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Asalam wa alaykom wa rahmat Allahu wa barakatuh.

My father & I were very close. We always travel overseas for 3 months. He has a best friend over there that he grew up with.

Years went on & my fathers friends son proposed to me. My father has always wanted us for each other. I never wanted to get engaged to this guy, but my father convinced me. Eventually I gave in & got engaged.

The second I wore the ring I knew he wasn't for me. I got home in the night of my engagement crying because of what I got myself into.

When I came back to Australia (home country) I broke off the relationship because I was very unhappy.

I am a female well into religion & he just wasn't what I wanted in a man. He never reminded me of Allah SWT.

I don't come from a religious family at all so my father was very unhappy with the decision I made. We stopped speaking for a few months & when we finally spoke again he kept trying to convince me back into the relationship, yet I refused.

Months went by ..

One day me & a friend went to have lunch & a man seen me. He sent a sister to approach me to ask for my mothers number so he can do everything the halal way.

I was impressed, his mother called my mother & in our tradition my mother would normally say "Ill call you back once I speak to my husband" to organise a date so they can come over.

My entire family agreed for them to come.

The past 2 months there has been miscommunication. He decided to call himself & ask for a day to come over. My mother again said ill call you back.

I was shocked .. why again?

She said to me my father has changed his mind.

The past week we have been trying to convince my father. Yesterday I spoke to him myself telling him I want to give this man a chance. He's been to hajj, studies the Quran, he prays, fasts & has a job. To me thats perfect & there's no reason to reject.

My father said this to me.. I will NOT forgive you for what you done (leaving my ex fiancè), I am not your father.

I begged for forgiveness yet he refused.

I offered to marry the guy he wants just so he can forgive me, again.. he refused.

I was in tears. My own father dis-owned me. He blocked my naseeb & ontop of that wont forgive me for something which Allah has written.

I told him its haram what he's doing & its wrong.. he just doesn't care.

I dont know what to do any more, I prayed istikhara twice & both times I got beautiful dreams about this man that I want. I feel kheir towards him.

Ive been praying & making dua so much.

Is there any recommendations? What should I do? Do I have rights?

Jazakom'Allahu khayrun.

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