Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Is it true that we cannot marry until 3 months of no intimacy has passed?

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I have been dating a Muslim man for a little over a year now. I just converted to Islam and we want to marry one another. We have been intimate with each other.

Is it true that we can not be married unless we have had at least 3 months of no intimacy?

- wascott18

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  1. wascott18, I have never heard of this before.

    See this article on titled, "Is it prohibited to marry someone guilty of adultery/fornication?" It discusses in detail the question of marrying someone who committed zinaa, and you'll see that there is no mention made of any 3-month prohibition, or any other required time delay.

    Wael Editor

    • If you people followed this rule.. there would be NO MARRIAGES... trust me... She will be fine.. ask Allah to forgive you and get married.. and live a respectful life...

  2. Brother Wael, have you studied Fiqh? are u a scholar? just because you have not heard of it doesnot mean there isnt anything about it. Wascott18, I was told by a scholar who was a member of the sharia council, that if you are in a relationship with a woman, and you do the Nikah, it will be Invalid, you need to wait ONE Mensus cycle( 1 month) before your Nikah will be valid. I dont know if this means no seeing each other at all or just no Intimacy, so you do need to ask someone qualified in that area. Allah Knows best



    • Zaki, I have studied fiqh informally, but no I am not a scholar. I should have simply said, "I have not heard of such a rule, but that does not mean it does not exist."

      I would be interested to know what is the evidence and the reasoning that a couple who have been in a relationship must wait one mensus cycle before marrying.

      Wael Editor

      • Assalamualiakum.

        Bismillahi Rahmani Rahim,

        Brother Wael,
        this has come as a surprise to me that you havent formally studied Fiqh and are not a scholar .. I hope you understand the path you are treading. Although your most replies are rather good, but to have not studied Fiqh under a proper teacher may lead to you giving improper advices which (I hope it never happens) may misguide people and result in abundant gunah for you. I would suggest that with your advice you also ask people to meet some Aalim or Mufti or Allamah in person and consult.

        Allah knows best, we only pray that he blesses us with his ilm-e-deen.

        • Wa alaykum as-salam. We do not give fatwas. Have you ever advised a friend who had a problem? That's what we do here. We provide advice, the way one would to a friend. If someone says, "My fiance curses at me, pressures me for sex, and uses drugs. Should I marry him?" Do you think that requires detailed knowledge of fiqh to answer such a question? And yes, we do get questions exactly like that. As you can see, it only requires common sense.

          If a question is dealing with some topic of fiqh, we research on the internet to see if we can find the answer and if so, we provide the answer as written by the scholar and attributed to him. I did in fact have a background in fiqh before I started doing this, and I have been doing it for 11 years or more, so by now I am very familiar with the fiqh on the basic issues of marriage.

          If you see a question you feel has been improperly answered, feel free to point it out. That would be more useful than vague warnings and suggestions of dire outcomes. Clearly you must be a scholar yourself since you have put yourself in the position of judging the quality of our answers ("your most replies are rather good").


  3. Inshallah, I will bring you the evidence when I see my sheikh in my next class.


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