I need an explanation about a Hadith about: The Hur of Jannah
Asalaam Alaikum can anyone help me with this hadeeth?
My husband keeps repeating this hadeeth to me, but i asked someone about it and they said that the sources arent strong, i mentioned to my husband after that, that the source of that hadeeth isnt strong, he started yelling and going into hysterics, that im not muslim, for rejecting hadeeth.
I dont reject hadith i do believe in it. and Alhamdolillah i am muslim. my husband is munafiq a hypocrite he is very evil and cruel to me but denies it and thinks he has the right. and repeats this hadith. But what about the innocent wife that suffers cruelty from her husband doesnt she have a angel man in jannah cursing him. i dont understand this, i believe in hadith but problem is i think that hadeeths could be translated wrongly sometiems?
Please let me know. I dont want to be a disbeliever. Astaghferrullah. umm i also thought that husband and wife of this world will remain (wif no divorce) husband and wife here after aswell. happily, i think ive heard that, its sad to hear that he will not be mine. what do i get? i sound really bad its the following:
6. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said: "When a woman troubles or displeases her husband in this world, the hûr of jannah that has been set aside for him says: "May Allah curse you! Do not trouble him. He is your guest for a few days. Soon he will leave you and come to me."
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Dear Sister, Asalaamualaykum,
I do not know about the authenticity of this ahadith. However, it seems that your husband is taking advantage of your naiivety. There is nothing in Islam that justifies a man mistreating his wife. Everytime a man mistreats his wife, he is incurring the wrath of Allah - that is the important point here.
You have called your husband: 'a munafiq, a hypocrite, very evil and cruel'. At the same time you are saying you are very sad that he may not be your husband in Jannah - that does not make sense.
Sister, I think it would do you good to learn about the rights and duties of a husband and wife in Islam. This will empower you and help you stand up for yourself.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Well, you two are quite a pair. He says that you are not Muslim, you call him a munafiq.
I strongly suggest that the two of you get some marriage counseling to learn how to communicate and respect each other.
As far as Hur al-Ayn, there are a LOT of weak and fabricated hadith on this subject. I think some have been invented by wishful men, and perhaps some are intended to discredit Islam and the Islamic concept of Jannah. So we have to be very careful that we are dealing with authentic hadith.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalam O Alaikum sister,
I can't believe that how many sisters (married, single or else) are caught up in the idea of Hoor al ayn. What they don't realise is that first he has to make it to jannah and HE is your partner in this world. Both of you are supposed to strengthen each other's imaan and respect each other rights and abstain from being cruel to each other. Abusive behaviour; be it physical or mental is a big NO NO in our religion whether it's coming from husband or wife. One thing is very important and that is; both husband and wife are equal and no one has superiority, it's like being 50:50 partnership in a business. Though a man is leader of the family who provides, protects and help the family to prosper but this DOESN'T give an upper hand to MAN/HUSBAND to be abusive toward his wife or children.
As far as this Hadith goes sister! I also don't know about the authenticity of this Hadith but at the same time there are plenty of Hadiths about women's rights being wife, mother, daughter etc. I would recommend that please do some self-study as recommended by Sister Z so that you can answer your husband without being rude to him. You may also want to remind him that his ill treatment towards you is going to be a big hurdle to get to those HOOR AL AYNS. So, request him politely that be nice toward you if he wishes to get what he wants in after life.
Here is a Hadith which clarifies that Muslim woman(note that it says woman not only wives) will be way more beautiful then “Hoor al Ayn” (only if they make it to Jannah);
"Hazrat Umma Salma (R.A)asked Holy Prophet (PBUH);
Oh Prophet of Allah (PBUH); Who will be more beautiful in Jannah; A Muslim woman or a Hoor al ayn?
Holy Prophet (PBUH) replied; Oh Umma Salma! Muslim women will be way more beautiful in Jannah in comparison to Hoors al ayns.
She asked why? (mean which deeds she should have, to have this kind of reward).
Prophet (PBUH) replied;
” Because of their prayers, fasting, and worship; Allah (swt) will put his light (noor) on their faces”.
NOTE: THIS ISSUE IS NOT NEW SISTER, EVEN A LOT OF SISTERS WHO ARE NOT MARRIED AT THE MOMENT ARE CAUGHT UP IN THIS IDEA AND IT DATES BACK TO THE TIMES OF OUR BELOVED HOLY PROPHET (PBUH).
