How do I make my Hindu girlfriend accept Islam to save her from Hell
As salam alaikum brothers and sisters..
I am 18 year Muslim man who never thought that I will face such situation. Actually, I love a non-Muslim (Hindu) girl for a long time, its not crush really!! We are in relationship from several months and her reciprocation is as high as mine. She loves me too, she planned to marry me and I also am not able to think my life without her. The problem is -I am more concerned about her hereafter than world. I think what would happen if she dies without accepting Islam. I discussed a little about Islam with her (the talk started just that how we can marry!) but when I saw that talk went to fight I halted. I halted because I do not want to end relationship, being her ignorant about Islam!
I think about her, make dua for her hiddaya (guidance). I know that it's only Allah who can guide someone and HE (swt) is the only source. I am very concerned about her, marriage is not my priority even if she denies marrying me after accepting Islam, I will accept it. I want to see her as Muslim. I never forced/blackmailed her by saying; "we can marry only if she converts (reverts)". I know that such conversion may or may not be true/pure/acceptable. I say accept Islam on your will and from heart only after reading about it and when it makes sense to you.
1- Just tell me if it's right of me to be concerned about her akhirah (hereafter)?
2- How can I do dawah (preach) to her?
3- We meet in school and it's last year of us together (just a few months to go). Is it wrong of to be strongly concerned about only one non-Muslim? (I pray for others but for her, I even beg and cry).
By the way, I am from India and I am regarded as a good student but now I only think about her:(.
Allah knows best.
Seekinghelp.
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Assalamualaikum,
Brother, you intend to save the girl from the Hell fire, which is the Punishment of Allah. Are you sure that you will enter the Jannah?
May Allah forbid, what if He is Angry with you?
The girl holds no position in your life at all.
Your feeling for her is Shaitaan's trap. He wants to lead you astray, in disguise of Da'wah. This trap of Shaitaan has been very successful in many cases. Would you allow it to be so in your case?
First save yourself from the Punishment of Allah, then think about anyone else.
Allah says:
O ye who believe! save
yourselves and your families
from a Fire whose fuel is Men
and Stones, over which are
(appointed) angels stern
(and) severe, who flinch not (from executing) the
Commands they receive from
Allah, but do (precisely) what
they are commanded. [ surah
at-Tahrim : verse 6 ]
Ibn Kathir said: “Ali bin Abi
Talhah reported from Ibn
Abbas (ra); “Ward off from
yourselves and your families
against a Fire (Hell)” He said,
"Work in the obedience of Allah, avoid disobedience of
Allah and order your families
to remember Allah, then Allah will save you from the Fire.
It was reported that Ibn
Abbas (ra) said: “Ward off
from yourselves” and your
folks “and your families” and
wives and children (a Fire) He says: teach them good manners and make them
learn goodness, and by doing
so you will save them from
the Fire (whereof the fuel is
men and stones) of sulphur
which is the hottest of stones.” (Tanwir al-Miqbas
min Tafsir Ibn Abbas)
Narrated Abu Huraira(r.a):
Allah's Messenger said, "Your (ordinary) fire is one of
70 parts of the (Hell) Fire."
Someone asked, "O Allah's
Apostle This (ordinary) fire
would have been sufficient
(to torture the unbelievers)," Allah's Apostle said, "The
(Hell) Fire has 69 parts more
than the ordinary (worldly)
fire, each part is as hot as this (worldly) fire." [Bukhari ::
Book 4 :: Volume 54 :: Hadith 487]
Narrated Abu Huraira(r.a):
I heard Allah's Messenger saying, "My example and the
example of the people is that
of a man who made a fire,
and when it lighted what was around it, Moths and other insects started falling into the fire. The man tried (his best) to prevent them, (from falling in the fire) but they overpowered him and rushed into the fire. The Prophet added: Now, similarly, I take hold of the knots at your waist (belts) to prevent you from falling into the Fire, but you insist on falling into it." [Bukhari :: Book 8 :: Volume 76 :: Hadith 490]
By the way, if you think there is scope for her to accept Islam, then refer her to an Islamic Center. There are many in India. Other than this, you have nothing to do with her.
