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Raising Children in an Inter-Faith Marriage

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May the peace and blessings of Allah be with you.

I come on here to find out some advice and would be grateful if you can help. I am in a relationship with a Christian girl, and we are planning to marry. I know that as she is a person of the book I am allowed to marry her and she does not have to convert. She has stated that she does not wish to convert and I have and will not force her to convert as it is mentioned in the Quran that you must not force anyone to convert.
My question is around the upbringing of our children, I want them raised as Muslims and will do everything possible within my means to ensure they learn about Islam and are raised according to the Islamic faith and practice, however she wants them to be raised with both religions in mind, she wants them to be able to go to the church and be christened. Where do I stand Islamically with this?
Considering that the rights of a wife in Islam are the same regardless of whether she was a muslim or non muslim, is it true that I cannot prevent her from exposing our children to her beliefs as long as she does not force them to adopt them?
I have been told that once our children reach adulthood, I am not accountable if they do not follow Islam, as long as I have done everything to teach them about Islam, as the Quran says “ There shall be no compulsion in religion; the truth stands out clearly from falsehood.”

May Allah guide as all.


Brother S

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  1. Brother, Firstly while marrying you must consider a muslim women or atleast a women who is willing to accept islam fully. Because as per hadith" The best of you is the one who prefer pious wife- I am sorry if I have not mentioned hadith words"

    Secondly you are and will be responsible for the acts of your children. When you die you will leave your children behind you..whatever you have taught them and raised them upon , if they pray you will get blessing and if they do something wrong or not follow islam you ll be responsible..Those verses you mentioned are for non muslim...dont force them ..but for muslim....this has been said in follow and come to islam fully ( unconditionally)...

    You are right she follows of christanity but today chirstian are even not on their actual religion..Bible has been changed..they have changed commandments..Also once the Quran and Islam came..All previous religions of Allah were the only true religion is may consult some scholar on that as well.

    Brother my sincere advice to you ..look for a muslim women..and not only muslim...a muslim who is practicing islam, knows quran, hadith and tomorrow can raise your children as good muslim..those children inshallah will become a source of blessing for you in this duniya ( world) and akhira also inshallah .Ameen...

    This is a short lived life ( 50 or 60 years) .. Make islam a priority of your decisions and Allah will bless you.

  2. These days, a Muslim man should keep this Hadith in mind while making a decision to marry a woman:

    Narrated Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) The Prophet said, "A woman is married for four (things), i.e. her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should take possession of (marry) the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."

    [Sahih al-Bukhari translated by Muhammad Muhsin Khan, (DARUSSALAM Publishers and Distributors Riyadh - Saudi Arabia, 1997), vol. 7, page. 32, Hadith No. 5090]

  3. As-salamu Alaykum,
    Some interfaith marriages work out for the people involved; however, this usually only happens when the woman is willing to raise her children as Muslims even if she herself does not wish to convert. The red flag I see in your relationship is that the woman you are speaking of doesn't wish to make this concession regarding the children. She is free regarding herself, but you do have the responsibility to raise your children upon the truth of Islam. This job is difficult enough when both parents are Muslims, harder when only one parent is a Muslim, and nearly impossible when one parent is actually sabotaging the efforts of the other.

    Think about this carefully, because your children are your most important investment in life, and you cannot assume that they will choose Islam when they are old enough to make their own choices. It will be painful for you to witness your children being raised as Christians, and you will not really be able to do anything about it.

  4. She will spend most of the time with the kids while you are out of the house.

    Pick a wife who will share your same values and make it easy for yourself.

  5. Bro dnt risk it children .make an agreement they will be as Muslims...
    Look if ur in the west she leaves u ...u will risk her getting custody..

    U try doing dawah to her. Inshallah to show her beauty of islam

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