So, cheer-up and tell your husband that it's not only he will go to Jannah if you have good deeds than Insha Allah you will be there too but way more attractive than those Hoors Insha Allah. Logically speaking sister most of us men are weak and tend to run after the beauty/attraction rather than personality, character ,moral values and above all the religion. That to me is a very logical reason; why men are promised so much because if the man of the house as FATHER or HUSBAND strays then whole family system will collapse as UNFORTUNATELY WE OFTEN SEE IN TODAY'S SOCIETY. So, may be all this is promised to keep him on track:)
I hope I helped and keep striving to increase your knowledge so that he can't take advantage of you being not so knowledgeable in religion.
Read this article and remember that if your forgive him and try to avoid un-wanted arguments/fights then Allah (swt) will reward you Insha Allah.
http://islamicsunrays.com/when-you-forgive-you-live/
Wasalam,
Your brother in Islam,
Muhammad1982.
Masha´Allah, brother Muhammad1982, excellent advice.
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
As Salaamu Alaikum ...
You are wrong brother. Husband and wife are NOT equal and their marriage is NOT like a 50-50 partnership in a business. From where do you obtain your knowledge to give such advice?
Allah (SWA) says in the Quran, Surat An-Nisa, ayat 34
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands), and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc.). As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful), but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.
It is the husband who is charged with financially maintaining his wife. She does not have to work and contirbute one dollar to the household. She does not have that responsibility towards her husband, so how can their marriage be 50-50?
It is the husband that Allah commands obedience to from the wife. The husband does not owe obedience to his wife, so how can their marriage be 50-50?
And there is no Quran or hadith that contradicts that.
Now because he excels her, should he abuse her? NO ... absolutely not. She has been entrusted to him and he should be kind, but they are not equal in their roles or relationship to one another.
And because they are not equal, he has even more responsibility in being just and kind towards her, because he's in a position where it's easy for him to abuse her.
Assalam O Alaikum brother Fatir,
I see where you are coming from. Both men and women have different responsibilities, this does not make one superior over other. Besides, in this day and age some women do work and help out their husbands. Husband has the role of leader to guide the family as per teachings of Islam but this doesn't make him superior than wife instead it's more responsibility and require more maturity, understanding, patience and upright behavior on his part.
Just because husband has the financial responsibility he is not better than wife and vice versa. Husband and wife relationship is that of respect and mutual understanding, wife is supposed to show respect and obedience toward husband when he is in line with Quran and Sunnah and vice versa.
I do wonder what was the point of posting that Ayah from Quran which is not required here and deals with duties of wife toward her husband. It isn't relevant or is it? Do you have any advice for the husband as well or are you one of those brothers who believe that they can abuse women and still expect them to respect them, acting all pious when they are not following the bare minimum?
Muhammad1982,
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
As salamu alaykum,
Sister my advice will focus on how to improve your imaan, you are dealing and living in a very negative enviroment, we, women, are very strong and men knows this, we can lead with extremme suffering, but at the same time we are blessed with common sense.
Be your best and don´t allow this man to abuse you, tell him directly with very kind words that he is hurting you reciting to you this "hadeeth" that is creating a wound that is being difficult to heal, be honest and show him the pain in your Heart. Once you have done this, if he mentions it again you will know for sure he wants to damage you, now he is conscious of your pain. At this point, Allah forbids you get into this point, you can use all the cold blood you are able to collect and tell him, you know this hurts me and you are hurting me now on purpose, I forgive you and I ask Allah(swt) to forgive you for the pain you are causing me on purpose, and let it be.
Pray your salat at the call of the Adhan, I don´t know how you are going to do it, but this will give you a Peace and a feeling of plenitud that you haven´t ever lived before, insha´Allah, you deserve to live this state consciously, insha´Allah.
Read the Quran, slowly, bit by bit, stop in every line, be patience, don´t worry if you don´t understand, one day you will be surprised of how much you have learnt, insha´Allah.
Recite the Names of Allah(swt) and his Attributes, do it slowly, one a week it is enough but everyday think on It a little bit.
Sister have in your mind and mouth the Name of Allah(swt),insha´Allah, Bismillah, Alhamdulillah, Subhana´Allah, stop saying bad words or insulting not even with your thought, change, little by little, I want to see how you polish all that rudeness you have acquired, this is not you, those are habits you have acquired, once you begin to acquire new habits, old ones will disspear little by little, insha´Allah, and you will look at your husband and won´t feel those emotions anymore, you will feel for him healthy emotions, insha´Allah.
