Pre-marital sex! Am I allowed to marry her?
Assalam O Alaikum,
I am Muslim and had sex with my girlfriend. She was a virgin. I really regret doing that and I am still asking for forgiveness from Allah (swt). We are getting married next year and I wish to know if, I am islamically allowed to marry her? Please tell me; what are the complications?
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Mbobo, Walaykumsalaam,
Zina is a very grave sin, one for which punishment has been mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah. However, Alhumdulillah you regret what you did. Allah promises to forgive the one who sincerely repents, so turn to Allah in remorse and humility. Vow never to return to this sin again and do your best to improve yourself as a Muslim. If the sister concerned has not already done so, encourage her to also turn to Allah and to sincerely repent as well. And you both should refrain from telling your sin to anyone, as Allah instructs us to conceal our sins.
There is nothing wrong in both of your making your relationship halaal through marriage.
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Dating is clearly haraam, so 'No', it is not ok to go to the movies together and have romantic dinners where you exchange soft words and puppy eyed glances, it is not ok to go shopping hand in hand and spend unnecessary time together. If you want to put things right, make sure that until you get married, you do not see each other alone and that you strictly observe the limits and rules set for us in the Quran and Sunnah. If you have not already done so, involve your families immediately and set a date for your nikah as soon as possible.
SisterZ
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Assalamu alaykum Brother,
Sister Z said all right things about being repentant and maintaing the limits of Allah.
We have heard of lot of cases where fun before marriage has led to marriage and then ruined married lives.
Why? Because there was hardly any repentance to Allah. People thought, o we did and we married, but they forgot what their hands had sent before.
79. Whatever of good befalleth thee ( O man ) it is from Allah, and whatever of ill befalleth thee it is from thyself. - Surah Nisaa.
So brother, Insha Allah, your marriage will be a successful one. but you have to repent truly and so does the girl.
Until and unless repentance is not from the heart as a true repentance, it can only be called an a formality after the sin.
So read the Qur'an a lot. Take steps for building a strong moral character. Pray regularly, stop all unnecessary contact with the girl.
Brother, after marriage she would be yours, Insha Allah, they why get desparate? Shaytaan incites a thought in your mind, then you obey him and not obey Allah, and then when you obey Shaytaan he runs far away from you once you have committed the sin of going against Allah.
He is your enemy. Treat him like an enemy. Fight with him and do not allow him to make you forget Allah. Remember Allah much. Insha Allah you will attain success.
Pray regularly on fixed prayer times, Insha Allah, and do zikr of Allah, spend time with family and good people and seek constant refuge of Allah from Satan and his army.
27. O Children of Adam! Let not Satan seduce you as he caused your (first) parents to go forth from the Garden and tore off from them their robe (of innocence) that be might manifest their shame to them. Lo! he seeth you, he and his tribe, from whence ye see him not. Lo! We have made the devils protecting friends for those who believe not.
I hope the advice helps. Repentance is the key to your successful marriage, Insha Allah.
One more advice: Read the Qur'an with translations a lot, after marriage love your wife a lot and make it a habit to read Qur'an daily with each other, she may read for you and you for her and build up marriage on foundations of Islam and not on imitations of the way of the disbelievers.
I hope I answered the question to your satisfaction.
Salaam.
Munib.
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Therefor give good tidings (O Muhammad) to my bondmen, who hear advice and follow the best thereof. Such are those whom Allah guideth, and such are men of understanding.- Surah 39, Az Zumar, verse 17-18.
Jazaakal laahu khayr. May Allah increase you in knowledge and wisdom to be answering such important questions to muslim brothers and sisters.
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I have a question that my friend having relation with a women and after that he is merrying the women daughter and he says it's legal so I still having doubt that it is illegal so please send me complete information to stop if it is sin . Thanks waiting for reply
Danial, Walaykumsalaam,
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SisterZ
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May Allah reward you for these efforts to guide us to the straight path. Jazakumul Lahu khaeran.
Asalmu alaykum.
I am a muslim and i am currently in a relationship. I have been in a relationship for 10 months and have committed zinnah.
I have had sex with my partner 2 weeks ago and i would like to know how i can repent this mistake i have made.
I would also like to know because i have committed zinnah with my partner will i be able to marry him? Will my marriage be acceptable and hala?
Shahara, wa alaykum as-salam. Being in a premarital relationship is eventually going to lead to sin. It's inevitable. If you want forgiveness for your sin then you must make sincere tawbah to Allah; part of that would be to end your relationship completely, as it is improper in Islam. Yes, you can still marry him. If he is sincere then let him come to your family and propose marriage. Outside of this you should have no further contact with him.
Wael
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hafsa, I removed your comment. Why would you publish a comment like that under your real name? SubhanAllah. In any case, please log in and write your question as a separate post, and we will answer you in turn, Insha'Allah.
Wael
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