OF VAGABONDS GROUP- AND BECOME A BIG SINNER IN THE EYES OF ALLAH-
AND IF HE KNOWS SOME POLITICIANS HE WONT HESITATE TO FIX THEM ALSO FOR HIS GAINS AND BENEFITS-
YOU CANT SAY ONCE HOOKED YOU ARE HOOKED-
MOTHER IS THE BEST OPTION FOR YOU TO SAVE YR SELF-
REGARDS
Asalamo Alaikum dear sister,
After reading your post I can very understand where you are coming from.
I was once in your place few years ago, Not by sending nude pictures Astaghfirullah but only my picture with a head scarf. And the guy threatened me that if I don't do the things he asks me then he will post my picture in public websites and even on a facebook page.
But I did what I had to do and that was by ignoring him and just pray to Allah (swt) and to be very honest I haven't seen or heard anyone saying that they saw my picture in anywhere.
Basically what I am trying to say dear sister that when it comes to Allah (swt) nothing is difficult.
You just pray and repent sincerely then surely Allah (swt) will do justice for you.
As it said that the door for repentance and forgiveness is always open.
If you commit more sins (Allah forbid) by doing what that guy asks you to do then by that you will get severe punishment from Allah (swt). But if you do the right thing by praying then Allah (swt) will surely see that you are truly repenting for your deeds and asking for his forgiveness sincerely.
Dear sister I would strongly advice you to tell your mother everything which I know it will be hard and leave everything in Allah's (swt) hand and absolutely stop all the contact with that guy, just tell him that you are not afraid for whatever he does and let him know that you have told your family about everything, because what that guy is trying to do is to make you scared by thinking all of your family will see your nude pictures. BUT when he knows that you have already told your family then he has nothing left against you.
May Allah be with you.
Jazak'Allah Khair
asalamu alaikum,
what a foolish thing to do , now the damage is done. firstly don't ever listen to him, second tell him if he ever publishes those pics, you gonna report him to the police for threats, harassment. also say the conversation he had with you is recorded, and if you use text, mail, also say I got the log saved for proof. remind him his family will find out, what kind of low life he is.
guys like that, you need to use their own medicine against them.. never buy into his sweet talks..
ma salama..
Love your response Ahmed!
Mera rista aya tha unlogo ko pics d to ghr walo ko WO pasand nhi aya to us lrky NY meri pics ka miss use krny ka bola h kahta shadi na ki to kisi k LAik nhi choru ga lrka Japan me???
please answer?
arfa, please post your comment in English.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
What country are you from? Not sure about anywhere else but, in the US if you are under a certain age those naked pix can be considered underaged pornography and he can get arrested for possession of those pix, labeled a child predator, and potentially ruin his life.
As for you, repent and let this be a lesson!!!!
Sister, whatever you do, don't listen to his conditions and fall prey to him and shaitan. You are praying and asking for repentance which is good Alhamdulilah. Please keep on increasing your iman because I(we) don't want you to stray away from the beautiful path of Islam. He is blackmailing you and although I am not in your situation, you need to take control of it. Record the conversations with him about blackmailing you. As what others said, mention the police when confronting him and involve family if necessary. If you listen to him, there will be far greater consequences. Think if it like a balance scale; you listening to him and committing sinful acts or the police or your family finding out(if necessary). The consequences are far heavier by listening to him. Have faith in Allah and be confident and don't let this manipulator control you. I pray everything works well for you sister 🙂
Assalaamualaikam
It's not clear from your post how old you are and how old the guy in question is - if you are under the age of consent in your country (and even above that in certain countries), it would be a criminal offence for him to have, store or share such pictures. If this is the case, then your course of action should be to tell your parents and report him to the police.
Most people who threaten blackmail are cowards, who rely on people's fear of shame in order to get what they want. But once they are confronted, they tend to run away and not follow through with their threats. Don't compromise your own faith and commitment to Allah, not for someone like that.
We worry so much about what other people will think of us, but the only opinion that truly matters is Allah's. So repent, change your behaviours so you don't repeat the sin, and focus on improving your deen and pleasing Allah.
My advice would be to tell your parents that this has happened (they may well be angry but will inshaAllah be more concerned with protecting your wellbeing) and then ask the police what they advise. You may not be the only girl this guy is trying to manipulate, so by standing up to him, you may be helping protect other sisters from harm. Trust in Allah to conceal your sins, as He wills, and don't continue doing things that you know to be wrong.
May Allah guide you to the right course of action.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
Salam dear Sister!
I'm not here to judge, trust me. Because, we all sin. The only thing that sets us apart to Allah, is what we do after we've committed that sin, and Allhamdulilah, you are definitely on the right track.
My advice to you is quick and simple; ignore this guy's requests to you. He just wants to enslave you to your sin, and feels a kind of power in doing so. All praise and power belongs to Allah tala, and only Him. Do not fear this guy, fear Allah.
Now, first things first, tell this guy it doesn't matter what he does, as you are going to the police about him. Yes, that's right, take this to the police and do not be afraid. Allah encourages us to stand up for our rights, and ask for help.
But, before you do that, I agree you should tell your mother. She won't take it well, but that doesn't matter, you need help, and you'll need to gain her trust back later on.
Sister, stay strong, because you have Allah, the Almighty on your side. Inshallah, you're going to be okay.
May peace be upon you all.
I don't think it is an easy thing for a Muslim girl to tell her parents that she sent her nude pictures to a guy who is blackmailing her. Some girl may get killed for doing that. Police can be helpful if the guy is in the same city, state, country.
You must immediately stop sending him pictures you should lie to him n threaten him that you will tell and black mail him as well, never confess to your family never do this again, and if he does then deny it!
no dear sister. don't you dear listen to this shytan again. just stay away from Him. and if he is a muslim person tell him to fear ALLAH. tell him to hide the passed so ALLAH may hide the sin of his on the judgment day.
as a brother of yours in islam. i'm telling you for your own good sister. look for these kind of stuff on the internet. who have fall in to. i read on the internet. the brother was thinking to divorce his wife when his wife told her pasted. i want to ask you. if your husband find out you fall in to this trap then how will he be feeling. i hope ALLAH save you. and don't ever contract him again. stay away from him.
Get your family or friends involved. Maybe hatch a plan and convince him that you want to meet up. Go with some friends to his house. Grab his phone, computer and any other device he could have saved your pics on and smash them to smithereens. Make sure they whack him a little too. Some guys are just devils in human form. It is making me so upset. I would have personally helped you. But this is an anonymous forum, sadly.
Make Dua to Allah to help you.
I will pray for you too.
Do let all of us know what happens.