Any Surahs/dua/supplications to help relieve my mother’s situation?
i am new to this site but i wanted some advice my father hasn't been in my life since i was a child my mother has raised me and my 2 siblings alone my father was a criminal and his family hates my mum because her sister would not marry my fathers brother, this has caused a massive rift ever since just recently my dad came back from prison, i thought seeing him back within our family would have made him a better man but i have discovered he made a facebook account with a picture of him half naked and is chatting to women online (is this how a farther and a married man behaves), he has hurt my mum a lot in the past he has not only abused her physically or mentally but so has his family. my mum is very ill and i love her very much i am scared to say what my dad is doing because i don't want her hurt all my life she has protected me from the people who have hurt her the most and i think as a daughter is it my duty to protect her, sometimes i want her to see what kind of man he is, he does not deserve her she does a lot for him but he throws is back in her face a mother is not suppose to go through all this so why is the man who married her treating her like this.
all i know that my father had black magic done on him long ago by his own family aka his mother and sister in law i don't know why people would want to destroy their own children's family is there any Surat's that i can pry to help my mum with this situation this has gone on for far too long i want to see her happy and me to stop worrying about her because this is effecting my siblings as well i would be so grateful if anyone can help me
thank-you
jazakallah,
Ifsa.
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Assalam
I myself am expereincing this but am doing well.
I am just being cool calm and composed and intending and working towards sucessful living.
And i am able to doso.
Nothing is difficult for a good human spirit.
Salaams,
Something you said really stood out to me: "i think as a daughter is it my duty to protect her". That's a very telling statement, because in actual reality the opposite is true: your mother and father are put on this earth to protect you. One of the things they are to protect you from is seeing things like you saw on the internet about your father, and the stress or worrying what will happen to your family because of what he's doing to it. Your mother should be protecting you from your father by making the difficult but healthy decision to separate she and you and your siblings from him, and focusing on her health and caring for you.
Sister, it's natural to love your parents and want what's best for them. No reasonable person would not be worried about their mother's health if she's ill, and when they are old and we are adults we are supposed to look after them until their life here ends. It sounds like you are still pretty young and not in the position to take on any responsibility for your mother yourself, but she definitely needs to be empowered to be the best mother she can to you and your siblings.
Instead of telling her directly what your father is doing or what has been going on, have you thought about talking to one of your mom's relatives? Maybe her parents (your grandparents) or her sisters/brothers (your aunts/uncles)? Maybe they would be willing to step into the situation in a better way and help things get into a better place for all of you. I really think the dynamic needs to change- your father needs to be held accountable for these very evil actions (abuse and infidelity), and your mom needs to heal as best she's able, both physically and emotionally. A family can be a great support in times like these, but you need to be willing to let them know what's going on so they can help all of you.
-Amy
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