Is a love marriage allowed in Islam?
AoA brothers and sisters I've got this personal problem that I wanted help on. I study in a private school, one of the best in the country, in Islamabad. We have co-education and I've been brought up in this environment. I have a very religious family who do not believe in love marriages or anything. Now a few months ago I felt so attracted to a girl and I started liking her a lot and I used to think about her all the time.
She's not in the same school as me. We started seeing each other and I prayed to Allah with all my sincerity that I could make her mine. Right now I'm around 20 and I will insha Allah get married around 26-28 as per family tradition. Now we hardly meet once every 2 months. The problem is that recently I heard a hadith stating that a man should not hold a 'na-mehram' woman's hand etc. We haven't been physical apart from holding hands. Is this hadith validated? Secondly what is the proper procedure in Islam for me? I can't stop talking to her through text as I fear we may lose contact.
She is a very religious girl but her family is not too keen on religion. So how should I proceed? Once again if there's any way possible for me to stay in contact with her throughout the time that we are still na-mehram? And then I know it's a bit early to ask but how do I tell my family about her? This is a general question and I want your personal opinions. My father is a bit open to me regarding such stuff but my mother is very strict and in our family the concept of love marriage is frankly speaking very much hated.
So how and when should I tell my family about her. I would've told my family right now but I fear that I do not have knowledge of the future and only Allah knows whether I am actually destined with her so I do not want to look dumb and tell my family now and if Allah forbid things don't go right and what I plan isn't Allah's plan then it will be quite embarrassing for me. Kindly help me out.
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