I want a quick divorce so I can marry my boyfriend
I had a boyfriend in 2007. I got married in pakistan in 2008 arranged. When I got back I realised I still love my boyfriend.
Me and my husband have separated 2 months ago. I don't know where he lives but somewhere near. I want to marry my boyfriend now, but how do I get a quick divorce, English and Islamic?
By the way my husband had girlfriends, he drank and was a liar.
Thank you so much
- beelakhan
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Salaamalikum,
Dear sister since you are already in marriage you should not think of any other man except your husband.
I have read your post and I think probably you were married against your will but what is done is done, what you could have done is made yourself very clear before marriage now what you must do is try to save your marriage ,try to talk to your husband consult your parents,your elder seek their advice and talk to your husband to try and make your marriage work and if problems cant be resolved then to can take divorce and till divorce happens any relationship with your boyfriend is haram so plz dont engage in any sort of relationship with him.
May Allah ta'allah guide you to right path and solve all of your problems.May He grant you what is best for you.Mean while you pray your namaz and ask Allah for solution.Consult your parents and your husband parents and let them know what problems you are facing.
Allah hafiz.
Salams,
Well, I think, before looking at the situation from an Islamic viewpoint, it would be helpful to know if
you're a practising Muslim or not. If you're not practising, it is clear why many things happened
or you have a boyfriend. You were probably forced to get married, or urged to do it by talking into you
that much until you finally got married. In the modern world, you don't take handcuffs and take
2 people to the altar, it's emotional blackmailing, etc... So anyways, having a boyfried is not
halal, but if you think you have a future with him, and not with your husband, then get divorced
and marry your boyfriend. In a relationship, there has to be mawadah and rahma, and if you
don't feel attracted to the person and don't love the person, you're wasting his time and yours.
Be fair and don't waste his time by trying to love him, trying to fix it, trying to be a good housewife.....
trying to enjoy sex..... that's a torture for both of you.
Meanwhile, I think looking at problems with an Islamic barometer is not always helpful for the
people who write their posts. Some people are practising, some not, and very often families fail
to give an Islamic upbringing. It is very often our own duty to inform ourselves.
So I would suggest you follow your heart, and marry the right man of your choice.
Insha Allah you are not only guided by lustful desires and emotions, but really love him and I think
then it's going to work with the respective efforts
Jazakallah
Dear sister Beelakhan,
You have an arranged marriage that is not working. Regardless of how good or bad a person your husband is, you have the right to get divorced whenever you want. One word from him and puf ! you're divorced ! (at least islamically). As to how long it's going to take to be divorced on paper (legally) in England, I can't help you since I have no idea how it works there.
Now, about your "boyfriend". I suggest you stop thinking about him until you're officially divorce. If you are seeing him or if you're having any kind of contact with him (phone, internet, etc,) you need to stop right now. As a married woman, you are not supposed to allow yourself to think about another man, let alone having a relationship with him (be it physical or emotional).
Best of luck inshaAllah.
Wafa.
Hello,
Well you are seperated already. I don't know about divorce in UK or Islamic either. In America it is long and difficult. There is no such thing as a quick divorce. But each state is different for length of time. I don't think you need an English divorce though because you were married in Pakistan. I will say I am NOT sure about this. I think with Islamic you are partly there. I know he has to be away from you for a few months just in case you are with his child.
I would agree that you should not have any physical contact with the boyfriend while still married as it is haraam. Although having a boyfriend is too! lol
sir
my problam is dovice mater my wife second marrige me i am in pakistan my wife islamic dovice saprat 2 year 2end a digery nicy ricved come in pakistan marrige my docoment visa problam
all paple prayer for me
Salaams Beena,
Firstly do not consort with your 'boyfriend' until you are a free woman and intend to marry as soon as you can. Secondly, there is no quickie divorce.
You will first be required to do a British law divorce. You may well cite adultery, as you said your husband has girlfriends. However, is he likely to admit to that? If you had been separated for 2 years then it would be more straightforward because he couldn't contest that. Thus you first need to deal with this and discuss with a solicitor what the best reason for citing divorce would be, in order to make it easier. If it is straightforward, it will take about 6-9 months.
Only when you have your decree nisi will a masjid carry out a Khula for you. They would contact your husband advising your intention to divorce, as you will still be married despite a Britsh law divorce. If he doesn't respond, they will contact him another two times. IF no response at all they will grant you a divorce. There is a fee for this, around £2-300. You will have to research this too. If he contests divorce, they weill aim to reconcile.
I doubt your husband would want a divorce, since most of these freshies like to keep up the facade of happy families whilst actively playing around on the side. I suggest you separate from him to start with, contact legal services and go from there.
Regards
Hopeful
Sorry Beela, I read your name incorrectly.
Salam Beela Khan,
You can get Khulla ( Divorce ) through Pakistani Court. Your presence in Pakistan is not required for this. You will attest Special Power Of Attorney from Pakistani Embassy. It will take 4 to 5 months for Court Order.
Best Regards,
Chaudhary Ejaz Ashraf Lawyer
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Email:
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hi, im late but its b cause i just read this thread, i just want to share my experience, first only God, Allah dont lie, we r human we make mistakes i make, everybody makes mistakes n tells lie not every thing but at some points, having someone else in my heart n thoughts is worst than lie, when i say " i came back n realise that i still love x friend then i make u sure that the fault is mine, bcause i would b comparing my hubby/ wife with my x y z, n how on earth is it possible to carryon with my mate. the otherthing its ADVICE THAT IF LIVE N BROUGHT UP IN UK N WISH TO HAVE A GOOD N HAPPY MARRIAGE LIFE THEN NEVER MARRY BACK HOME ONLY MARRY TO SOMEONE NEAR U, love is BLIND n makes U blind too. one more thing how can a muslim have a girlfriend or boy friend without telling a lie, we have to lie infront of parents, he is just classfellow he is brilliant student n helps me in studies so please if u r human then expect a human not an ANGEL( or waliullah;))