My family rejected her but I think of her every moment
Assalam-O-Alaikum,
Dear, my name is Muhammad **** Khan, I came across your website today and I am glad to see that you are guiding a lot of our generation in differents matters of life. I am in some very hard situation and I don´t know what to do?
I want to marry a girl named C*** B***, we both worked at some place which I don´t want to disclose. I sent my sis and my mother to her family for this purpose but due to some reasons my family didn´t accept her. My family is status conscious but I am not.
I requested them to leave it to "Istikhara". My mother told me that the outcome of the istikhara is not good for both of us. My sis also consulted a "Maulana" but he said the same. But I am not satisfied, I feel my family is just doing all this to get rid of her.
Each moment, I think of her and the same with her. I failed to fulfill my promise with her. It´s hurting me badly.
I request you to please guide me and help me. Her family is going to fix her marriage soon. I request you to help me out in this regard.
Desperately waiting for your reply.
- irfan khan
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Salam Brother
I understand your going through tough time, I don't really understand why your parent is refusing to have her, is it because you dont know or you haven't explained it? If you don't know why your parents are not accepting her then i suggest you should ask them why... If your not satisfied or believe your mother about her istikhara, then maybe you should do istikhara yourself to find out if your correct for each other or not. Explain to your parents that you love her and you care about her and you really want to marry her, but if they decline i suggest you must forget about her which is going to be difficult. Start Praying if you don't and dua to Allah your problems he will help you and he knows whats best for you.
Hopefully things work out peace be on you by almighty Allah
As salamu alaykum Muhammad,
A person is honoured by his word, as Islamic Boy said be clear with your family about everything. You are a grown up man and you gave your word, you want to feel the respect of your family for you and your word.
Let them know your worries in the most gentle, respectful and loving way you are able to, keep your voice soft and quiet, and don´t allowed them to treat you as a child, they should give you the reasons for rejecting this girl, this way you can know for sure what is going on, and have your respect for yourself back.
Please tell them to be clear to you, this way you will be able to move on.
All my Unconditional Respect,
María
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