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I am corrupt and lost

Sexual abuseWhen i was a child , i had sex with my cousin many times.

Then it all grew stronger and now i had sex with my sister too for about a lot of uncountable times.

Moreover i don't pray and now i just teared down the quran and touched it with my feet intentionally.

I have no respect in the society.

:lease can anyone help me because i am in depression and cannot make my self out of there. please, help required.

- Maaz

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  1. Please makr taubah as much as you can. Listen to different bayans. Listen to Maulana tariq Jamil so that you get back on track. You cant find peace with out Allah. Listen to him om different scenarios. Your heart will become soft.

  2. Sex this that have read across many issues out here by different brothers and sisters

    But.. but but...


    {and now i just teared down the quran and touched it with my feet intentionally.}

    This is just so unacceptable even for the eyes to read in the Holy month of Ramadan. Gentleman, if you need respect in society well first you need to be respectful towards the society. Even an Atheist wont do anything of such with anyones holy scriptures or Holy Book.

    Whats the co-relation between you having sex with your cousin and doing that worst part with the Holy Quran? I havent been able to get it.

    Good Luck.

  3. Asalamualaykum.

    When you know that you are doing wrong and you still do it, you can't ever be happy. This is the reality. How kid were you exactly when you had sex with your sister and cousin? Surely you knew that it was wrong, didn't you? and now you blame Allah for putting you into depression and showed the aggression by tearing the quran and touching it with your feet? Nauthubillah!

    You committed these sins yourself. You can't blame Allah Subhanahuwata'aalah for committing sins that you did with your own desire, can you? You are yourself to blame. Allah is free from impurity.

    If you really want help, then instead of doing evil, do good. Do you expect Allaah (Subhanahuwata'alah) to help you if you show this evil attitude towards him? The creator of the entire universe? the most powerful? Thul Jalaali Wal Iqraam! (The possessor of Glory and Honour, Lord of Majesty and Generosity)!

    Turn to Allah in repentance and never go back to these sins again. Take your eyes off of haram. Completely. Instead of tearing down the Qur'an (nauthubillah), read it. Listen to what Allah subhanahuwata'aalah says. Follow the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad (Salalahu alayhi Wasalam). Distract yourself with good. Worship Allah read salah, Fast in the month of Ramathan. Do all that is good hoping that Allah subhanahuwata'aalah Will accept your deeds!

    Brother do you know the virtue of the last ten days of Ramthan? You decided to disrespect Allah subhanahuwata'alah in the first of the last ten days of ramadan which contains Laylatul Qadr, SubhanAllah! Why? Ask yourself that. Ask yourself, why? Why are you doing this? Stop now. If you stop doing these acts now Allah can forgive you Walahi Allah can forgive you if you turn to him with great repentance and never going back to the haram. Leave all that you did that was wrong and change yourself! You will see good in yourself when you turn to Allah Subhananhuwata'alah! This is the power of Allah (The most powerful the great). You will feel better about yourself, you will be free from evil when you turn away from evil!

    May Allah Show you the straight path, Ameen.

    • Brother, Please listen to this recitation of Surah Al Baqarah

      • Laylatul Qadr is in the last 10 days of ramadan, in the odd-numbered nights of these ten. We don't know for sure which specific night of these ten contain Laylatul Qadr. Therefore we must worship Allah more in these ten days of Ramadan, seeking this blessed night like The prophet Muahmmad (Salalahu alayhi Wasalm) and his Companions (May Allah be pleased with them).

        (أعوذُ بِٱللَّهِ مِنَ ٱلشَّيۡطَٰنِ ٱلرَّجِيم .بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم نير رحيم)

        "Verily, We have sent it (this Qur'ân) down in the night of Al-Qadr (Decree).

        And what will make you know what the night of Al-Qadr is?

        The night of Al-Qadr is better than a thousand months."

        Therein descend the angels and the Rûh [Jibrîl (Gabriel) by Allâh's Permission with all Decrees.

        Peace! (All that night, there is Peace and Goodness from Allah to His believing slaves) until the appearance of dawn." (surah Al Qadr)

        Aa'isha (RathiAllahu Anhu) reported: With the start of the last ten days of Ramadan, the Prophet (ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam) used to tighten his waist belt (i.e. work harder) and used to pray the whole night, and used to keep his family awake for the prayers. [Bukhari]

        Aa’isha,(RathiAllhu Anhu), narrated that (she said), "O Messenger of Allah! What if I knew which night Laylat-ul-Qadr was, then what should I say in it?" He said: "Say: Allahumma innaka ‘affuwwun tuhibbul ‘afwa fa’fu ‘anni." (O Allah, You are the ever pardoning and You love to pardon, so pardon me.)" [Ahmad and At-Tirmithi. Al-Albaani: Saheeh]

        Abu Hurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "Whoever establishes Optional Night Salah on the night of Qadr (Night of power) in sincere faith and hoping for Allah's Reward, Allah shall erase his previous sins." (Reported by Al Bukhari Hadith No. (35).

