I think my father is cheating on my mother
Assalam O Alaikum
I was going through my father's texts the other day to find something for him, but then I stumbled upon a couple of texts which I'm pretty sure is from another woman, saying something that doesn't feel right to say to a married man. But he is quite religious now, praying 5 times a day and reading the Quran and giving me and my brother advice towards Islam. A few years ago, me and my mother were going through his phonecalls and we phoned one of them and it turned out to be a woman, when my mother says it's his wife, the other woman immediately put the phone down.
Ever since then I think my mum has known about something, but at that time I was quite young so I didn't really give it a thought. I remember my mother talking to someone about men cheating on women, and she said to let them do it, I think she was thinking about it not breaking the family then, as in ignore it. shall I tell my brother about it?
I'm so confused on what to do, please help me in making the right decision.
-ahmed
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Walaikum Salam akhi Ahmed,
I am terribly sorry for your un-fortunate circumstance. This is one of the worst situation to be in; as for child both parents are very important and children would always like to have peace, trust and harmony in their house for greater good of everyone. Bro, this is very difficult situation for you for sure and I will advise that tread carefully. Though, you found some texts in your father's cell phone but still I would say; try to find out some more proof of if your father is still in any haram relationship but at the same time you should know your limits and remain respectful toward him. It could be that your father was in a any kind of relationship before but he has changed now but this woman is still messing around just to creat havoc in the family. Once you have solid proof, ask your mother to confront your father and speak to him about it but at the same time remain calm and make sure that even if your father get's angry or loud still remain respectful and speak to him about what has been going on since when and why? If things get nasty then involved elders from both sides but make sure that extended family don't get involved in all this. I don't know how old are you but these are very delicate matters and sometimes if not taken proper pre-cautions; things could turn out to be really ugly. Please go through the comments/advice given by brothers and sisters under following posts and Insha Allah you will find some help. Although they are not exactly the same situations as yours but still you will find some sort of help and relief Insha Allah.
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/drama-adultery-incest-lesbianism/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/mother-cheating-friend-ready/
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/unfaithful-man-plus-greedy-family/
May Allah (swt) help your family pull through these trying times safely Insha Allah to keep the family bond together. (Amin)
Wasalam,
Your brother in Islam,
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