You cannot change him, but you can be able to be your best, insha´Allah, he will have the opportunity too, but wait until he comes to you to ask, and then guide him in a very subtle way, remember he needs to know you respect him as the man of the house, and that includes being the leader and the iman of the family.
Men normally get scared of women that they think knows more than they do, then don´t throw your knowledge in his face, wait until this knowledge turns into wisdom inside of yourself, insha´Allah and then just will be something natural on you, will flow from every cell of your body, insha´Allah, at this time, when you share it, it won´t be felt as something dangerous, because the humility you will gain through this process will shine through you, insha´Allah.
I hope you find my words useful and that Allah(swt) guides you and help you to the best for both of you, insha´Allah.
May Allah(swt) brings Peace and Light to both of you and around you. Ameen.
From Heart to Heart, all my Unconditional Love, Respect and Support,
María
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalamu Aleikum,
I can only agree with Brother Wael. He is so right, many of the hadiths about Jannah were fabricated,
and unfortunately, jurisprudence in all schools of Islam is dominated by men who let their own desires
and fantasies influence the hadiths. Shortly before I got married, I asked a scholar to what extent a
potential spouse can look at a woman's beauty before marriage, as Rassul Allah said that the husband
should see his potential wife. He said the hair, as well as the hands, legs and arms. I had to ask myself:
Would Islam which fought against the objectification of women ever allow this to happen? Are these
the words of the Prophet or lusty men or scholars? We have to be more critical of the comments of others-
so that we can't be diluted and know our lord. As far as I know, the beauty of one's own wife will be hundred
thousand times greater than the beauty of the hur al ayn in Jannah. You will be with your husband at first
place and there will be gardens where the believers will be together with their spouses, enjoying the best
meals..according to Qur'an. Jannah is not a male sex paradise, and there is still a close bonding between
you and your husband in the hereafter. He can even reject hooris, working on the assumption that your
beauty will be even greater than the beauty of the Hooris.
Don't listen to those diluted, sex-obsessed, misogenistic figures who want to create a "Hugh Hefner"
paradise for themselves.
Brother please at the last remove the word " hugh hefner " as mentioning such filth on this page where sacred Personalities quotes are discussed is utterly disrespectful and is earning you a grave sinsin . Please remove it
oopss. it's deluded and misogynistic. please forgive me my mistakes, it's very late
salam
salam sis...
hadith seems right.....but there is one condition that the husband should be a true momin (saaleh)..... this is not for all muslim men who are just slaves of their own desires.....
again in Surah Rahman Allah swt describes two types of Jannati (ashabul yameen and sabekeen) and the second will get hoors........... ( sabekeen are the momin who become nearest to Allah swt on basis of their Takwa and imaan)
a jannati also have the same wife in Jannah too who he got in this materialistic world...... and she will be the more beautiful and pretty even than Hoors...... so calm down and pray for your husband......that he get Jannah and same as you....
Allah Knows best
Abu Az-Zubayr, I have never heard of some of these hadith that you are posting. Please quote an authentic source for these hadith, otherwise I will have to delete your comment.
Before I post any hadith here, I always look it up and quote the source.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
inshaallaah, i'll do so within the next few days and the one which the sister is asking about.
I'll delete it for now and if you get the sources you can re-post it.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
We should understand that Jannah is a place of Peace, Security and Contentment. A place where the dwellers are pleased with Allah and Allah is pleased with them.
Jannah is not a place of "vain talk". If you read the description of Jannah in the Qur'an, you will find it to be an ideal place. Everyone there in will be content.
There will be no rancour in a believer's heart towards his brother. They will face each other on raised couches and will be served by food and drinks they desire.
Some peron may not have found contentment in the life of the world, but he let it go for the sake of Allah. Some youth left their homes, some youth must have died in Islamic wars without marriage, some married men may have died and so after them their wives would have married other men as well. So whom do you think these men will marry? And their wives who were married to other husbands? Whom will they be married to?
Allah will content His slaves, men and women, who suffered for His cause and who kept their duty, in the best ways that befit the Majesty of Allah. So we should Insha Allah wait for our days of Jannah and expect the best to come from Allah.
We should not hold on so firmly to the life of the world and love of wives, wealth and children so much so that we forget Allah and our duty to Him.
Ours is to keep our duty, Allah will keep His word, giving Jannah to the dutiful and rewards prepared by Him. Let us wait for pleasent surprises from our Lord. We are humans, we should not crave to know everything, rather we should be happy with what Allah has revealed to us in His Book and should strive to achieve the great victory - entry in to Jannah.