You are concerned about just one non Muslim, because you are attracted to her and the Shaitaan has been putting more fuel into your relationship to keep the fire burning. You need to put some water on this fire and make the Shaitaan fail in his attempt to make you closer to the Hell fire and away from Allah Subhaanah.
May Allah Help you.
Aameen
Wassalamualaikum
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
as Asslamualaikum brother.thanks..
brother your second line "Brother,you intend.........at all" is really worrying me.And i have none of the intentions to save her from hell fire if she dies without Imaan!!
Can not I become just a Zariyah(source) for her to lead her to truth?Everything is on on Allah(swt) indeed.
thanks for your concern Waseem Bhaijaan
asalamu alaikum,
i can understand your concern for this girl, but you should worry about yourself more, you said you are in a relationship which is totally haram. so you should be worried about your own akhira. so repent before allah holds you accountable for your action.
your second question, how to give her dawah? more like how to get close to her. its best not to talk with her, cut your ties. if she is interested in islam, there are loads of ways in finding out about islam.
third question, yes its wrong to be over concerned for her, you should be concerned about yourself. you said pray for others, if you meant as other muslims then its okay.
so get your priority straight.
ma salama
thanks brother...ok i will not live in relationship(hard try)But brother i do not want to give her dawah just "to get close to her" or "to marry" as mentioned!! just tell me can't i take it as work of dawah which we all muslims are given from Allah(swt).
And is Praying for her is really not ok?
because as far as i know ..our Prophet Mohammad(pbuh) prayed for abu-talib(not reverted) and another man (reverted).
means for praying part,is it ok?
First of all there is no relation like boyfriend or girlfriend only marriage and it is not permissible for a Muslim to marry a Hindu girl unless she accepts Islam.
Allah Most High says:
Do not marry unbelieving women until they believe. A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allure you (al-Baqarah, 221).
The above verse of the Quran is clear in that it is unlawful for a Muslim man to marry a non-Muslim (other than a true Christian or Jew) woman(still you CANT force her to change). The Quran says that even if the girl attracts and appeals to you, marriage can never be considered. There is absolute scholarly consensus about this matter.
However, if the girl converts truly to Islam, then it will be permissible for them to marry.
Therefore, marriage (nikah) will only be valid if it was contracted after her conversion Islam.
Till then you should cut all the relation with her and think about your what will happen hear-after . Brother you are only 17 concentrate on your study and protect your iman. When your right time will come Allah will give you right partner inshallah.
And always Allah know best
Nadia
as salam alaikum..thanks to all the support and answers!!
ok i can cut ties with her(no relationship)..but is it wrong again that i am concerned about her hereafter (akhirah)? after being not in relationship?
thanx
sister we do not take this relation as girlfriend/boyfriend..(admin used this in question,yet i thank them to make many editions)
Brother, You wrote in your post
"I love a non-Muslim (Hindu) girl for a long time, its not crush really!! We are in relationship from several month"
Is not that mean b/g? Or you want to say "editors" change it in other way? I am confused :/
sister ..thats my written words,which u quoted.
i want to assert that we dont take it as bf/gf relation!
Sorry brother I am still confused if you do not take it as bf or gf though you are not married then what is the name of those sort of relation?
you all said to break this relation worldly..but shoul not i cocern about her after breaking?
and tell me how to tell her that we can not continue or dream about our marriage! whenever she asks i respond-"we may or may not marry,who knows future" keeping in mind that i will only marry if she truly comes to Islam!
Thanks.I need more support please.
Brother,
She should be told that it is not allowed in Islam to keep this relationship and it needs to be cut off, until you get married, which is not possible until she becomes Muslim.
Your concern about her Aakhirah? Are you concerned about the other non Muslims apart from her? If she doesn't accept Islam, then she is same as the others to you.
