Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Help, I really like this guy and he doesn’t even know my name

Okay, Salam Brothers and Sisters.

I have a problem. I reallllly like this guy and he’s about 10 years my senior. He lives in the UK while I live in the US. He doesn’t even know who I am, and I know I sound very dumb for saying this: He’s a muslim youtuber. He seems like a great person, very, very religious, and I want him to marry me. It might just be lust, idk. I think about him a lot, and I make dua’a that we somehow meet. I know him, but he doesn’t know me like at all. Nothing, nada. I just really like him and I don’t know what to do at this point. I’ve even had dreams about him, but not sexual ones. I’m near the age of marriage, but I feel like I’m just being dumb and it’ll never happen. What should I do?????



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  1. Since there's no such thing as "age of marriage" (since people get married at all ages), I honestly wouldn't know how old you are. You sound like you must be a young teenager, though.

    It's normal to fancy celebrities and, at a young age, it's easy to convince yourself you love a celebrity. But reality is, you don't know this YouTuber at all. This guy may seem like the perfect guy based on what he puts out on YouTube, but you have to remember that YouTubers only film small portions of their life, and they only show their audience what they want you to see. They are not going to post videos of themselves doing things that people will judge them for, or which may make them look bad. They edit their clips, and they put an act on to entertain people. That's what YouTubers do. What you see on YouTube, may not be the reality outside of YouTube. There have been so many scandals, where popular YouTubers have been exposed for not being authentic. Just remember that.

    If you think your crush is getting out of hand, I suggest you unsubscribe to this guy's channel and focus on other things...

  2. You have a crush on this Youtuber and it's ok to have one. I had many crushes from social media as well. You envision a life with this person and fantasize what could be. But to what Lindita said, you don't know anything about that individual at all. When it comes to a Youtuber, they generally edit and post the good things so you as a viewer will know them as this amazing person. Realistically, we know nothing about them personally and their other traits.

    I suggest you to occupy yourself and do other things which will refrain you from thinking about this person. Sooner or later, you might still have a crush but you won't envision a future with him on that level. Good luck with everything and don't stress about this too much. Life is too short and smile(its Sunnah!) 😀

  3. What should you do? You have to FORGET him. If you can't get him out of your mind, I recommend fasting. I assure you, by the end of the day you'll even forget your own name 😛
    I just want to let you know that it happens and its completely normal to have celebrity crushes cuz we're getting closer to The Day and hence its normal to allow yourself to commit such heinous sins. However as a true muslimah, it is HARAM to even look at the opposite gender. Period. A pious man is for a pious woman and vice versa. So try working on yourself, pray to Allah, makes lots of dua that He marries you to a pious man insha'Allah. Between you and me, I'm obsessed with the idea of marrying a pious man too. I'm always praying to Allah to marry me to someone who is very close to Him and loves Him dearly and puts Him before anyone else and always considers every decision he makes in life whether it pleases Allah or not and also loves His blessed messenger. Idk, be creative with your duas and if you by any chance get the idea to pray to Allah to make him marry you, then remember this verse:
    “And it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.” (AI-Baqarah, 2:216)
    So maybe he's not good for you or is not meant for you, or maybe Allah has planned someone better for you. Don't get discouraged if you don't get married to him. ❤ Assalam O Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa baraqatuh.

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