Can I marry my ‘second cousin once removed’?
Assalamu-alaikum
I am 27 years old have been in a relationship with a girl for 6 years, who is actually my ''second cousin once removed'' ... She is 3 years younger than me and we have grown up together... when we found that we were falling in love, we tried to control ourselves but we failed to control our emotion and feelings.. The family relation between mine and her family are very good, so that we cannot even talk with our parents about this matter, maybe they will take it negatively.. We are growing up and she is now getting pressure from her family to marry someone.. So at this moment she is now denying the proposal, but it will be more difficult for her to do this.. No one knows about our relation that we love each others and we are afraid to discuss about this matter with our family, because we don't know that it would be halal or haram in our religion and how our family will react when they will know about this matter.. I feel that i am now enough capable to take the responsibility of her and she is a very lovable person in my family.. The only thing is to know that, is it allowed in our religion and if yes, how positive it is in this case... If there is a hope and we are accepted in Islam to marry, how can we discuss with our family, what should we do??..
waiting for your valuable reply. Thank you..
Best regards,
Shawon_bdb
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I really do not understand what the problem is? She is permissible to you for marriage as per the relation you tell us. As for your respective parents, they know that both of you can be bound in marriage as you are cousins and not siblings even if you have grown up together. In fact, they might even have some idea of your attachment and understanding. So approach your parents and make this relation halal instead of continuing a secret understanding. All the best.