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My husband do not work

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Asalam alakum,

I was married in 2006 and My husband do not work since last 10 years. while I m doing job since last 10 years in a multinational company and earn handsome amount to take care my kids and husband financially. we got no problem financially but people keep asking me why your husband do not work, that is why I feel so insult.

We have two kids, one son and one daughter.

My son is diabetic patient and my husband have to take care our son when I was on job. I return home on 5 pm and then my husband is free for work and can go for work.

but he is not feeling his responsibility that he should also do something as this society do not accept a man who do not work.

What islam said in this regards?

Offcourse islam also advise for patience between husband and wife but I want to know either islam permit a muslim man to stay home and do not work at all?


please guide me!


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  1. Walaikumassalaam,

    We ask Allaah to help you and give you strength, and to guide your husband aright.

    Undoubtedly by taking care of your children and being keen to guide your husband, you are doing good and will be rewarded in sha Allaah, for Allaah does not cause the reward of those who do good to be lost.

    Our advice to you is to keep on being patient and making du’aa’ for your husband, and striving to guide him, through his parents, his brothers and those who have any influence on him. If a man neglects his duty towards his family he exposes himself to the wrath and anger of Allaah, because he is neglecting that which Allaah has entrusted to his care. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Each of you is a shepherd and each of you is responsible for his flock. The ruler is the shepherd of his people and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his family and is responsible for his flock….” This hadeeth was narrated by al-Bukhaari, 893; Muslim, 1826, from Ibn ‘Umar. And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said of his household: “Allaah will ask every shepherd about that which was entrusted to his care, whether he took care of it or neglected it, and He will even ask a man about his family.” Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Ghaayat al-Maraam, no. 271

    And he said: “It is sufficient sin for a man to neglect those who are under his care.” Narrated by Ahmad and Abu Dawood from the hadeeth of ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Amr; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, no. 827.

    And he said: “There is no man whom Allaah causes to be appointed to a position of responsibility and he does not discharge his duties sincerely, but he will not even smell the fragrance of Paradise.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6731.

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