Marriage proposal and ishteqara result
Assalamualaikum. I am unmarried and my parents are searching groom for me. I got a proposal two months back. That boy is very religious, pious,very polite and good character and also well settled. His father died at young age. After his father's death,her mother did love marriage to a intercaste men, who Alhamdulillah have accepted Islam after marriage. I am interested in this boy and wanna marry him. But my parents are against it due to fear of society. But they liked the boy and not his mother. Me and my mother performed ishtaqara for more then ten days. She is still against and I am still interested in that person and fallen in love with him as I personally know that person. What to do? Please advise.
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Wa alaikum salaam sister,
To be honest, best option and scenario for you would be to try and kindly suggest and persuade your parents, if they wont, or you know they will not be accepting and will not give their permission, then the next option would be to step away from this guy and trust in Allah, you need your parents permission to marry islamically.
Do not force a marriage, otherwise sister, the marriage itself will be riddled with many problems.
If he is meant to marry you, he WILL marry you, either now or later, remember our marriages in Islam are not just for the dunya, but mainly for the akhirah, so if he is destined for you, guaranteed you will marry.
You will be distressed, it will hurt, give it time and patience, and know that Allah will make things easier, bring forth towards you a righteous spouse, or take you on a journey back towards the one you want to marry.
As of right now, cut of ALL CONTACT, no messaging, no checking up etc. you need to heal and know this person is a non mahram to you. Approach your parents, if its still a no then accept it and know that Allah is the best of planners.