The best thing you can probably do if she is accepted in Islam is that you can refer some Muslim relative of yours (female) to her.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
brother can we chat somewhere about this matter. i think u r available!
Brother I post a poem in suicide have a read.....
Brother waseem I do not get it if this brother is "really 18" so his gf will be around that age still teenagers!! How can she be strong to uderstand that deeply about Islam? Don't you think it will be pressur on her if he tries to explain her that deeply now? Ohh Allah I am confused now brother saying They not taking this as "relation" can you please correct me.
Sister i turned 18 this month and she 17 a month before.I really live in a big tension!!help!
we call it as "unnamed relation".Sister leave that just tell me the solutions..please
Unnamed relation? Brother, there is no relation without a name. And your relation is that of attraction, whatever you like to call.
And if you do not take care and get away from this girl, your Deen could be in danger, you could perform some major sins.
You need to stay away from her and maybe refer somebody to her, who could tell her about Islam.
But if she is not interested, then in no way can this be enforced on her.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
My little brother brother waseem suggest you good advice though I think it will make Hard for her still you can try what brother advice you 😀
Ya Allah paak help me!!
thanks to you all.........
I have thought of talking about this matter of Islam to her in school today...
Pray to Allah(swt ) for my tone to be humble and words to be effective!
don't be with her, you will ruin your life I am telling you from experience go find a muslim girl things will be a less complicated. You should be worried about yourself, you cant change someone to believe or what you want to convert for you regardless even hereafter. She has to believe in islam for her not you, and the fact is in my experience if you put pressure on her or someone like this then they will never be honest it will only be a show so really it needs to come from the heart not because you want her to.
AOA to all,
It is clear that the brother who posed the question was not satisfied with the repsonse. We cannot manipulate the laws of Allah to justify our own wrongdoings.
May Allah increase the reward of those who dedicate their time and demonstrate great knowledge in trying to help people on this site.
Brother 'Seeking Help' look for the door marked exit and run. You are only 18, you have no life experience and will look back upon this time and be bewildered by your own naivety and foolishness. You have asked for guidance and you should respect what you have been told. Think with your head not with your heart as your judgement is clouded with emotion.
Seeking help
You should understand that the unnamed relation you have with this girl is haram. There is no relationship between a man and woman outside marriage. We would only think about saving someone who we really care for. You really like this girl and wish that she reverts. It maybe that later you want to marry her as you may know that muslim men are not allowed to marry hindu woman. This maybe your objective to make her halal for you. This is just my perspective it may be wrong.
However this is not your job to revert her. Allah will guide who he wishes. You can give dawah but only to men not woman! Think about the future. How long are going to preach to her in the hope that she may revert. If two three years down the line she still has not reverted you may find yourself in a worst situation then today as you would have already fallen deeply in love with her and it will be extremelly difficult o
sorry clicked the wrong button. I was saying it will be difficult for you to leave her later as you will not be able to marry her as she is hindu. So I agree with everyone it is better for you to leave her now then later it will be less heartace for you.
Okay, Here it is. I'm gonna be a maverick and say,' Don't Leave her'. Let us just assume for one second that She is not your girl friend. In fact. She is a male friend. I've a best friend and I'm worried that I might not see him post our deaths. I've every reason to be concerned. What makes a Muslim is his/her deeds and not merely praying, fasting etc. If you have a genuine concern to save her, I would say don't hesitate.
Ending a relationship is not a solution. Do we all live a completely halal life? I doubt it. Not that I'm asking you or blaming you for transgression but ponder a bit. Allah has given you a free will. use it but don't mis use it.
You have a noble thought. You wish to enlighten her about Islam. I don't care what exactly your relationship is. I will leave it for Allah to decide what is wrong or right.
Now, coming to an important point. In retrospect, I'd dated a Hindu girl. I'm no Saint and I'm a Sinner. I was probably your age. Unlike you, my wisdom and knowledge of Islam was limited. I wanted her desperately. I did not care about the world. But, I was young, probably 19 or 20 years old and I wanted to marry her. But, as time coagulated, the differences began to crop up. By 21or 22 , I realised that when She is not ready to give in then why should I neutralise my faith.
