Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Marriage-related dreams…a product of my thoughts?


I had a dream at 1 am. I was eating with my dad when he told me that I will be getting married today to a cousin, but he didn’t tell me which one. I got mad and left to my room, got ready and then I ran away with my mom and brothers to my grandmas house. In the dream I was never happy about getting married and was never on my way to my wedding, or seeing my groom/ cousin. The dream ended after we arrived at my grandma’s house. In the dream I remember my mom asking me in the car which cousin I was getting married to and I named one of them and said “definitely that one”. That is all. Does this dream have an interpretation or is it just a dream of many others?

I read that if a girl sees herself beautiful on her wedding day, on her way to her groom, but never arrives or was unable to reach him, she will die soon. But I was never on my way to him or my wedding...rather, I escaped my wedding and groom alongside my mom and brothers. Like I was never going there, or on my way there or even thought about going to see him or meet him. I didn’t want to reach my groom, not that I was unable to reach him or didn’t arrive. I purposely avoided going to him by escaping to grandmother's house. So it’s different than the interpretation, at least I think so.

Other dreams I had:

  1. I dreamt that I was at school and did “that” with a boy and got pregnant.
  2. I was married and had a baby daughter and me, my husband-I think he was Asian-, and our daughter were in our house.

I was on my time of the month when I had all these dreams and also I was the same age I am now( almost 16 ), I didn’t look older in the dreams. And 3-4 days after having these dreams, I heard my grandma telling my dad that she wants him to make me get married. I freaked out because in my dream it was my dad that was forcing me to get married. Around 2 days later I had a dream that I went shopping for clothes with my mom and as soon as I woke up, my mom asked me if I want to go shopping. I also freaked out again. Is it normal to have dream linked to the future? Are they from Allah or pure coincidence?

I also constantly think about death, like it's eating me up. It prevents me from doing stuff, like when I want to buy something I think "no, I'm going to die" and these thoughts make me anxious. And like I'll be watching a show and eating and then I'll feel like the death angel is going to show up, and I've been bothered by these thoughts as they keep me anxious all day long.

Are these really thoughts from my own mind to trigger my anxiety or are they a warning of some sort or shaytan?

Any help on how to stop these thoughts?


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  1. Salaamu Alaikum, sister
    The Prophet(Sallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) dreamt that Angel Jibril(Alayhi Sallam)
    showed him(Sallahu Alayhi wa Sallam), a green silky cloth that had Aisha(Radillahu Anha)
    face on it. Angel Jibril(Alayhi Sallam) said Aisha(Radillahu Anha) would be
    his(Sallahu Alayhi wa Sallam)wife. Allah(Subhan'Allah wa Ta'Ala)said you
    know a dream is true if it comes true. Allah knows best. Here is a lecture
    In shaa Allah I hope it helps.

    • Thank you for your answer and the link provided. May I bother you to help me out on this problem too?

      Here goes nothing.

      I’ve read a while ago-about a month- about dream interpretations online and some of the dreams, especially the ones interpreted as "nearing death" signs in Islam have been stuck in my head. For example, teeth growing on one's heart. I can’t seem to stop thinking about them and now I’m scared that because I keep thinking about them, I’ll actually end up dreaming them, as dreams are sometimes linked to your constant thoughts. What do I do about this problem? How do I know that if I dream them, if it’s a "sign" or merely from my thoughts?

      I remember most of dream clearly all day long, so none of my dreams are fuzzy, so I can't tell if a dream is from allam/sign as clear dreams are from allah, but fuzzy are from shaytan/thoughts.

      • Asalamualaykum Tala,

        I can give you my advice while we wait for Mayameen to answer your question, Inshallah.

        If you feel your dreams are related to your constant thoughts throughout the day or you are confused as to whether or not they are, then you ought to keep your mind occupied and focused on action-oriented activities. Cooking, studying/researching something other than your dream content, exercising, taking care of your pets...all of these things will keep you occupied. Things like daydreaming or sitting idle in front of the television, where your mind tends to wander, should be avoided.

        Then, if you still have these dreams, you have the answer to your question and might look into the "signs" option and see if you can consult with someone who has Islamic knowledge of dream interpretation.

        Just my two cents. May your dreams be beautiful and comforting.



        • Thank you for your advice. Much appreciated!

          I didn’t have bad dreams, but worried that because I keep having these thoughts, I’ll actually end up having a dream that is related to my thoughts.

          I will try my best to stay busy and relaxed and avoided thinking about them.

          • Tala,

            Sounds like a good plan! Let's see if you still have these dreams even after staying busy. 🙂



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