        The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever spends the night of Laylat al-Qadr in prayer out of faith and seeking reward, all his previous sins will be forgiven.” According to another report: “Whoever spends that night in prayer, seeking Laylat al-Qadr, then he catches it, his previous and future sins will be forgiven.”

        Here is another reminder:

  4. astaghfirullah al azeem - Go pray for repentance. And stay away from your sister and cousin!

    You need ruqya because the way you act is kufur and is like shaitan would do. You have no iman within you thats why you do such evil things. If you were my son and did that to my daughter - you would be lucky to be alive so don't mention to your parents or anything.

  5. You sound like a very tormented and disturbed soul...and you need serious professional help imeediately. It's absolutely not normal or right to have sex with your own sister, and you need to stop doing that RIGHT NOW. Is she actually agreeing to sleeping with you, or are you in fact forcing yourself upon her / raping her? The latter just make matters even worse...

    You need to stay away from women, especially the ones in your family, until you sort out your predatory behaviour. You need to speak to your doctor and let him / her refer you to a mental health professional like a psychiatrist. I'm serious, you need to get to the bottom of why you are displaying this kind of destructive behaviour.

    Also, what's even the point of stepping on pages from the Quran? Like, what goes through your head when you decide to do it? What do you get out of it? It just seems like an extremely odd habit to me...a pointless one, too. Don't keep a Quran if you know you can't stop yourself from behaving in this odd manner around it...

  6. This is absolutely bizarre. I can't simply comprehend what I just read. Ahh but anyway, this is the reality and I don't even feel like this is odd since I've heard stories like this but each time I read/hear them, I'm just in this tornado of utter shock and disbelief.

    First of all, like Brother Ahmed mentioned, you need to get yourself checked for possession. Stepping on the Quran, Astaghfirullah, I'm a Hafiza myself and this just makes my blood boil. Keep all religious books away from you like please even the non-Quranic Islamic books. I've heard when people are possessed, the spirits cause you to throw away the Quran and do nasty stuff with it. Of course, the Shaytaan is the enemy of Allah's words. Secondly, no wait actually firstly, book an appointment with the psychologist because y'might be suffering from some mental disorder to do crap like this.

    Get the hell outta your sisters space please. Brothers are meant to protect their sisters chastity and to help them against other evil men. But look at you contradicting the role of a Muslim brother. Don't even come at me, this is insane! Allow me to freak out please. WHAT IS HER AGE? WELL WHAT IS YOUR AGE? DOES SHE ALLOW YOU TO DO ALL OF THAT? DO YOUR PARENTS EVEN KNOW? Gosh I sound like SVS but seriously I need answers.

    Look here Maaz, keep 3 things away from you-your sister, your cousin and the Quran. Like I need you to perform wudu right now, lock yourself up in your room, lay a prayer mat and pray 2 rakahs of sincere repentance and cry your heart out to Allah. You've earned His disappointment for sure, but He's like really really merciful. I'm sure if you're super sincere, you'll get back on the right track as many others did, But if you're adamant on your current habits and with the "Oh Allah won't forgive me so let me screw my life over" attitude, then needless to say, you're equivalent to the street dogs walking around the slums of some dirty village. You ain't going nowhere then.

    So I hope you make a wise decision since it's not too late now and reform your ways. I wish you all the best. And I still can't get over the shock. May Allah bless us all.

    Take care

  7. I m wondering why these types of dogs are born in this world?
    Whom to blame ?
    Parents for not raising them properly and monitoring ?
    Or these dogs will born any how however good parents are?
    I think as per Islamic punishments he will get death punishment for both above grave and disgusting sins .

  8. SubhanAllah this was so shocking, it sounds fake subhanAllah. if this is indeed happening you really need to get help as soon as possible, the first one you need to turn to before reaching out for professional help is Allah. He is the controller of everything and the one you should be turning to first and foremost. Please put away all Quran in your house for now, donate it to the masjid and when you are feeling better you can always buy a new one and even down a Quran app to reach. May Allah help us to respect and love His book. May Allah help you.

  9. Please read below hadith

    The Messenger of Allah said: “Command your children to pray when they become seven years old, and beat them for it (prayer) when they become ten years old; and arrange their beds (to sleep) separately”. (Sunan Abu Dawud)

    I don't know why your parents have not guided/mentored you for good manners .

  10. The best you can do is make tauba and move away from this place where you are now. It cant be a good place if you make so many sins there. Move somewhere you can afford to live and live a life full of taqwah and not like this.
    This is my opinion what you should do.
    Move somewhere where you can start to obey Allah and be rightous and surround yourself with rightous people.
    May Allah guide you to the straight path

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