Some people gain knowledge but fail to grasp the meaning. Allah alone knows who will be married to whom and how will the process take place. We do not have to worry about it, He gurantees that there will be no injustice done to His slaves.
So be happy with this gurantee and assurance from Allah, that if you do good and keep your duty to Him, there will be no injustice done to you.
Salaam,
Your brother.
very very interesting topic. Thanks to the person who asked and thanks to all the responses. I sometimes wondered the same thing. I know that in Quran and hadith it tells us there won't be jealousy etc. all bad things of this world do not exist in Jannah. but our weak minds are incapable of comprehending what Jannah is and how it will be. When Jannah is described to us we can only imagine it with worldly things that we have seen. May Allah grant us all the highest place in Jannah. Ameen
Asalaam Alaikum brothers and sisters,
Wow! Excellent responses, May Allah swt grant you all jannah, and a good life in this life and the here after, and grant all your duas with Khair, Ameen!
I love my husband because he is my nikah husband and i dont know how to explain it to anyone in this world, i dont tell anyone because it seems crazy that a man who has done soo much bad to me i can still love, infact im in soo much pain right now im sooo extremely lonely, we are in process of divorce, our marriage has finished. There is no chance, but i love him to death, and miss him soo dearly, even though 80% of the times he was ungrateful about my respect to him and his family, (me calling him a munafiq is reality there is no other word for it) and i only said it after divorce in progress. I love him but i know he's clearly no good for me. It hurts but i had to end it all.
But what can i do i tried to the last chance possible to make things work, but he is just not right, has a lot of evil in him. Only Allah swt Knows fully what is going on inside him.
And Allah swt has shown me many signs that he is not good for me. There for im trying to ask for Khola, because he will never divorce me.
I have always softly and in good times tried to explain my rihgts to him, but he'd get very abusive and crazy and tell me im disrespecting him for even saying that.
I still miss him soo much it hurts me. I dont know why im like this. I just want all this pain to end.
I have always recited different things throughout the day , and Allah swt 's bueatiful Names. I always think of Allah and do Zikr. I trust in Him swt. Allah Knows best and Is full in Knowledge.
Jazakallahu Khairan all, please dua for me
Asalaam Alaikum
Sister, Assalaam O Alaikum
I can understand your feelings. I am going through the same thing right now. My husband, with whom I am going through a divorce, is someone who I still have feelings for. I don't know why either. He treated me badly, disrespected me and our children. I took care of his family, his mother specifically for our entire marriage, I gave him respect and never said a bad word to him. He made false accusations at me and insulted me in front of our entire family.
We had several reconciliation attempts after which my entire family realized there is something wrong with him and there is evil in his heart. After that, my entire family told me you need to think of him and your marriage as a nightmare has ended.
I continue to say Allah SWT names and recite prayers and think that what happened was in Gods will. I know this is a difficult time for us, but we must remain strong. You know, I was given many signs to leave him as well and I don't know I just didn't leave for the sake of family.
I want you to know that I am praying for you in my hear right now for Allah SWT to give you the strenght and will to get through this. Inshallah you will.
Asalaam Alaikum, I pray that your well now sister and iA your in a better place in life. Please reply when you see this, I would like to know how things are and how you're coping with the post traumatic effects of that relationship.
Alhamdulillah since then I've had the opportunity to do a lot more research on the matter, something which I was deprived of at the time (access to internet).
In response to the others who called me naive and with no knowledge, previous marriage I actually could feel right from wrong in my heart a lot of times. However there were times I needed the opinion of others and what links they could provide at the time.
Sorry but i m discussing some other thing that hurts me that man keep hoors and wife and wife will not jealous from hoors cuz jealousy and enviness will be eradicated in heaven.Then a wife can also live with some other hoor man and a man will not jealous form him.i think so all the men aluma kram describes just on hoors not hoor men.i dont think many of the women in this world want to live with there hubby in heaven aswell.
Women also want hoor man not hubby again.Allah will give what we women want not what men wants.why all the time women tolerate every thing.our parents decides our marriage and we have to accept and pass the life with unwanted husband.
Many women i knew they just spend there life with there husband but they actually hate them.and they says men get hoors plus world wife it means women is nothing her feeling are nothing just men men men in this world and hereafter.
BUT I TRUST ON GOD. HE WILL GIVE WHAT WOMAN ACTUALLY WANT .