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I feel trapped in a world of regret



I don't know what to say, just offered prayer and want to discuss the problem.

My ex-bf has left me. I had attempted too bad things with him like oral sex. Although he send proposal, my parents didn't like them. Anyhow time heals big wounds... I'm quite ok. But now my mental level is going down day by day. A person never bears that his wife had done such things. I am daily dying whenever am feeling about wrong thing. I often apologise in front of Allah(S.W.T.) but how can I start a relation with lie... am not in a relation now but I can't face faking relation and feeling quilt all time. Please tell me some way to get rid of this guilt. Any process of kaffara? Anything that will pull me out from that world of regret.


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  1. Al-Hasan al-Basri said, “Have you not read the statement of Allah? ‘I said “Ask forgiveness of your Lord. Truly He is Oft-Forgiving. He will send rain to you in abundance; increase you in wealth and children; grant you gardens and bestow on you rivers.”‘” [Nuh (71):10-12]

    There are two things in the earth that give a person safety and security from the punishment of Allah. The first has been removed, whilst the second still remains. As for the first, it was the Messenger of Allah (صلي ألله عليه و سلم).“Allah would not punish them while you were among them.” [al-Anfal (8):33] As for the second, it is istighfar. “Allah would not punish them as long as they sought forgiveness.” [al-Anfal (8):33]أستغفر ألله… أستغفر ألله… أستغفر ألله…
    Do not ever leave istighfar!

    Dear Sister, we humans do mistakes but we should not loose hope from Allah's mercy.

    Protect yourself from all the sins and never look back,neither you share it with anyone or even with ur future spouse.Its Allah who will conseal ur past.

    Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “By Him in whose hand is my soul, if you did not sin Allah would replace you with people who would sin and they would seek the forgiveness of Allah and He would forgive them.”

    Source: Sahih Muslim 2749 Grade: Sahih (authentic )according to Muslim

    Rasul Allah (saws) said, “If anyone continually asks forgiveness, Allah will appoint for him a way out of every distress, relief from anxiety, and will provide for him from where he never realized.”
    [Abu Dawood, Hadith 599]

    Allah says in quran
    O you who have believed, fear Allah and be with those who are true. (Surat At-Tawbah 9:119)

    Forget ur past and live according to Quran and sunnah. Its Allah who is giving a chance to realise.

    Haram way to reach halal will lead to Allahs anger.Interaction with opposite sex with non mahram will always bring evil no matter you have all good reasons.

    Before you do anything remember Allah,ask yourself are you pleasing Allah or taking the path which will bring Allah's anger .We know when we make reasons to do a sin no matter watching a video/clip/music/etc etc....this is all from shaiytan.

    Learn islam and teach others.Keep asking for Allah's forgiveness every minute.

    May Allah guide you... Aameen.....

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