So, I would not say .. that break up with her or surrender. Don't give in to Shaytaan's demands as well. Avoid meeting alone too much and stick to group meetings. Avoid movies and places where you might even remotely capitulate. In simple words, don't get physical with her. Noo kisses , hugs ... blah ... blah .... Take it easy.
You are young. Have a few aspirations. I appreciate the fact that you are so religious and spiritual Masha Allah.Very unlike me. Give your self some more time. Look around. Ask your self. Why are you doing this?Because you love her or you love Allah? If it is latter, go ahead and and have a halal relationship keeping in view that you want to please Allah.
Remember: It would be painful to part ways with her come what may. Relationships are inherently complicated and yours is no exception. Thus, son, be careful, it could be quite a tearful experience but you can't learn about life until you fall, cry and get betrayed , cheated ... frustrated.... You have to test yourself. Test your Iman. Test her Iman. Life is simple. You make choices and you don't look back. You could either leave her right away or pursue her for this noble cause. but, as Allah has said, fear not Loss or oppression if you are believer in him.
Lastly, if you are still confused, try doing an Istikhaara. Let Allah guide you.
Assalamualikum brother.
YOU CAN SHOW HER TALK GIVEN BY Dr ZAKIR NAIK ON THE TOPIC OF PROPHET MOHAMMED PEACE BE UPON HIM IN VEDAS ,THE HINDU SCRIPTURE . ITS CLEARLY MENTIONS IN THEIR BOOK (BHAVISHVA PURANA -THE BOOK OF FUTURE/PROPHESIES) PROPHET PACE BE UP ON HIM ,ABOUT SAHIBS, HAJJ AND NAME OF PROPHETS PARENTS AND A LOT MORE SURELY IF SHE THINKS WITH OPEN HEART WILL RECEIVE GUIDANCE AND ACCEPT ISLAM
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X8zasuy9FBA
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I6z3otfzqa0
Assalamu alaikum!
Brother i understand what and how you are confronting the situation. I suggest you to first dont worry, have faith in allah. There is no way where allah is not. First you go for the similarities between hers religion n islam like mr. Zakir nayak tought us. Then try to unfold islam before her and the hidden reality of islamic rules and principles. Keep praying allah for her faith and remember do not commit anything that is prohibited by allah. And i also tell you if khuda na khasta she cant marry you, remeber allah has found may be someone else for you and your real partner is only her. This is all you can, and you cant go beyond so consider it to your qismat. Allah may love your trying...good luck and always be calmed with what allah gives 🙂 .
There is no god but allah and muhammad saw is his messenger and sevant
Also mentioned in the hindu scriptures
Upanishad., vedas
AOA
really im very happy for this side there is a lots of comments i really like all of that before a few years i worried about this i also had a same problem/situation on that time i fell that if i leaved her i would die but im still alive with the great smile 🙂 i spend my time in masjid and there where all the person are Muslims and they use to preach i listen them again and again, when we are touch with the Islamic environment so over Iman increase day by day so my bro plz touch with the Islamic environment then you understand these all types of things easily, and you should Dua for Allah that Allah give me that things which is good for me i don't know anythings which is good for give me ...... may Allah accepts you may bro
may Allah give you that pain for all of the non-Muslim men. . . ( not for just one )
Brother I am not a expert but my suggestion to is that you should give a Quran to her and ask her to read it, ask her if she have any doubts she can ask you any time, you should also read Vedas and tell her about Islam and Muhammad from her book, show her lot of videos of Dr Zakir Naik if she accepts Islam marry her and if not then say bye to her.I might be wrong, Allah please forgive me if I have given wrong Idea.
my brother..just keep repeating the message of islam in the best way as ALLAH says in surah nahl that Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and good instruction, and argue with them in a way that is best.Meet her just for the sake of dawah..But at times u have to walk away..TRy u r best