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I converted to marry her but she is engaged with someone else. Please help me

Posted by • November 10, 2011 • Printer-friendly
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Hi,

My name is Muzammil. My girlfriend name is Samina, I recently converted to Islam. I want to become perfect in Islam Insha Allah. My friend Samina got engaged with this other brother and they will get married after 1 year. I want to marry her but how can I convince her parents. The girl also likes me but she can't do any thing. I only should convince their parents and their relatives otherwise she won't marry him.

What I have to do? Really I changed a lot after converting to Islam. I offer prayer regularly, little by little, I'll become perfect in Islam insha Allah. I can't forget her.

Please help and suggest me something.

Thanks,

Muzammil Sameena.


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  1. SisterZ
    November 10, 2011 • 6:40 pm

    Dear Brother Muzammil, Asalaamualaykum,

    Welcome to Islam, may Allah make this journey easy and fruitful for you inshaAllah.

    Regarding the woman you are in love with, I feel your pain and I pray Allah replaces it with sweetness of eman! If you have any reason to believe that she is in the current engagement by force and wishes really to marry you, then I recommed that you be clear with your proposal. Approach her through another sister and make your wishes known to her and ask for her to make her intentions and wishes clear too. Ultimately, you can only really pursue this woman if her feelings are mutual and if she has the strength to fight for you, right? She has to meet you half way.

    Brother, this could be a painful episode for you, so I hope you will be inshaAllah balanced in your approach, prepare yourself that this could go either way. Whatever happens, remember that this is a test from Allah. You are a newcomer to Islam, so becareful not to let this shake your faith. Remember you said: 'I want to become perfect in Islam InshaAllah.' This woman is one part of your life, and whether she remains part of it or not, Allah will always be part of your life.

    SisterZ
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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  2. Professor X
    December 17, 2011 • 1:23 am

    Asalaam alaikum,

    First, it is important to verify whether she really wants to get married to anyone. She, ultimately, has the right to accept or reject any proposal by Islamic law. Even if she is engaged, she can break it off. Until she does any of this, you are in limbo.

    If it is a forced marriage, she may be in danger, so consulting with Islamic clerics who appreciate the rights of a woman is fundamental.

    Reverts face many difficulties in life, especially when love is involved. Whatever happens, please understand it is one test in a series of trials. Grow close to Allah (swt) and maintain closeness with him.

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